A Satisfied Mind

Today's question follows on from yesterday's.  It's similar, but there is an important difference – the focus is on the present rather than the future. 

Rather than think about our legacy after we've gone, how 'bout now?

What do you want to be known for now?

Is what you're doing aligned with that, in service of that?

So many questions. 

Enjoy asking and answering this one with friends and loved ones and the conversation that follows.

My family and friends celebrated the anniversary of Edna May's passing today, 13 years ago she took a bow before heading to the after party to dance the night away. We celebrated her life with some rituals that have become tradition and I reflected on the impact she had on me throughout my life.

It got me thinking about impact, legacy and what I'd like to be remembered for. And not after I'm gone, but more importantly – while I'm here. What do I want to be known and remembered for? To some degree I think we can influence that and a lot of that is out of our control, but it's important to at least be aware of the impact and legacy we're crating now.

How about you, what do you want to be remembered for? 

For the past few months my Dad and I have headed down to the beach at 5pm on Friday afternoons for a debrief. We'd chat about the week over a beer and a bag of chips and we'd connect. 

It was a precious time. 

It was a one-off event that became a tradition for us. I missed doing that this Friday but when I called Dad to see how his week was and debrief over the phone – he was at the beach with Mum, continuing the tradition. It was so beautiful to witness them evolving and sharing this tradition – it had evolved and changed with the times and circumstances.  

These rituals and traditions are so important to me. How about you? What's a ritual or tradition that's important to you? Is it something you've established, or is it one you've inherited? 

I'd love to hear about it, how it came about and what it means to you. 

Home. 

What does it mean for you? 

Is it a place, a person, a context, a time, a feeling? It's been fascinating to reflect on this over the past few months and redefine or at least question what home means. 

I'd love to hear what home means for you?

We receive plenty of feedback and advice throughout the day – from others, and even from ourselves. We have to be selective with regards to what advice we take on board, for as well intentioned as some of it may be, it's not always what we need to hear. 

I wonder what advice your future self would give you, assuming you've learned, grown, evolved and become a better person as a result of whatever it is you're currently experiencing. What advice would that version of yourself give you now, that might help put things into perspective?

Before 2020 went ahead and 2020'd everyone, there was a lot of  speculation about 'The Future of Work' – what that would look like, what skills would be required and how we might prepare for it. 

Then everything changed, especially work and our priorities. 

I acknowledge that at this time there are too many people who simply either don't have a job, any job, or the opportunity to choose what kind of work they're doing. 

But we can dream, and this question is an invitation to dream and indulge a little.  If you've survived 2020 so far, you deserve at least that.

Good Morning!

It feels like there's not been a lot to look forward to lately, so much doomscrolling and negativity bias. Sure, we have plenty to fix, and there is plenty to look forward to also.

What are you looking forward to?

I get amped just thinking about this, talking about this, sharing the good vibes and all the things we have to be grateful for, to look forward to, the things we're hoping go bring to life. 

It feels good to talk about these things. 

And feeling good is a good thing, let's do more of that eh?

Have an awesome day, dreaming. 

Good Morning.

Forgiveness is an exercise in compassion, for yourself. It's a conscious and deliberate letting go of resentment that may be harming you emotionally, psychologically and even physiologically. 

It's not admitting defeat or surrender, nor does it condone what happened. Instead, it can be a liberating experience where you get to choose what to let go and  leave behind. 

It may be someone else you need to forgive, it may be yourself. 

This question may trigger some trauma, please listen with caution.

Good Morning.

This is a big one, an important question. In this episode I talk about the difference between what matters to you and what you value. The point being, that it's not what we say we value but what we do and whether values and behaviours are aligned. 

There is a second part to this question which I also dig into further in this episode. I'd love for you to have a listen and let me know what comes up for you as a result of these questions. 

These are important questions to ask and conversations to have, especially with those people that matter most to you.

Sending you lotsa love with this one. 

Good Morning!

You're going to do plenty of things today. Why not make one of them really matter by doing something courageous?

Could be big, could be small, could be courageous.

It'll most likely take some vulnerability. It most likely won't be easy.

And it will almost certainly be worth it.

I mentioned Alexandra Franzen in this episode, check out her work and writing here.