In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Darcy Mittelstaedt, an adult adoptee originally from Korea, and adopted into a dysfunctional family in Nebraska at age 2. Once she came out of the fog, as they say in adoption-land, and came to terms with her relinquishment trauma and chaotic adoptive family life, she turned toward her adoption agency. She now helps inform the adoption agency’s families about relinquishment trauma and the struggles that interculturally adopted people have. Hers is a story of resilience and hope that I’m sure everyone, whether or not you are affected by adoption personally, will appreciate hearing.

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RESOURCES:

Darcy’s information:

• Darcy’s email: [email protected]
• Darcy’s Facebook: www.facebook.com/DarcyMittelstaedt
• Darcy’s Instagram: www.instagram.com/dmittelstaedt/
• Darcy’s Twitter: @djmittelstaedt

Other resources mentioned in this episode:

• Dylan International - https://www.dillonadopt.com/
• Our new Adoptive Parents support group, APtitude: safehomefamilies.com/APtitude

Other Resources:

• Other Parents Like Me -  https://www.facebook.com/other.parents.like.me
• Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents of Addicted Teens: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/
• Find a Tele-Therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling

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Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson

Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao

Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson

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TIME STAMPS:

1:50 Darcy’s difficult childhood story

5:00 Darcy’s parent’s controlling style

7:49 Food control

10:33 The impact of Darcy’s parents’ divorce

12:14 The end of the road for Darcy

15:45 The family that rescued Darcy

18:05 Darcy’s compliant temperament and the role of the church

24:58 Darcy’s job at Boys Town

27:01 How Darcy collaborates with her adoption agency

32:15 Growing up as an Asian in a Nebraska farmtown

39:58 The importance of mirroring for adoptees

44:58 Hope for anyone who grew up in a dysfunctional family

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