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Feeling At Home, by Ifat Eckstein

A chapter from the upcoming book, What Sustains Me.

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With more than 20 years experience of working as a couple & family therapist, for the last 10 years I enjoy bringing the world of FOT to the therapeutic space, giving workshops, teaching various courses and coordinating workshops. My desire is to bring an awareness of our interconnectedness through the felt sense, to bring back our sense of Oneness, our shared journey in this life. This process involves writing as a channel of expression. Through it I explore and try to find ways to bring this expanded perspective to daily life, to bring us back to our natural roots.

To all these endeavors I bring experience and insight from couple and family therapy, group leading and teaching, my meetings with patients and colleagues. Inspired by the worlds of Judaism, Buddhism, the philosophy behind Focusing, Indigenous traditions and more, my personal journey and professional work is nourished and enriched.

Published December 2015

In this conversation, we explore what it is that predisposes us to experiencing a sense of shared connection in a group, and relate it to the mammalian brain, and the synchronization of mammals.

About Roberto Larios Aguilar: Originally he was a Medical Doctor in the area of General Surgery, he quit and, as he began to feel the ‘lack of connection’ with other people, that reason and his own struggles made him began a Masters degree in Psychotherapy. There he was immediately attracted to the experiential theory of E. Gendlin. He is a certified Focusing Trainer and Wholebody Focusing coordinator. He loves mountain climbing and long remote trekkings. Actually he devotes his time to the clinical practice in the area of experiential psychotherapy, and recently very interesed in exploring “the shared Field” and the role of Wholebody Focusing, Touch and Consciousness in healing physical and emotional issues.

Published November 2015

In this conversation, we explore what it is that predisposes us to experiencing a sense of shared connection in a group, and relate it to the mammalian brain, and the synchronization of mammals.

About Roberto Larios Aguilar: Originally he was a Medical Doctor in the area of General Surgery, he quit and, as he began to feel the ‘lack of connection’ with other people, that reason and his own struggles made him began a Masters degree in Psychotherapy. There he was immediately attracted to the experiential theory of E. Gendlin. He is a certified Focusing Trainer and Wholebody Focusing coordinator. He loves mountain climbing and long remote trekkings. Actually he devotes his time to the clinical practice in the area of experiential psychotherapy, and recently very interesed in exploring “the shared Field” and the role of Wholebody Focusing, Touch and Consciousness in healing physical and emotional issues.

Published November 2015

Michelle Lee Weldon blends Yoga, Psychotherapy and Neurosculpting® to help her clients create sustainable change by re-wiring new patterns and habits into their daily routines.  She is a guest lecturer in several Yoga Teacher Trainings across the country, a national presenter in the field of mindfulness and is the co-creator of Neurosculpting® Yoga. In addition to teaching yoga classes and providing individual coaching and psychotherapy sessions, Michelle provides professional mentorship to therapists and coaches interested in creating a successful practice integrating yoga, meditation and psychotherapy.

Michelle is a Licensed Professional Counselor, an Experienced Registered Yoga Teacher and a Certified Neurosculpting Fellow based in Denver, Colorado.  In her spare time she dabbles in social entrepreneurship and writing and loves the ocean, world travel and being generally ridiculous. See her website.

Published November 2015

How can we capture the shared implicit? Certainly not by analyzing it to death. Poetry and music can help us transmit the experience of the ineffable. We let ourselves experience whatever resonance the melody and words have for us. It touches something in us, and the experience we have of it is very personal.

At a conference, several of us presented a panel. We wanted to communicate experientially what we called “Shared Field”. So we started with a song – Suzanne, by Leonard Cohen.

Now, it is on this web page you’re reading (recording by Bruce Nayowith). As you listen to it, you may remember that we put it there to give you a sense of what we mean by “shared field”. Or you may be carried away by your own associations with the music and the words. Or…

In other words, what happens here is not perfectly clear communication, in the sense that copying a digital file is a way to perfectly transfer information from one support to another. The implicit field where this communication takes place is more nebulous. It is at the same time inefficient in achieving perfect clarity and amazingly enriched by each experience.

Now Suzanne takes your hand and she leads you to the river,

She is wearing rags and feathers from Salvation Army counters

And the sun pours down like honey on our lady of the harbor,

And she shows you where to look among the garbage and the flowers,

There are heroes in the seaweed, there are children in the morning,

They are leaning out for love and they will lean that way forever,

While Suzanne holds the mirror.

And you want to travel with her,

And you want to travel blind,

And you know that you can trust her,

For she’s touched your perfect body with her mind.

How can we capture the shared implicit? Certainly not by analyzing it to death. Poetry and music can help us transmit the experience of the ineffable. We let ourselves experience whatever resonance the melody and words have for us. It touches something in us, and the experience we have of it is very personal.

At a conference, several of us presented a panel. We wanted to communicate experientially what we called “Shared Field”. So we started with a song – Suzanne, by Leonard Cohen.

Now, it is on this web page you’re reading (recording by Bruce Nayowith). As you listen to it, you may remember that we put it there to give you a sense of what we mean by “shared field”. Or you may be carried away by your own associations with the music and the words. Or…

In other words, what happens here is not perfectly clear communication, in the sense that copying a digital file is a way to perfectly transfer information from one support to another. The implicit field where this communication takes place is more nebulous. It is at the same time inefficient in achieving perfect clarity and amazingly enriched by each experience.

Now Suzanne takes your hand and she leads you to the river,

She is wearing rags and feathers from Salvation Army counters

And the sun pours down like honey on our lady of the harbor,

And she shows you where to look among the garbage and the flowers,

There are heroes in the seaweed, there are children in the morning,

They are leaning out for love and they will lean that way forever,

While Suzanne holds the mirror.

And you want to travel with her,

And you want to travel blind,

And you know that you can trust her,

For she’s touched your perfect body with her mind.

How can we hear the ineffable, for instance in poetry? Certainly not by analyzing the words, trying very hard to make sense of them. We let ourselves experience whatever resonance the melody and words have for us. It touches something in us, and the experience we have of it is very personal.

At a conference, several of us presented a panel. We wanted to communicate experientially what we called “Shared Field”. So we started with a song – Suzanne, by Leonard Cohen.

Now, it is on this web page you’re reading (recording by Bruce Nayowith). As you listen to it, you may remember that we put it there to give you a sense of what me mean by “shared field”. Or you may be carried away by your own associations with the music and the words. Or…

In other words, what happens here is not perfectly clear communication, in the sense that copying a digital file is a way to perfectly transfer information from one support to another. The implicit field where this communication takes place is more nebulous, at the same time inefficient in achieving perfect clarity, and amazingly enriched by each experience.

Now Suzanne takes your hand and she leads you to the river,

She is wearing rags and feathers from Salvation Army counters

And the sun pours down like honey on our lady of the harbor,

And she shows you where to look among the garbage and the flowers,

There are heroes in the seaweed, there are children in the morning,

They are leaning out for love and they will lean that way forever,

While Suzanne holds the mirror.

And you want to travel with her,

And you want to travel blind,

And you know that you can trust her,

For she’s touched your perfect body with her mind.