In Episode 7 of Actually Sustainable, we're unpacking why being high-functioning doesn't mean you're actually healthy. If you're a high achiever who keeps pushing through on too little sleep, too many responsibilities, and not enough help — this one's for you.

We talk about:

• Why we cling to identities built around overwork and hustle
• How familiar (even unhealthy) patterns feel safer than change
• The "burnout loop" and why some of us unconsciously stay in it
• How ADHD can fuel both overachievement and shame spirals
• A simple "ask why" journaling exercise to find the root of your overworked identity

Remember: being able to do all the things doesn't mean you should — and it certainly doesn't mean you're okay.

Your Host: Rachel Berros-Thorpe PA-C, MSPAS, Grief Educator, Burnout Survivor, Biology ProfessorWebsite: ActuallySustainable.comCalm Under Pressure: How to triage your life to sort the chaos and breathe again: https://www.actuallysustainable.com/calm-under-pressure

Disclaimer: Actually Sustainable is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. All opinions expressed are my own and not affiliated with any of my previous, current, or future employers.

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Episode 6: The ADHD Burnout Loop

In this episode, we dive into why high-achieving women with ADHD are especially prone to burnout — and what you can do about it.

We cover:

• What ADHD actually looks like (hint: it's not just a hyperactive little boy)
• Why ADHD is so often missed or misdiagnosed in women — as anxiety or bipolar type 2
• How dopamine dysregulation affects motivation, time management, and executive functioning
• The creativity superpower that comes with ADHD brains — and the double-edged sword it creates
• The ADHD burnout cycle: why we overcommit, crash, recover, and do it all over again
• Practical tips to break the cycle, including a calendar-first approach and a pause-before-you-sign-up strategy

Resources mentioned:

• Your Brain's Not Broken by Tamara Rosier, PhD https://bookshop.org/a/124527/9780800739423

• Calm Under Pressure: triage your life to sort the chaos and breathe more: https://www.actuallysustainable.com/calm-under-pressure

Your Host: Rachel Berros-Thorpe PA-C, MSPAS, Grief Educator, Burnout Survivor, Biology Professor

Website: ActuallySustainable.com

Calm Under Pressure: How to triage your life to sort the chaos and breathe again: https://www.actuallysustainable.com/calm-under-pressure

This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice. Please seek a qualified professional for individualized care.

All opinions expressed are my own and are not affiliated with any of my previous, current, or former employers.

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Actually Sustainable – Ep. 5: Why You Feel Exhausted Even When You've Rested

Ever taken a "rest" and still felt completely wiped out? You're not imagining it — and it's not laziness. In Episode 5, we break down the neuroscience of why rest doesn't restore you when your nervous system never actually powers down.

We talk about cognitive load, decision fatigue, emotional labor, and how ADHD brains are working overtime even when you think you're doing nothing. Plus, practical ways to reduce the drain — starting with just one thing this week.

In this episode:

• Why your nervous system stays in fight-or-flight even at rest
• Cognitive load & task-switching costs for ADHD brains
• Decision fatigue and how to fight it (Steve Jobs was onto something)
• The Thing One & Thing Two brain metaphor
• One small thing you can automate this week

🎙️ Actually Sustainable is a podcast for high-achieving women who probably have ADHD — with tips, tricks, and science to help you build a life that actually works.

Follow, subscribe, and leave a comment with your best decision-fatigue hack!

Your Host: Rachel Berros-Thorpe PA-C, MSPAS, Grief Educator, Burnout Survivor, Biology ProfessorWebsite: ActuallySustainable.comCalm Under Pressure: How to triage your life to sort the chaos and breathe again: https://www.actuallysustainable.com/calm-under-pressure

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for individualized medical or therapeutic care. All opinions and information expressed are my own and not affiliated with any previous, current, or future employer.

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Episode 4: Productivity Isn't a Personality

Are you your job? Do you measure the value of your day by what you checked off your list? In this episode, we dig into the deeply ingrained belief that our worth is tied to our output — and why that mindset is a fast track to burnout.

In this episode:

• Why high achievers are especially vulnerable to tying self-worth to productivity
• How hustle culture trains us to wear busyness as a badge of honor
• The guilt, anxiety, and emptiness that come from never allowing yourself to rest
• Why "productivity hacks" miss the point of true burnout recovery
• What it actually looks like to separate your identity from your accomplishments

Key takeaway: You are a human being, not a performance review. Your value doesn't decrease when your output does — whether that's due to a life transition, a loss, illness, or simply needing rest. Backing off, recovering, and resting isn't laziness. And often, when you do, you come back more focused and more effective anyway.

You might need to hear this if:

• You feel guilty during downtime or like you have to "earn" rest
• You feel anxious on vacation or when you can't access your work
• Your sense of identity took a hit when your role or capacity changed

This week's reminder: You are a person first. That's enough

Drive by Daniel Pink https://bookshop.org/a/124527/9781594484803

Your Host: Rachel Berros-Thorpe PA-C, MSPAS, Grief Educator, Burnout Survivor, Biology ProfessorWebsite: ActuallySustainable.comCalm Under Pressure: How to triage your life to sort the chaos and breathe again: https://www.actuallysustainable.com/calm-under-pressure

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for individualized medical or therapeutic care. All opinions and information expressed are my own and not affiliated with any previous, current, or future employer.

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Episode 3: Why Rest Won't Work When Your Nervous System Feels Unsafe

Ever wondered why you can take a full nap and still wake up exhausted? In this episode of Actually Sustainable, Rachel breaks down the science behind why rest doesn't actually restore you when your nervous system is stuck in "threat mode."

In this episode:

• Why high-achieving women (especially those with ADHD) struggle to truly rest
• The basics of your sympathetic vs. parasympathetic nervous system — and what a saber-tooth tiger has to do with your inbox
• Why doomscrolling, mental to-do lists, and constant overscheduling keep your body in fight-or-flight
• How your amygdala can't tell the difference between a predator and a full email inbox
• Heart rate variability explained in plain English
• The trapezoidal breathing technique — a simple, anywhere, anytime micro-reset to signal safety to your nervous system

Your homework this week: Notice what's running in the background when you try to rest. Is it actually restful? Then try one small thing to signal safety to your body — start with the breathing technique Rachel walks you through.

Resources mentioned:

• Burnout by Emily & Amelia Nagoski

• https://bookshop.org/a/124527/9781984818324

• The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk
• https://bookshop.org/a/124527/9780143127741
• Polyvagal Theory (books available — Rachel will link them when she's had a chance to read them!)

Your Host: Rachel Berros-Thorpe PA-C, MSPAS, Grief Educator, Burnout Survivor, Biology Professor

Website: ActuallySustainable.com

Calm Under Pressure: How to triage your life to sort the chaos and breathe again: https://www.actuallysustainable.com/calm-under-pressure

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for individualized medical or therapeutic care. All opinions and information expressed are my own and not affiliated with any previous, current, or future employer.

#ActuallySustainable #BurnoutRecovery #ADHDWomen #HighAchievingWomen #GuiltAndRest #RestIsProductive #ADHDPodcast #BurnoutPrevention #ADHD #NervousSystemRegulation #SustainableLiving #WomenWithADHD #MentalHealthPodcast #ADHDAwareness #SlowDown #SelfCompassion #YouTubePodcast #PodcastForWomen #ADHDLife #ChronicBurnout #WorkLifeBalance

Actually Sustainable – Episode: "Why Competent Women Burn Out Quietly"

Episode Summary: Host Rachel — a physician assistant, educator, writer, and proud ADHDer — explores why high-achieving women, especially those with neurodivergence, tend to burn out silently and how society's structures make that almost inevitable.

Topics Covered

• How competence becomes a trap: being praised for reliability leads to an ever-growing pile of expectations
• Gender inequalities that persist in the workplace — pay gaps, leadership representation (only ~33% of business leaders are women; ~7% of Fortune 500 CEOs)
• The "double burden" of outperforming professionally while carrying a disproportionate share of unpaid labor at home
• How neurodivergent women mask their struggles with workarounds (same-color socks, cheap earbuds, etc.) to appear "as competent as they actually are"
• Why competent women don't complain — identity, isolation, and the feeling that no one can help anyway
• Rachel's personal experience with burnout in the ER and continuing to push through without fully breaking down

This Week's Challenge: Look at your own life and honestly ask: Am I maintaining something I could hand off? Am I assuming no one can help — or do I know that from experience? Start acknowledging where these patterns show up for you.

Resources Mentioned

• Article on women earning more higher-level degrees than men since the 1980s https://www.dpeaflcio.org/factsheets/professional-union-women

• Study on gender dynamics and unpaid labor satisfaction https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/2378023120924805
• Amazon earbuds Rachel uses (non-affiliate link): https://a.co/d/07xwXMQG

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Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for individualized mental health or medical advice. Please reach out to a therapist, physician, or other trained provider for personalized care. All opinions and information expressed are my own and not affiliated with any previous, current, or future employer.

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Episode Summary

Host Rachel, a physician assistant, educator, and writer, introduces the Actually Sustainable podcast — a show designed to help high-achieving women, especially those with neurodivergence, build a life that's truly sustainable.

In This Episode

• What the podcast is about and who it's for
• Overview of the year-long series: Awareness → Deconstruction → Rebuilding → Reintegration
• The definition of burnout and why so many of us label ourselves "lazy"
• How society (rooted in Puritan productivity culture) has tied self-worth to output
• Why laziness isn't really a thing — and the science to back it up
• The mental load and "open tabs" of neurodivergent brains
• The difference between shame and guilt (and why shaming yourself doesn't work)
• What mindfulness actually is — explained without the woo-woo
• Your first action step: notice when you call yourself lazy, and identify your invisible mental tasks

Books & Resources Mentioned

• Laziness Does Not Exist by Devon Price
• The Gift of Imperfection by Brené Brown
• Brené Brown's research on shame vs. guilt

Action Steps for This Episode

1. Notice the phrases you use when you berate yourself for being "lazy" — drop them in the comments!
2. Write down the invisible tasks running in the background of your brain — the open tabs draining your energy without being actively useful right now.

Connect & Follow

• Website: actuallysustainable.com
• Free downloads, courses, and newsletter available on the site
• Subscribe/follow on your podcast platform or YouTube
• Leave a review — it helps get this show to others who need it!

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical or mental health care. Please consult a qualified professional for individualized advice. All opinions and information expressed are my own and not affiliated with any previous, current, or future employer.

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An Introduction to the host, Rachel Berros-Thorpe