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In this episode we do discuss the idea that a lot of addictive people suffer from black-and-white thinking and also from judging themselves against other people and pretty much coming up short most of the time. and in this time of sort of forced introspection where we’re probably more of us are on our social media I think it can be really really dangerous to be judging ourselves. so that’s what I wanted to talk about and I hope you come along for the ride! please check out the Facebook page for addicted to people and let me know what you think

Sticking with the idea of things in our lives that caused our life to be unmanageable, I talk about the phenomenon of intermittent reinforcement which you’ll hear is something that I think all people involved with Addicts experience ,waiting for the other shoe to drop, hoping against hope that the good person will be there when you come home versus the drunk person or the person who just lost our money. So I hope that this is helpful and please stay safe and I hope to hear from you. please go to the Facebook addicted to people and let me know what you think and if you have any questions or do you want to share something that would be awesome .

We’re going to take our first foray into step one and talk about how trying to control other people has made our lives miserable. I also talk about why the 12 steps is not a cult tell Violeta to listen to that. Thanks everyone and please go to my Facebook page addicted to people and leave me a message please subscribe whatever that means so that you don’t miss an episode and let me know how you’re liking the podcast.

What does the first step and the serenity prayer have to teach us in this time of such chaos? well it turns out a lot and this is a perfect opportunity to talk about the things that we can control and the things that we can’t. Join me in this overview of the first step it’s certainly not in depth and we will be doing that in the future but for now this is a just in like a prisoner of what the first step is all about. Please stay home. Please stay safe.

I look into the idea that expectations are premeditated resentments. I tell a little bit of my personal struggles with not having expectations and relate it a bit to what’s going on in the world today. Please email me with any of your comments or questions at [email protected]. And please subscribe if you want to make sure that you get notice when there’s a new episode thanks so much and I will talk to you next Monday.

In the third episode we talk about a couple more coping mechanisms of personality traits that seem to appear in a lot of codependent people. number one;the ignoring of what we call red flags ,really big things that should have been a big warning ( danger Will Robinson ). the second one is on the cultural influences that Have created the idea that were somehow responsible for other people. Email me at [email protected] to leave thoughts, questions and adoration!

When we talk about recovery from people it’s not so easy to pin down what that exactly means. It isn’t like quitting just alcohol or your drugs of choice or any specific substance or behavior. And that’s what makes it so tricky so let’s try to figure out what is it that we actually can see that we’re doing so that we can stop doing that.

Addicted to people it’s a weekly podcast dedicated to talking about codependency and recovery from that extremely chaotic and life-threatening condition. I share my personal journey over the last 29 years as well as take questions from the audience. You can find me at speaker but also please send me any questions or comments at my personal email which is [email protected] hope to hear from you.

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