A little bit of not for me ness goes a long long way. 

While there are plenty of us who have no trouble with selfishness others of us struggle to even begin to open the door to wanting anything for ourselves. 

part 2 of a 3 episode cluster on losing faith, this episode explores the impact of not having the belief systems and models of thinking to rely on. and makes parallels to losing a relationship or simply trust in what we think we know. 

Protect yourself, don't trust, don't love too easily and keep your energy for those who deserve it. To be strong, we preach our vulnerability, share our truths, yet we also hold such bile for our counterparts that we hurt ourselves more than we need to, and we never get from the other the change we hope they can make. 

When we seek to help people change, the effort to keep seeing them with 'unconditional positive regard' is more freeing and powerful than we realise. 

This episode is also available as a blog post: https://bnjh.wordpress.com/2020/12/18/unconditional-positive-regard/

Whose opinion of our work matters? is the feedback of our work critical to development or a step in the process we have got lost in?

Much of the time the argument we hear is the second half. 

When we need a new language to understand which side of a line we stand on the lines not drawn all that well. Introversion as Trates is no were like as fixed as it are made out to be and they are not the most helpful boxes to put ourselves in. 

is episode is also available as a blog post: https://bnjh.wordpress.com/2019/12/07/why-your-not-fixed-in-to-introversion-or-extroversion/

A generation and more of self-help teach us we need rags to riches story before we come out as the Victor. Many of us follow an easier path and the story isn't told because it risks being boring not much to tell if we just did the things we were taught and it all turned out okay. 

Can we forgive ourselves for the lack of struggle and seek out just enough challenge continue to grow?

This episode is also available as a blog post: https://bnjh.wordpress.com/2019/12/03/the-school-of-mild-knocks/

Intentionality in our questions, what response are we hoping for? 

This episode is also available as a blog post: https://bnjh.wordpress.com/2019/08/01/bad-questions/

Does who we think of ourselves as affect what we are capable of. 

This episode is also available as a blog post: https://bnjh.wordpress.com/2020/01/23/how-identity-affects-caperbility/