ADHDers have a lot of difficulties adjusting to a world that doesn’t understand them. It’s even worse if the ADHDer doesn’t understand him or herself. Self-esteem tends to plummet. It’s not incidental that one of the first books on ADHD was titled “You mean I’m not Lazy, Crazy or Stupid.” This ls the view that ADHDers tend to develop of themselves. Even if they are finally diagnosed, it’s difficult to change the habit of seeing themselves as defective. I’ll be discussing the need to defend oneself and not accept this negative stereotyping.