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NOOOO!! Not. . . the sex towels!!!

John Gottman, who coined the phrase "the 4 horsemen of relationship apocalypse," has written several books, including Why Marriages Succeed or Fail, and The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. His work did not save my marriage. However it did improve my other relationships. 

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Fancy Jargon:

Metamour (or meta): your sweetie's other sweetheart.

NRE: new relationship energy, aka that time early on where you still think their every quirk is adorable and mostly you are a pain to be around because you are sooooooo in love.

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There's no pirates in this episode. Sorry. But there are a lot of red and yellow flags.

Shout out to the awesome guys who do the Waving The Red Flag podcast! It's got nothing to do with this episode! But I just love them.

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Fancy Jargon:

NRE: New Relationship Energy. This is the wonderful early stage where you are just so drunk on the awesomeness of this person. You're probably missing something and also probably being a pain in the patoot. But OH is it ever fun.

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I kissed a girl and I liked it. Or did I? Did she? WTH just happened here anyway?

Here’s a couple handy articles about comp-het, performative bisexuality, and hegemonic masculinity for those who want a deeper dive:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compulsory_heterosexuality

https://www.bitchmedia.org/post/visibility-performing-bisexuality-katy-perry-lowndes-music-feminism

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hegemonic_masculinity#:~:text=Hegemonic%20masculinity%20is%20defined%20as,ways%20of%20being%20a%20man.

Bad Dragon sex toys is a real website: https://bad-dragon.com/

I am not being paid to mention these guys. I just love their bizarre creations.

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Fun Fact: although I can do a British, Russian, German, or Indian accent, I can not imitate my mom’s accent. This tortures me.

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Peg-Leg Pete is IN THE HOUSE yo.

Shout out to Anita Wagner, in whose MeetUp I posted my first event waaaay back in 2014.

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Fancy Jargon:

I like to make up names for people who are either theoretical/don’t exist, or whose name I don’t want to use for any particular reason.

Esteban: any imaginary date

Svetlana: also any imaginary date

My sincere apologies to anyone out there who is actually named Esteban or Svetlana. I have never met any of you.

Exteban or Svetlanex: any former partner whose name you no longer speak

Although I did name my ex-husband (my wasband) by name a whole bunch for a while there, it’s definitely time to let him rest in peace, and to go forward in peace myself. One thing about polyamory, as The Ferret remarked, is that it’s a small world. If you are the sort of person who trashes their ex, well, everyone can see it and will soon understand that the problem is probably you. So try to be on good terms with your exes, or at least not on terms of open warfare. As Will Smith said, “keep their name out yo mouth.” 

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Divine fire, Old Scratch, racism, rudeness gets the results it truly deserves. It’s Bible time, y’all!


The text I reference is 2 Kings 1.2-1.18. The translation I prefer is the Jewish Theological Seminary translation. I do not currently have a favorite New Testament to recommend, as I have not developed enough expertise in that text to give myself airs just yet. 

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Baby, I need your lovin/Got to have all your lovin/Baby I need your lovin toniiiiightt

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Fancy Jargon:

Not this month. Go look up St. Valentine though. He is not that romantic.

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There's no Robinson Caruso to give you the D on this island. Worst island ever. 

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Not this month.  The Amazon, for new folks, is my boyfriend John's other girlfriend. I adore her.

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John & I look back and forward together. And make jokes.

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Fancy Jargon: 

"Shmuel" is the original Hebrew pronunciation of the name "Samuel."

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This week is pretty heavy. Bear with me. Death is a door we all have to pass through eventually.



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Fancy Jargon: 

Polycule, meaning the extended family unit of polyamorous relationships including your own partners, their partners, the partners of those partners, and so forth. Obviously this includes fur babies too.

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We have met the enemy, and he is us.

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Fancy Jargon:

Polycule: a portmanteau of “polyamory” and “molecule,” intended to express the idea of a larger family/romantic unit. This may take any number of configurations and does not necessarily mean that all the members of the polycule are all romantically involved with each other.

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