Two weeks ago I shared an important post and podcast episode on encouraging your husband to lead with love. I got a ton of great feedback on this episode and a ton of new questions about encouraging your husband to lead. 

I am certainly not an expert on this topic and still have a long way to go when it comes to encouraging my husband and learning how to be more respectful and loving towards my husband. But we got one question in particular that Jason and I both felt like we could identify with. 

So I asked Jason to join me this week to chat about leading and how wives can encourage their husbands. I learned a lot too from asking him these questions. 

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When you want your husband to lead 

We filmed this podcast episode with two goals in mind: 1) to help you as a wife better understand your laid back husband and 2) to hopefully give your husband a few resources and ideas for leading his family. We decided to address this topic because we got this question from a reader last week: 

"I do jump in at times like you said and it has been a difficult change for me too. Your husband sounds like mine in personality and I sound like you. When we are coming together to discuss things I need to bring up I do feel like I give him space and time to think and discuss but he often doesn't have an opinion or it's very hard to get a response from him. It makes me very frustrated. Often he doesn't know what we should do and will just automatically go with what I suggested where I am looking for more of a discussion. Particularly in the realm of day to day parenting which is the bulk of what I come to him to discuss. I am wanting him to lead. How do I encourage this? Are there any books, blogs, or resources for either my husband or myself to help in this?"

This is struggle that Jason and I have encountered in our marriage because he is very laid back and easy going and I take charge and lead very easily. We've had to learn how to bring our gifts together so that I am still bringing my own gifts to our marriage but also encouraging him to lead. 

Head up and listen to the full podcast episode to hear our discussion. But here's basically what we discussed: 

What are the struggles of a laid back personality? 

How do you handle being a more laid back person with the fact that God has called you to lead your family? 

"It's very interesting. When it comes to other areas of my life, such as work and business, it was easy for me to take leadership roles in those situations. When no one else was taking initiative, I knew I had to step up and fill that role. But that role has never been a natural thing for me inside the home. 

So being a leader in the home is something I've had to do a lot of study about and prayer in because it doesn't necessarily come easily to me. Being the spiritual leader in the home is something I have to be very intentional about because by my own nature, I won't do this automatically. 

And because you tend to do things well and I have a high level of trust in you, it's easy for me to just jump on board with what you want to do instead of taking the initiative myself." 

So how do you motivate yourself to step up and lead? 

God works in and through our personalities, but as a husband, you are also called to lead your family. So with knowing how your personality is and the fact that you are supposed to lead your family, what do you tell yourself to get motivated in that area?