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In this final episode of our series on navigating conflict, we focus on a fundamental relationship: the teacher and the disciple. Jesus is our greatest teacher. And as his disciples, we are blessed with two gifts that will serve us on all occasions (conflict or otherwise): hope and humility.

Curtis Chang (Good Faith podcast, The After Party) joins us this week to share about radically recentering ourselves on Jesus and its impact on navigating healthy conflict.

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If there was a formula that could help you better navigate difficult conversations and hot button issues, would you use it?

Professor Seth Freeman, a globally recognized expert in negotiation and conflict management, believes that formula exists. And it comes in the form of three little words: Paraphrase. Praise. Probe. The simple application of these words has the potential to prevent heated arguments and, instead, promote peacemaking and relationship building.

This week, we revisit our conversation with Professor Seth Freeman as we consider Paraphrase, Praise, Probe as another helpful tool for navigating conflict.

RESOURCES

• Professor Freeman's Article in Christianity Today: How to Talk About God and Politics in Polarized Times
• Professor Freeman's Website

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• BONUS: Examples of Paraphrase/Praise/Probe (Apple, Spotify)

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The conclusion of our conversation with Brent Campbell, an InterVarsity alumnus who chose to forgive the men who hurled racist insults and death threats at him while on campus one day. In this episode, Brent shares how it was possible for him to choose the path of forgiveness.

(In case you missed it, catch the first part of Brent's story on Apple or Spotify.)

NOTE: Please be aware that this and the previous episode are marked "explicit". The story included here is uncensored and contains racist and vulgar language, threats of physical violence and death, and contemplated suicide. Please listen to the previous episode intro to hear more about why these elements were left in and be thoughtful about where and when you listen. Thank you.

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• E135: Navigating Conflict - Love Your Enemy... But How? (Apple, Spotify)
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  • E8: Kyle Campbell and Risky Corporate Evangelism (Apple, Spotify)

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From the safety of your own quiet time or small group Bible study, affirming Jesus' command to "love your enemies" is obviously the correct choice. Right? But what would you do if you actually had the chance to make a real-life enemy pay for the ways they'd wronged you?

Our guest this week, Brent Campbell, was faced with this exact decision. One day, during a summer workout for track, Brent was harassed by a group of fellow university students. After quietly absorbing the barrage of racist insults and death threats, Brent was left to decide... "How should I respond?" His decision might surprise you.

NOTE: Please be aware that this and the following episodes are marked "explicit". The story included here is uncensored and contains racist and vulgar language, threats of physical violence and death, and contemplated suicide. Please listen to the episode intro to hear more about why these elements were left in and be thoughtful about where and when you listen. Thank you.

988 Lifeline

• If you or someone you know is struggling with suicidal ideation or self-harm, please call or text 988 immediately to get in touch with the national suicide and crisis lifeline.
• 988 Lifeline Website

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• E135: Navigating Conflict - Love Your Enemy... But How? (Apple, Spotify)

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Are we in conflict or are we enemies?

How can I tell the difference between someone I'm in conflict with and someone who's an enemy? As a Christian, can I even have enemies? If so, how do I treat them? 

Many of these questions are pretty easy to answer from Scripture. Where things get difficult, though, is realizing how badly I need to be transformed to be able to follow through. This week, our guest Michele Arndt (pastor, worship leader) helps us gain a better understanding of the extraordinarily high standard Jesus sets when he says, "Love your enemies."

Resources

• Michele's Substack
• Michele's Facebook
• How to Have an Enemy - Bixler
• Divine Conspiracy - Willard
• Matt Tebbe's Substack

RELATED EPISODE(S)

• E129:  Navigating Conflict - A Posture of Empathy & Respect (Apple, Spotify)

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When it comes to healthy conflict, is there something better than being right?

Our guest, Rick Mattson would say, "Yes!" Our concept of right and wrong has a tendency to change with culture, experience, and context. As a result, we need a firmer foundation. Among other qualities, Rick recommends truth and wisdom as trustworthy alternatives to the goal of "being right".

MORE FROM RICK

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• Rick’s books

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• E133: Can We Both Be Right? (Apple, Spotify)

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Conflict = 1 right answer + 1 wrong answer... Right?

Isn't this usually the assumption we make? When it comes to moments of conflict, one of us is right and one of us is wrong. But is that true?This week, author, apologist, and philosopher, Rick Mattson, helps us sort through whether or not we can both be right... even when we disagree. 

MORE FROM RICK

• Rick’s Website & Blog
• Rick’s books

RELATED EPISODE(S)

• E131: What If I'm Wrong? (Apple or Spotify)
• E132: What If I'm Wrong? (Pt 2) (Apple or Spotify)

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This week, we continue our conversation with Jonna Fantz as she helps us answer the question, "What if I'm wrong?" Today, we discuss a healthy posture for exploring new ideas and what to do when we're struggling to find an acceptable alternative position.

If you didn't catch the first half of our conversation, give it a listen on Apple or Spotify.

REV. JONNA FANTZ

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I think I might be wrong... What do I do?

As if the reality of inevitably facing conflict isn't concerning enough, what about the times when I realize that the position I hold isn't correct? How do I know when I'm wrong and what do I do about it? This week, Rev. Jonna Fantz shares a few indicators that help us know when it might be time to change our stance on an issue. And, once we've come to that conclusion, what our next steps should be in changing our mind.

REV. JONNA FANTZ

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• E129: Navigating Conflict - A Posture of Empathy & Respect (Apple, Spotify)
• E130: Navigating Conflict - The Approaching Differences Diagram (Apple, Spotify)

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Is it wrong to feel dissonance? How do I keep from shutting down during conflict?

Dissonance is both natural and uncomfortable. And even though we usually don't want to experience it, we will. Thankfully, this week's guest is here to help. On this episode, InterVarsity staff and co-host of the popular Faith & Chai podcast, Caroline Lancaster, introduces us to the Approaching Differences Diagram; a tool designed to promote self-awareness and healthy openness during moments of dissonance and conflict.

RESOURCES FROM CAROLINE

• The Approaching Differences Diagram
• Buy the Approaching Differences Diagram Bookmark
• Free Course: Ministering Across Cultures
• Faith & Chai (Apple, Spotify)

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• E129:  Navigating Conflict - A Posture of Empathy & Respect (Apple, Spotify)

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