In this raw and deeply honest conversation, I’m joined by Surekha from Whole Health Healing to talk about the reality of narcissistic abuse, coercive control and the slow erosion of your identity.

We explore how gaslighting makes you question your own memory, why trauma bonds are so difficult to break, and what it really takes to leave when fear, shame and hope have become tangled together.

Surekha shares her experience of finding the courage to choose herself, reclaim her voice and rebuild her life after emotional abuse.

This episode is for every woman who has ever questioned her reality, blamed herself for someone else’s behaviour or wondered why she couldn’t “just leave.”

You were never weak. You were surviving.

In this episode, we discuss:

• The early signs of narcissistic abuse • Gaslighting and losing trust in yourself • Coercive control behind closed doors • Why trauma bonds feel so powerful • The reality of trying to leave • Rebuilding your identity after abuse • Learning to trust your intuition again • Turning survival into purpose

Content note: This episode contains discussions of narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, coercive control and trauma. Please listen with care and pause if you need to.

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Follow Surekha: @whole.healthhealing

Support and resources

If anything discussed in this episode feels familiar, please know that support is available. You do not have to wait until you are ready to leave to ask for help.

National Domestic Abuse Helpline Free and confidential support, 24 hours a day. Call 0808 2000 247 or access online support at nationaldahelpline.org.uk⁠.

Women’s Aid Information about domestic abuse, safety planning and local support services. Visit womensaid.org.uk/information-support⁠.

Rights of Women Free, confidential legal advice for women in England and Wales on domestic abuse, separation, children, finances and family law. Visit rightsofwomen.org.uk⁠.

If you are in immediate danger, call 999. If you are calling from a mobile and cannot speak, listen to the operator’s instructions and, when prompted, press 55 to be connected to the police through the Silent Solution system. Learn more about the Silent Solution⁠.

If you believe your phone or internet use may be monitored, use a safe device belonging to someone you trust where possible and read Women’s Aid guidance on covering your tracks online⁠.

🔥 Safe to Rise opens 10th December.

A monthly identity + beauty + power space for the woman who has carried herself alone for years, not because she wanted to...but because no one ever matched her depth until now...

If your body is pulling you in, trust it.

Your rise starts here.

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In this episode, we go into one of the biggest reasons women stay stuck in the same patterns, the same emotions, the same identity… even when they’re doing “the work.”

Your environment.

Not just your home but the energetic field you live inside every single day.

The conversations, the atmosphere, the tone of your mornings, the pressure you carry, the chaos, the silence, the expectations… all of it shapes your identity more than motivation ever could.

This episode explores:

• How your environment becomes a karmic loop, pulling you back into old versions of you
• Why you keep repeating the same emotional patterns even after healing
• What your nervous system is actually responding to (and why it’s not your fault)
• Subtle environmental cues that lower your “identity thermostat”
• How being surrounded by the wrong energy blocks visibility, confidence, and self-expression
• Why your external environment mirrors your internal world
• The moment you realise you’re not failing you’re absorbing
• How to begin shifting your environment so it supports your rise instead of sabotaging it

This is the episode you need if:

• You’ve been feeling “off”
• You’re overwhelmed or easily drained
• You keep slipping back into old habits
• You feel ready to evolve but something keeps pulling you back
• You’re craving clarity, peace, and consistency
• You’re tired of living in survival mode
• You’re ready to step into the woman your soul has been asking you to become

You don’t break karmic cycles with force.

You break them by changing the environment that taught those cycles to you.

✨ Listen now and let it activate your next level

If this episode hits you, message me, I love hearing what lands for you. 💚🐆

Resources to Magnify Your Glow-Up

If you’ve been listening and something in you knows it’s time to rise...here are some of my favourite tools I’ve created to help you get there, gently but powerfully.

↔ **The Identity Gap Free Guide If you feel caught between the old you and the version you’re growing into, this will land. It helps you understand why you feel stuck in transition — and how to bridge the gap. 👉 Get it here

⚡ **Cycle Breaker’s Guide to the Fear of Being Seen Free Guide For the woman who knows she’s meant for more but still hides when it’s time to shine. This guide helps you understand the fear underneath visibility and how to move through it safely. 👉 Download it here

🌸 Self-Discovery Toolkit A workbook for when you’re ready to come home to yourself. It helps you get clear on who you are, what you want, and how to lead from your power again. 👉 Explore it here

💫 1:1 Frequency Flip Session A deep, personal breakthrough session with me, to clear energetic blocks, realign your frequency, and reconnect with your next-level self (in life or business). 👉 Book your session

📱 Let’s stay connected Find me on Instagram → @alignandshinecoach Come say hi...I love hearing what’s shifting for you after each episode.

Resources to Magnify Your Glow-Up

If you’ve been listening and something in you knows it’s time to rise...here are some of my favourite tools I’ve created to help you get there, gently but powerfully.

↔ **The Identity Gap Free Guide If you feel caught between the old you and the version you’re growing into, this will land. It helps you understand why you feel stuck in transition — and how to bridge the gap. 👉 Get it here

⚡ **Cycle Breaker’s Guide to the Fear of Being Seen Free Guide For the woman who knows she’s meant for more but still hides when it’s time to shine. This guide helps you understand the fear underneath visibility and how to move through it safely. 👉 Download it here

🌸 Self-Discovery Toolkit A workbook for when you’re ready to come home to yourself. It helps you get clear on who you are, what you want, and how to lead from your power again. 👉 Explore it here

💫 1:1 Frequency Flip Session A deep, personal breakthrough session with me, to clear energetic blocks, realign your frequency, and reconnect with your next-level self (in life or business). 👉 Book your session

📱 Let’s stay connected Find me on Instagram → @alignandshinecoach Come say hi...I love hearing what’s shifting for you after each episode.

You think moisturiser is just skincare? Think again!!

In this episode, we go deep into the Moisturiser Theory, the very idea that every time you put yourself first in the smallest ways, you’re retraining your brain to recognise your own worth.

Because when you choose to care for yourself, the part of your brain that filters what you notice, starts showing you more proof that you matter. 🧠 It’s neuroscience.

We’ll talk about why doing your skincare, making your bed, or lighting a candle isn’t “basic”...it’s energetic conditioning. It’s how your body learns that safety and pleasure can coexist. It’s how your nervous system starts to associate calm with power instead of guilt.

Resources to Magnify Your Glow-Up

If you’ve been listening and something in you knows it’s time to rise...here are some of my favourite tools I’ve created to help you get there, gently but powerfully.

↔ The Identity Gap **Free Guide If you feel caught between the old you and the version you’re growing into, this will land. It helps you understand why you feel stuck in transition — and how to bridge the gap. 👉 Get it here

⚡ Cycle Breaker’s Guide to the Fear of Being Seen **Free Guide For the woman who knows she’s meant for more but still hides when it’s time to shine. This guide helps you understand the fear underneath visibility and how to move through it safely. 👉 Download it here

🌸 Self-Discovery Toolkit A workbook for when you’re ready to come home to yourself. It helps you get clear on who you are, what you want, and how to lead from your power again. 👉 Explore it here

💫 1:1 Frequency Flip Session A deep, personal breakthrough session with me, to clear energetic blocks, realign your frequency, and reconnect with your next-level self (in life or business). 👉 Book your session

📱 Let’s stay connected Find me on Instagram → @alignandshinecoach Come say hi...I love hearing what’s shifting for you after each episode.

Hello guys

In the last episode of this season we are talking about the psychology of mean people.

Key takeaways include:

• How people project their insecurities outwards
• Tunnel vision mindsets
• A lack of empathy, and how their past experiences have shut off part of their nervous system
• How perspective will save you
• Some energy protection and cleansing hacks

Tune in to learn how these insights can help you navigate the gym with confidence and clarity, making your fitness journey more fulfilling.

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Please subscribe, Rate and Review over on apple podcast to help support the show!

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FREE RESOURCES FOR YOU:

1. Download a free Self discovery workbook here: https://alwaysblooming.uk/collections/align-and-shine/Manifest

We've got this guys!

Tinisha

Your host, life coach, entrepreneur, manifestation expert, medium and light worker x

Hello guys

It another week - this week something I am passionate about, and aren't we all? MONEY.

Particularity how to use money to invest in a better version of you.

We talk:

• Why we are still holding onto money trauma from our ancestors.
• Emotional spending and money hoarding
• Girl maths, make it make sense...
• The ROI of Joy
• Shifting spending habits to benefit the future you

Hello guys

In this episode, we talk about transforming gym intimidation into empowerment by seeing the gym as a space of opportunity and staying connected to your personal fitness motivations. Key takeaways include:

• Opportunity Mindset: How viewing the gym as a space filled with opportunities can shift your perspective and reduce intimidation.
• Personal Motivations: The importance of anchoring your gym routine in personal 'whys' to maintain motivation and focus.
• Community and Support: Discovering the potential for camaraderie and support within the gym environment.
• Goal Alignment: Ensuring your fitness goals are in harmony with your broader life values for more meaningful progress.
• Celebrating Progress: The significance of recognizing and celebrating every step forward in your fitness journey.

Tune in to learn how these insights can help you navigate the gym with confidence and clarity, making your fitness journey more fulfilling.

SUPPORT THE SHOW

Please subscribe, Rate and Review over on apple podcast to help support the show!

Follow me on Instagram @alignandshinecoach for regular Life inspiration and updates

FREE RESOURCES FOR YOU:

1. Download a free Self discovery workbook here: https://alwaysblooming.uk/collections/align-and-shine/Manifest

We've got this guys!

Tinisha

Your host, life coach, entrepreneur, manifestation expert, medium and light worker x

Hey Guys, as we embrace the spirit of Valentine's Day, let's explore the magical journey of quantum jumping to manifest 'a better love' we yearn for.

We talk:

1. How to manifest a better love by updating personal beliefs.
2. That your level of self-worth sets the stage for love.
3. How to change mindset to change love life.
4. Small habits reflect desired love.
5. Heal your past to attract new love.

SUPPORT THE SHOW

Please subscribe, Rate and Review over on apple podcast to help support the show!

Follow me @alignandshinecoach for updates

FREE RESOURCES FOR YOU:

1. Belief Bridging Technique to help you heal:
2. Download a free Self discovery workbook here: https://alwaysblooming.uk/collections/align-and-shine/Manifest

We've got this guys!

Tinisha

Your host, life coach, entrepreneur, manifestation expert, medium and light worker x