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5 Toxic Relationship Signs - Sure Ways to Tell

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Ever find yourself stuck in a toxic relationship? Read on, there’s help. Toxic relationships happen to a lot of people. Relationships start so excitingly. Over time, they can turn toxic. Often without you even really realizing it. In this week's episode, Colette Lori Gallagher talks about the signs of a toxic relationship.

Part One of ‘5 Toxic Relationship Signs - Sure Ways to Tell’

Are you in a toxic relationship, yet you think you're still in love? Feel unable to walk away? The first sign of a toxic relationship is they make you feel they're the only ones who will love you. They make you feel like you're lucky to be with them. Even though you don't really feel good around them.

Sometimes you bring up something, maybe you're upset about something, and they tell you how crazy you are. It's not a good thing if you are feeling unworthy of love from the person that you are with.

“It's not a healthy relationship if they bring out the worst in you.” – Colette Gallagher (05:01-05:04)

The second sign is that they laugh at you. They belittle you and make fun of you. You feel like there's something wrong with you when you're around them. They're not lifting you, not encouraging you, and not supporting you. It doesn't have to be all the time, even just once in a while is fine. But you should be with someone who compliments you. Who loves you just the way you are.

Part Two of ‘5 Toxic Relationship Signs - Sure Ways to Tell’

The third sign that you're in a toxic relationship is they don't accept your feelings. They're not emotionally supportive. Maybe sometimes you're with your partner, feeling great. Out of nowhere, they're mean. You have to ask yourself if that's what you want in life.

Do you always want to wonder how your partner feels about you? Or do you want someone who entirely loves and accepts you for who you are? No one is perfect, but there's a vast difference between a gentle suggestion and someone making you feel like you're wrong all the time.

“There is a way to align and be confident in yourself to have that healthy relationship that you know is possible.” – Colette Gallagher (10:03-10:13)

The fourth sign you're in a toxic relationship is they bring out the worst in you. If you're looking through their things because of trust issues, then they're not bringing out the best in you. Relationship fights are normal. But if you're being triggered all the time, that's something you need to pay attention to. Take a break, step back, and realign.

The fifth and final sign is they try to control you. This can be through manipulation. Maybe they say your friends are bad for you. Maybe they separate you from people you love. They question all of your relationships. In a relationship, you should feel free. You shouldn't feel like you have to limit yourself or control yourself because you're with somebody.

Maybe you didn't realize it was a toxic relationship. You choose to forgive and forget when something terrible happened. You must recognize that the cycle of drama and trauma needs to be broken. You think things are going to be different next time. But they're not different.

You didn't heal that part of you. The one that said you're not enough. That thinks that you're not worthy of love. The time is now. Protect yourself by recognizing toxic behaviors. There is a way to align and become confident in yourself. To have that healthy relationship that you know is possible.

Are you in need of a positive relationship coach who can help guide you in the right direction? In this week's episode, Colette Gallagher shares advice on how you can leave an emotionally abusive relationship whether you're about to leave, you've already left, or you're stuck in-between feeling terrible about the whole thing.

Part One of ‘How to Leave an Emotionally Abusive Relationship’

Everybody goes through a lot of pains and trials that sometimes those things make it hard for us to identify whether something is normal or not. You don't have to hold on to the wrong relationships. You deserve the best love with the right person, at the right time. If you want something to last forever, you can't keep brushing the unhealthy areas of that particular relationship with hopes that it will work out.

And if you're in a real emotionally abusive relationship, you must actively do something to get out of that relationship. Many times, you hope the person's going to change, or they're going to see your value suddenly, or they're going to realize that they can't live without us and change. But the reality is they probably won't. There's a slight chance, but it's not worth your happiness and your life to stay and find out. It's much better to walk away. Surround yourself with people who appreciate you rather than hanging out with those that don't see your value. It's great to be around people who are caring and loving.

Tune into the full episode for more... 

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Have you been spending the last few weeks or months fighting with your partner? Arguments commonly occur, but if they keep happening without any resolution, your relationship is not healthy anymore. It may be possibly getting closer to the end. There are effective strategies that work to get your partnership back on track. In this week's episode, Colette Gallagher talks about the things you can do if there's a rough patch in your relationship.

Part One of ‘What to Do If There’s a Rough Patch in Your Relationship’

This happens with pretty much every couple. You're dating and things that had been going well. And for the most part, you're working through challenges. Then slowly but surely, things start to go a little downhill, and then the fear begins to set in. If this is happening to you, you're not alone. It's common, and you can get through it, especially if you're with the right person.

“When things get tough, don’t give up easily and remember why you fell in love with your partner.” – Colette Gallagher (03:11-03:20)

You're reading this because you're probably going through a rough patch with your partner, and you're wondering if it's still worth fighting for. Focus on the things that you like about the relationship. There is no perfect relationship. There's always something that you'd like to change, maybe if you could. But if you focus on the negative things, you're going to find more of them. But if you switch and go back to why you found your partner attractive in the first place, what you liked about them and what's good about them, and you start focusing on those things, you're going to find that there's more of those to focus on.

Focus on the good qualities of your partner, even if you're frustrated with them. right now. Maybe they're not behaving the way you would like them to act. Love is a choice, and it's up to you to make a daily commitment to choose to love your partner. Focusing on the positive qualities about them is one of the best ways to love your partner and being grateful for everything that they do for you.

Part Two of ‘What to Do If There’s a Rough Patch in Your Relationship’

Another thing you want to do is start to notice the patterns that are happening. Identify what triggers a particular argument or what causes both of you to be upset. Sometimes, misunderstandings tend to get in the way of excellent communication. And maybe it's just that your partner says one thing when they mean something completely different.

This time, try your best to analyze the situation. You want to go back to how you were in the beginning. Where you don't get easily offended, you don't overthink or overanalyze everything the other person does. Have fun together as much as possible, just like how it was during the dating stage.

“Too many expectations lead to heartbreak.” – Colette Gallagher (11:26-11:38)

If you want to save your relationship, consider asking questions, and communicate without taking things personally. If you're having a rough patch, let go of expectations because those are relationship killers. When you start to expect the person to do things for you. When you expect them to behave a certain way. When you expect them to react, that's when problems arise. Release all the anger and pain. This can be challenging if you got used to them doing things for you, or you got used to them being a certain way. Just let go of all expectations, whether they're good or bad, because there's always societal pressure for the other person to meet our demands.

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5 Dating Red Flags You Should Never Ignore 

“Obsessive behavior is not love.” -Colette Gallagher (04:39-04:41)

You might be dating someone with great qualities. You're getting along really well and having a wonderful time. Can you really spot the red flags during the dating stage to save yourself? In this week's episode, Colette Gallagher shares the five red flags during dating to watch out for.

Part One of ‘5 Red Flags During the Dating Stage to Watch Out For’

The first red flag - the person you're dating starts showing up to places that they weren't invited to. As cute and romantic as it might seem, if a guy shows up to see you without being invited, it's a red flag. That's something to be aware of because obsessive behavior is not love. If you're living in the same neighborhood and you just happen to randomly see him, you can overlook that. In general, just stay aware.

“Be with someone who brings out the best in you.” – Colette Gallagher (13:51-13:54)

We live in this society where it's almost romantic to be obsessed with somebody. We call that love. However, being obsessed with somebody, following them around and stalking them is not love.

Being stalked is not romantic no matter how seemingly innocent it might begin.

The second red flag - when they go out of their way to help you without being asked, to the point where it's pushy. The third one is not having friends or a social life. It might seem cute if they can spend a lot of time with you, but if they can't make friends, communicate, form bonds and relationships with people in a general sense, it's definitely a red flag. You don't want to become someone's whole life. It's okay if someone wants to do everything with you. But it's important that you have your own life.

Number four is coming to your girls’ nights or guys’ nights. If they have a small circle, it's definitely a red flag if he or she can't let you go out alone with your friends. Hanging out with your friends and being able to talk openly without your partner being there is really important. You could volunteer or take a class. You should have the freedom to do things on your own without your partner for your own joy and happiness.

Part Two of ‘5 Red Flags During the Dating Stage to Watch Out For’

The fifth red flag is when they want to make you their whole world. This is co-dependence. It's not healthy. It's not okay to think that one person is going to be able to fulfill every single need that you have. When you know your needs, you can find different people in different ways to get them met. Because what happens is if you do find this person that meets all your needs, you're going to overlook major issues in the relationship.

“Don’t expect someone to fulfill every single need that you have.” – Colette Gallagher (11:33-11:40)

If you're with somebody and they're starting to bring out the worst in you, making you feel crazy or bad, needing to check in all the time, or not feeling trust, then that's definitely a red flag that you want to look at. You want someone that brings out the best in you where it doesn't feel like drama.

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What Makes A Guy Husband Material?

“Your Partner Should Be Your Biggest Supporter.”-Colette Gallagher (03:36-03:47)

Tying the knot with the person you’ve decided to spend the rest of your life with is something worth celebrating. But it can be a little challenging to find the ideal husband that matches your preference. The process includes staying alert with the red flags that occur during the dating stage. In this week’s episode, Colette Gallagher highlights the ten things that make a guy husband material.

Part One of ‘What Makes A Guy Husband Material’

First, you want to be with someone with the same goals and plans. For example, if you're someone who's planning to be an entrepreneur and travel the world, while that person wants to stick to a nine to five corporate job and wants to be part of a big company, then you might have to travel by yourself. One of the most common issues that many couples face is deciding how many kids they want to have. If you want two or three kids and he doesn't want kids, then you know it's not going to work out.

It's important to talk about where you want to be in five to ten years. As you pursue your dreams and goals together, you want someone who supports you not just financially but as a person. You want someone who is encouraging and supports whatever you're doing because a husband is a life partner. It doesn't always have to be big things. There are many ways to show support for someone even with little things. If your guy isn't supportive of your hopes, dreams, goals, and aspirations, then he’s not husband material.

“It’s better to be alone than be with someone who makes you feel alone.” – Colette Gallagher (15:47-16:02)

Many times, we're attracted to someone because of their physical appearance that we lose sight of the other essential qualities like being responsible. You want to make sure that you're marrying someone accountable for what they already have. That's going to be a good sign of how they're going to be in the future.

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How to Love Yourself More

“Fall in Love with Yourself First”

Colette Gallagher (00:21-00:26)

Many people perceive self-love as a basic human necessity. You can’t love other people unless your cup is full. In this week’s episode, Colette Gallagher talks about how you can love yourself more.

Part One of ‘How to Love Yourself More’

There's so much more to falling in love with yourself just as there's so much more than falling in love with someone else. I love talking about self-care because it's important to me. There was a time when I was a caregiver for my grandparents, and I was not taking care of myself.

They were the first people I would always think of in the morning. I get up and take care of them before I even think about showering in the morning. I ended up being depressed and miserable because I kept on giving out of my love for them.

“Spend more time with just you.” – Colette Gallagher (2:56-2:59)

If you've been dating someone for a while or you've been married for ten years, it doesn't matter. It is so important to be in love with yourself at the very core. You're going to be a much better partner, friend, and you're going to be much happier.

Tune into the FULL Episode to hear tips on how to love yourself more.

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How to Flirt Over Text Without Being Creepy with Colette Gallagher, Healthy Relationship Coach.

Sending a flirty text message is a great way to spice things up during the dating stage. Technology is continuously evolving, and it makes online dating a lot easier compared to how it used to be in the past. In this episode, Colette Gallagher gives tips on how you can flirt over text without being creepy.

Part One of ‘How to Flirt Over Text Without Being Creepy’

As a healthy relationship champion, I teach people how to get into actual loving partnerships. That means you should not be making decisions that you will regret later on. Do not do things like sending inappropriate photos to someone via text because you never know what's going to happen after that. You do not want to take that risk.

“Make it your goal to confess your feelings in-person.”– Colette Gallagher (06:45-06:53)

If you have been dating for a while and you feel like you're starting to fall in love, self-control and patience can save you from possible heartbreak. Say I love you for the first time when you're together. Cherish this particular moment. I do not recommend using the love word for at least a month or two. Because many people think attraction and lust are both equivalents to love. Don't mess with people's feelings until you're sure. Make sure you're seeing someone for who they are, their good and bad sides.

There's nothing wrong about liking the person too soon because some love stories have started this way. But, take things slowly and don't be someone who jumps into a relationship too soon. You want to make sure that this is the kind of relationship you want to keep in the long run.

Exchanging conversations via text could be fun, but don't get so carried away that you lose sight of going through the proper dating process.

And when you take the time to get to know someone, you get to have more time to reflect on whether they're the right person for you.

Listen to the full episode to learn 10 tips about how to flirt over text without being creepy.

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Healthy Relationships Vs. Unhealthy Relationships

Break-up and divorce rates are getting higher nowadays. Many people miss the red flags of unhealthy relationships. The breakups are due to a lack of experience in handling key relationships. Or anything that has to do with forming an intimate bond. In this episode, Collette Gallagher shares her perspective about healthy and unhealthy relationships.

We can always reprogram our relationships in a healthier situation. As a relationship champion, I'm here to tell you that you can have a healthy relationship because it is possible to change things if both people love each other and want to change things.

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How to Avoid Desperate Dating and Date with Confidence!

"Be Confident in Yourself Knowing You’re A Great Catch" -Colette Gallagher (22:22-22:26)

Every person in this world had a huge crush on someone at some point in their life. And before you even reach the dating stage, you’re already trying to figure out what you can do to get their attention but there are instances when someone isn’t as interested as you are. In this episode, Colette Gallagher, a healthy relationship champion, talks about dating with confidence and how to avoid desperate dating.

Part One of ‘How to Avoid Desperate Dating and Date with Confidence’

The ultimate goal is to find someone that we can really connect with, someone that we can really talk to, enjoy their company and just have fun in life. You certainly don't deserve someone who will make you feel like you're not good enough or that you need to prove something.

"You deserve someone who values every little thing in a relationship." – Colette Gallagher (09:23-10:09)

It’s normal for people to want to look good and presentable before leaving their homes most especially the single ones. You could be meeting your future partner in the grocery store, at the coffee shop and pretty much anywhere. You never know when you’re going to bump into a cute person by accident. Looking good doesn’t mean wearing expensive clothes but wearing what you feel most comfortable with, and you think is suitable for your style preference. Today, you can find a lot of DIYs online and make-up tutorials on YouTube if you haven’t tried using cosmetics before.

Moreover, we don’t just focus on physical appearance. Think about the things you love to do and set time to do your hobbies. It’s highly advisable that you have something that you’re looking forward to doing each week that you personally consider fun. When you know your value, you have so much to talk about during the dating stage and the other person will see that you have a lot to offer to the table. Talking about each other’s hobbies during dating is a great way to build connections.

Are you struggling with not being able to find your true love? Do you feel depressed and have experienced heartbreak? If you know more is possible for you and you're ready to learn and change things in your life but haven't been able to create those changes or feel stuck, book a free intro meeting with Colette and see if it's the right fit to work together! https://www.colettegallagher.com/book-online

How to Get Over A Breakup!

“You Broke Up With Each Other Because You Two Weren’t A Perfect Match.”- Colette Gallagher (07:39-07:44)

Breakups are painful. They usually require a lot of work, healing, and support in order to move forward. Learn how to get over a breakup! In this episode, Colette Gallagher shares valuable tips on how you can get over a breakup in a healthy way.

Part One of ‘How to Get Over A Breakup! Tips For Moving On Fast’

Breakups are one of the painful moments people normally go through in life. It causes a lot of heartbreak, feelings of regret and it causes you to think that maybe you didn’t work hard enough in the relationship. For those who have already moved on, they probably start to perceive it as a fresh start but for those who haven’t, they need more time and that’s okay if you’re still in the healing process.

“Dealing with a breakup means reflecting on things you could have done differently.” -  Colette Gallagher (03:16-03:25)

The first essential step after a breakup is to take responsibility for your part even if they’re the ones who broke up with you. The most common thing people usually do after a breakup is to blame their ex-partners which aren’t healthy and this scenario causes more bitterness. Take some time to just reflect on the relationship itself and everything that happened. Once you realize your own faults, don’t beat yourself up. This part of the process should be more of a reflection exercise and to be able to contemplate on what you can do differently in the future when the right person comes.

Think about the needs this relationship was fulfilling in your life. Every relationship is based on two people having needs and getting their needs met. Maybe you had a need to take care of your partner or you had a need to feel appreciated. In return, your partner probably fulfills that need of making you feel appreciated when you’re around them. Make a list of all of the ways that your ex fulfills those needs for you and see if you can get those needs fulfilled in your own way. That’s going to make the heartbreak go away quickly because you’re not going to be thinking that nobody loves you or appreciates you anymore. Instead, you find other ways to get your needs met like volunteering for an important cause where your desire to feel appreciated will be placed in a much more useful way.

Think about how great the relationship was and this somehow goes back to taking responsibility for why you broke up.

Write out the problems you had together with an open mind and try not to judge it. You can go back and reflect on those small things that you didn’t consider as red flags in the beginning until it came to the point of having to end the relationship. A lot of times we lie to ourselves and convince ourselves that those small things aren’t going to be a big deal one day. Remember that if someone just stopped talking to you or suddenly disappeared out of nowhere, that shows their lack of maturity to be able to handle the conflict. It’s important to find a partner who respects you enough to tell you face to face what’s the real problem that needs to be discussed and resolved.

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Colette, a confident dating coach, understands what it's like to live with anxiety, depression, heartbreak, PTSD, ADD, and other life challenges. She released all these things naturally, with no medication, using different tools and techniques she learned to heal herself. If you are dealing with a bad breakup and are looking for support, contact Colette. https://www.colettegallagher.com/book-online