Alive and Free

Every time an event happens in our life—good, bad, or in between—our brain creates a story out of it. And since your brain is cunning and sly, it connects these made-up stories to other made-up stories in your mind.

While this isn't necessarily a good or bad thing, most people believe these stories they tell themselves are reality itself.

The result? Your mind creates trauma, suffering, and misery out of thin air!

Not only are these stories false, but two stories almost never have the connective tissue between them that your brain thinks they do.

And by simply questioning these stories, you can free yourself from your suffering.

In this episode, you'll discover how to question these stories and unlock peace as your default state.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include

• The insidious way our brain makes up stories about our life (and how these stories can either be beneficial or harmful) (3:01)
• How thinking in terms of stories makes your blood pump, your heart hammer, and blurs the beauty of life (8:41)
• Why believing everything your mind thinks can wreck your relationships, heighten your trauma, and make you miserable (11:06)
• The "Dumb It Down" secret for eliminating 90% of your anxious, worried thoughts (14:16)
• How simply looking into this fancy mirror can shatter all the mental projections you have about yourself (25:14)

If you want to radically change how much control you have over your emotions in as little as 20 days, you can go to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/feelbetternow and sign up for the Choose Your Own Emotion course.

If you or somebody you know is looking to drop the 'F' Bomb of freedom in your life and break free from addiction, depression, anxiety or anything that's making you feel flat-out stuck, head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you've been missing.

If you'd like to buy a copy of my book, Is That Even Possible?: The Nuts and Bolts of Energy Healing for the Curious, Wary, and Totally Bewildered, you can find it on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/That-Even-Possible-Healing-Bewildered/dp/1512336041

All of your problems—whether they're massive or tiny—are the result of vagueness in some way, shape, or form. And boy, is that a powerful realization.

Why?

Because by getting real with yourself and removing the vagueness from the stories you tell yourself, you can free yourself from your depression, your trauma, your addictions, and anything else that's sabotaging your quality of life.

Best part?

Getting real with yourself allows you to do this at breakneck speed. It's how I've helped people with 50 years of trauma eliminate it completely in just four days.

In this episode, you'll discover how to get real with yourself and your loved ones, so you can experience the freedom and joy of life itself.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include

• How vagueness sabotages your communication and makes it almost impossible to connect with loved ones in a deeper way (2:56)
• Why relying on motivation is a surefire way to never achieve your goals (and what to do instead) (9:55)
• How demanding transparency can prevent your marriage from falling apart (even if you've been considering divorce for years) (11:53)
• Why it's impossible for someone to make you mad (and how this fact unlocks unlimited bliss) (19:28)
• The simple "what came up for me" trick that prevents you from blaming someone else for any feelings you experience (20:21)
• How to delete even 50 years of trauma by simply being real to yourself and your loved ones (26:36)
• Why being stuck in your head is like walking through the world with a VR headset on (and how throwing out your VR headset gives you a profound sense of joy) (27:48)

If you want to radically change how much control you have over your emotions in as little as 20 days, you can go to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/feelbetternow and sign up for the Choose Your Own Emotion course.

If you or somebody you know is looking to drop the 'F' Bomb of freedom in your life and break free from addiction, depression, anxiety or anything that's making you feel flat-out stuck, head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you've been missing.

If you'd like to buy a copy of my book, Is That Even Possible?: The Nuts and Bolts of Energy Healing for the Curious, Wary, and Totally Bewildered, you can find it on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/That-Even-Possible-Healing-Bewildered/dp/1512336041

Many listeners, Freedom Specialist clients, and even other Freedom Specialist coaches wonder how I parent. And admittedly, I have some weird and counterintuitive parenting strategies that might make other parents scoff, but work well for my kids and my family.

For example, I don't congratulate my kids when they create an awesome drawing. Why? Because it trains them to seek validation from outside sources. Instead, I use it as a way to help them validate themselves.

And this is just one example of many.

In this episode, you'll discover my favorite parenting strategies, why I use specific techniques that sound counterintuitive, and how you can use some of my weird parenting methods to have more fun while parenting.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include

• The counterintuitive way congratulating your children when they succeed trains them to seek outside validation when they accomplish anything (2:13)
• How to prevent your children from needing a participation trophy by "flipping" your compliments (4:39)
• 2 questions to ask your kids when they're upset at a problem to prepare them for the real world (7:07)
• How solving problems for your children stunts their growth and limits their potential as adults (9:47)
• 3 simple parenting techniques from a mother who raised two MDs and a CEO that you can implement in your household (13:45)
• The insidious way helping someone can cripple them (and what to do instead) (14:55)
• Why watching your children struggle better prepares them for real life (even if it hurts you in the moment) (16:56)
• How being vulnerable as a parent helps your kids step into themselves completely and without fear (23:27)
• The "Playful Adventure" parenting secret for using play to teach your children responsibility (29:29)

If you want to radically change how much control you have over your emotions in as little as 20 days, you can go to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/feelbetternow and sign up for the Choose Your Own Emotion course.

If you or somebody you know is looking to drop the 'F' Bomb of freedom in your life and break free from addiction, depression, anxiety or anything that's making you feel flat-out stuck, head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you've been missing.

If you'd like to buy a copy of my book, Is That Even Possible?: The Nuts and Bolts of Energy Healing for the Curious, Wary, and Totally Bewildered, you can find it on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/That-Even-Possible-Healing-Bewildered/dp/1512336041

Everyone has secrets.

Most of them for a good reason.

But, it' is not the same with addictions. Keeping secrets may be exactly what holds you back on your way to recovery.

It's difficult to open up about your weaknesses, regardless of how close you may be with the other person.

Especially if you were raised in a strict environment, that answered your mistakes with punishment.

The truth is, there is nothing inherently wrong with you, and the people in your life can support you on your way to recovery.

In this episode, Lee and I will share the communication framework to talk about trauma and addiction. And why getting caught may be the deciding stepping stone on your way to heal yourself.

Listen now.

Show highlights include.

• How you hurt yourself by keeping your addiction to yourself (and how to move past that) (1:17)
• The simple, yet hard question you can ask yourself to protect your children from traumatic experiences (8:01)
• How to overcome a childhood of accumulated limiting beliefs (12:42)
• How to end the fear that sabotages your recovery from addiction (19:04)
• Why getting caught may be the greatest opportunity to turn your life around (even if the first thing you feel is shame) (27:22)

If you want to radically change how much control you have over your emotions in as little as 20 days, you can go to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/feelbetternow and sign up for the Choose Your Own Emotion course.

If you or somebody you know is looking to drop the 'F' Bomb of freedom in your life and break free from addiction, depression, anxiety or anything that's making you feel flat-out stuck, head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you've been missing.

If you'd like to buy a copy of my book, Is That Even Possible?: The Nuts and Bolts of Energy Healing for the Curious, Wary, and Totally Bewildered, you can find it on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/That-Even-Possible-Healing-Bewildered/dp/1512336041

I had an experience the other day when my buddies and I went out for dinner. We saw an attractive woman, and I used it as an opportunity to understand what was going on inside my body as a result of seeing her.

Most people would call the sensation I felt lust. I would too, until I started paying attention to what was actually happening. After paying attention, I realized it was not lust I was experiencing, but life itself.

Here's what I mean:

Any type of energy you feel—from lust to depression and everything in between—is simply a sensation in your body. A sensation you can move anywhere else in your body, the same way you can focus on your right or left big toe.

The problem most people have is we dissipate this energy without realizing it's life itself, which results in misery, fatigue, and emptiness. But when we harness that energy and send it elsewhere, we unlock profound amounts of bliss.

In this episode, you'll discover how to transform your "negative" energies into a renewed sense of life and happiness.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include

• The sneaky "Suppression" trap which may be the root cause of your porn addiction (and how to overcome it) (2:45)
• Why thinking porn is bad actually increases your chances of binge watching it (5:12)
• How changing your body position exterminates lust from your body (7:46)
• The weird way to use your lust for random strangers to grow your intimacy with your spouse (10:34)
• The "Sexual Sensation" secret for instantly getting rid of sexual urges (and how to use this power for depression and any other emotion) (12:14)
• How to unlock a new level of peace and joy and bliss by refusing to dissipate your energy (even if you think it's a "negative" energy like lust) (19:15)

If you want to radically change how much control you have over your emotions in as little as 20 days, you can go to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/feelbetternow and sign up for the Choose Your Own Emotion course.

If you or somebody you know is looking to drop the 'F' Bomb of freedom in your life and break free from addiction, depression, anxiety or anything that's making you feel flat-out stuck, head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you've been missing.

If you'd like to buy a copy of my book, Is That Even Possible?: The Nuts and Bolts of Energy Healing for the Curious, Wary, and Totally Bewildered, you can find it on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/That-Even-Possible-Healing-Bewildered/dp/1512336041

Most of the people who have come to a Freedom Specialist retreat—myself included—have had one thing in common:

Their biggest fear is a lack of control. But this fear itself dupes you into subconsciously sabotaging everything you value in your life. It's why relationships fall apart. It's why you can't get ahead in your career. And it's why you imprison yourself in misery.

And you know what?

This fear—in every example I've ever seen—stems from being dishonest to yourself. When you're honest with yourself, you set yourself free from this problem and open yourself up to bliss and joy.

In this episode, you'll discover how to be more honest with yourself, and why honesty may be the most important factor to your happiness.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include

• The insidious way fearing your lack of control leads to addiction and misery (1:09)
• The "Anti-Jordan Peterson" approach for finding joy and hope in life instead of war and struggle (6:20)
• How embracing your compulsive and destructive behaviors actually helps you get rid of them (even if you think it'll make them more pronounced) (8:04)
• How saying you love yourself when you don't deteriorates your control over your life (13:23)
• Why eliminating "I am" phrases from your vocabulary instantly catapults your happiness and freedom (15:22)

If you want to radically change how much control you have over your emotions in as little as 20 days, you can go to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/feelbetternow and sign up for the Choose Your Own Emotion course.

If you or somebody you know is looking to drop the 'F' Bomb of freedom in your life and break free from addiction, depression, anxiety or anything that's making you feel flat-out stuck, head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you've been missing.

If you'd like to buy a copy of my book, Is That Even Possible?: The Nuts and Bolts of Energy Healing for the Curious, Wary, and Totally Bewildered, you can find it on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/That-Even-Possible-Healing-Bewildered/dp/1512336041

Salvation, enlightenment, and bliss. These are the experiences everyone craves. We want the 40 lb backpack of despair, addiction, and trauma lifted off our shoulders, so we can start living life to the fullest again.

But how do you get there?

A lot of people think the answer is tucked away in a small pocket of the Himalayas, with a mystical guru who holds all the keys to life's greatest questions.

And a lot of people think they're a bunch of charlatans stealing money from desperate, vulnerable, and emotional people.

The correct answer isn't what you think it is.

In this episode, you'll discover why thinking "there has to be something else" isn't always the answer. You'll also discover how to unlock eternal happiness and bliss by rejecting religious establishments.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include

• How to be in touch with the source of life by clicking play on a documentary on YouTube about a 65 year old Indian man with a beard (4:54)
• The counterintuitive way severing ties with your Mormon faith boosts happiness, clarity, and mental focus (9:01)
• Why believing the answers to life are in another guru is a waste of your time (and will leave you depressed) (14:48)
• How dressing up like a slob, ignoring the homeless, and rejecting the principles of "the perfect man" unlocks eternal happiness religion can't provide you (15:20)
• The sneaky way "spiritual gatekeepers" charge you tens of thousands of dollars to keep you blind from reality (36:28)

If you want to radically change how much control you have over your emotions in as little as 20 days, you can go to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/feelbetternow and sign up for the Choose Your Own Emotion course.

If you or somebody you know is looking to drop the 'F' Bomb of freedom in your life and break free from addiction, depression, anxiety or anything that's making you feel flat-out stuck, head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you've been missing.

If you'd like to buy a copy of my book, Is That Even Possible?: The Nuts and Bolts of Energy Healing for the Curious, Wary, and Totally Bewildered, you can find it on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/That-Even-Possible-Healing-Bewildered/dp/1512336041

Imagine you have a battery attached to your body. Everything you do—from eating food and working to driving and watching TV—either drains your battery or recharges it.

Most people unknowingly do activities which drain the very life source from them without ever asking if those activities are worth draining their energy. Some draining activities are worth it, but are they all?

On the other hand, there are certain activities that charge you up, surround you with bliss, and help you tap into the divine nature of life itself.

In this episode, you'll discover how to build your awareness, so you can swap out your most draining activities for ones that make you feel alive.

The result?

You'll start to notice all the miracles happening around you without you even trying to look for them.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include

• How meditating can charge up your life's battery more effectively than food or water (2:24)
• The sneaky way worshiping food steals your happiness (5:08)
• Why even being around certain foods can cause your joints to ache (and how to develop this level of awareness to pour more joy into your life) (12:51)
• How to permanently delete all the specific problems in your life by tapping into the lifesource within you (15:17)
• Why tuning into your body unlocks miracles around you without you even trying (18:17)
• How overeating is a sign that you're lacking love (and how to pour more love into your life without food) (19:55)

If you want to radically change how much control you have over your emotions in as little as 20 days, you can go to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/feelbetternow and sign up for the Choose Your Own Emotion course.

If you or somebody you know is looking to drop the 'F' Bomb of freedom in your life and break free from addiction, depression, anxiety or anything that's making you feel flat-out stuck, head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you've been missing.

If you'd like to buy a copy of my book, Is That Even Possible?: The Nuts and Bolts of Energy Healing for the Curious, Wary, and Totally Bewildered, you can find it on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/That-Even-Possible-Healing-Bewildered/dp/1512336041

Confronting your beliefs about life is one of the most difficult (and rewarding) things you can do. Nobody likes being wrong, let alone admitting their wrong.

But what if your beliefs—whether in God, addiction, or trauma—are wrong? And what if admitting your wrong opens up a new possibility for life itself? One that can even grow you closer to God than you are now.

That's what each of the people who have come to a Freedom Specialist retreat have experienced in some form or fashion. And that's what Lee and I discuss in today's show.

In this episode, you'll discover how to question everything you know and how to remove the labels that are keeping you trapped in misery.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include

• How using labels strips away your joy and fascination of life around you (5:13)
• The weird way your ignorance can unleash a glorious rush of joy through every moment of your life (9:04)
• How to exponentially increase your awe and wonder in life by acting like a toddler (12:41)
• Why "losing God" can actually bring you closer to Him and fill your grayscale perspective with vibrancy and color (17:44)
• The 3-second mindset tweak which forever obliterates your fear of the unknown (22:06)
• The "question every complaint" secret which unlocks an opportunity to discover life's beauty (25:11)
• The "Birth Canal" method for never again letting your addictions and traumas haunt you (25:54)

If you want to radically change how much control you have over your emotions in as little as 20 days, you can go to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/feelbetternow and sign up for the Choose Your Own Emotion course.

If you or somebody you know is looking to drop the 'F' Bomb of freedom in your life and break free from addiction, depression, anxiety or anything that's making you feel flat-out stuck, head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you've been missing.

If you'd like to buy a copy of my book, Is That Even Possible?: The Nuts and Bolts of Energy Healing for the Curious, Wary, and Totally Bewildered, you can find it on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/That-Even-Possible-Healing-Bewildered/dp/1512336041

When you were born, you weren't a people pleaser. Yet many people label themselves as such today (even though it causes undue suffering).

Why?

Because learning to be a people pleaser usually helps you cope with a traumatic experience that could date back to your early childhood years.

For example, one of the folks who came to the Freedom Specialist retreats was a self-admitted people pleaser with a porn addiction. He even contemplated suicide. After digging, I realized he still carried the trauma of his friend committing suicide nearly a decade before he stepped foot in the retreat.

But by working with his body—instead of his thoughts—he discovered a new way to act. The result? His trauma disappeared and he's never been happier since.

In this episode, you'll discover how to use your body to quiet your nastiest negative thoughts and unlock more joy than you even thought possible.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include

• The "never out of the blue" mindset tweak for better understanding and erasing your addictive tendencies (2:50)
• How to uncover if a loved one has suicidal thoughts by zeroing in to the language they use (5:42)
• Why your brain acts like a QR code (and how this fact creates untold amounts of suffering in your life) (12:40)
• The "Different Body" secret for instantly obliterating your negative and triggering thoughts (13:56)
• A 3-second trick for curbing anger whenever it rears its ugly head (14:49)
• Why simply praying can evaporate your worst thoughts and feelings (even if you don't have a religious bone in your body) (19:56)
• The weird root cause of aging, midlife crises, and divorce (and how to prevent it in your life) (23:07)

If you want to radically change how much control you have over your emotions in as little as 20 days, you can go to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/feelbetternow and sign up for the Choose Your Own Emotion course.

If you or somebody you know is looking to drop the 'F' Bomb of freedom in your life and break free from addiction, depression, anxiety or anything that's making you feel flat-out stuck, head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you've been missing.

If you'd like to buy a copy of my book, Is That Even Possible?: The Nuts and Bolts of Energy Healing for the Curious, Wary, and Totally Bewildered, you can find it on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/That-Even-Possible-Healing-Bewildered/dp/1512336041