I have always felt like a pawn in everyone else's game of life, but I wasn't consciously aware of it until recently. It took dismantling my life down to the bones to realize that I don't know how to be in my own life, let alone create my own life, because I wasn't holding any value to it. Hi, I'm Carlie, and I'm a 28 year old recovering people pleaser. Turns out you can make decisions for yourself, stand by them, and people will still respect you. In today's episode I journey you through how this has shown up for me, what I'm learning, and the direction I am taking to build my "living my truth" muscles. Creating my life was always going to be a "me" job, now it's time for me to finally show up to the workplace. Yippee!

Buckle up, we're in the car again baby. Big E is back to discuss Pinterest underwear boards, how influencers are all around us, why I want to kiss Lizzo's brain, and not trusting oatmeal eaters (plus more ofc because we can't STFU around each other). It'll all make sense in the end. *flat white cheers*

Timestamps:

0:00-3:38

• intro coffee talk

• mom chat

3:38-9:25

• return of the flip phone

• AIM & FB stories

• cool old phones

• old cameras and “expensive” film developing

9:25-14:29

• things worth spending money on

• clothes chat

• sex shop story

• food & drinks

• flights

14:29-25:18

• thrifting chat

• staple clothing items

• Carlie reveals her “vagina is built different”

• underwear chat

• fashion pinterest board & trying on clothes to find self style

• Austin event fashion inspo

25:18-28:55

• influencer chat

• anyone can be an influencer

• the negative connotations around “influencer” as a title

• influencers are the big sisters of the world

28:55-41:05

• storytelling styles across forms of content & media

• music videos

• storytelling thru music

• fitness is literally life

• “Mastery” book

• Storytelling book from JB

• Audible kinda sux

• Jon Barker hype up

41:05-47:40

• finding balance between various interests & goals

• exploring new interests

• frustrations w/ current fashion options

• “practicing” different styles by shopping for fun

• “go to the fucking mall, bitch”

• manifesting air fryers

47:40-57:27

• boba chat

• “fuck the label”

• savory vs sweet snacks

• oatmeal/mush chat

• Elisabeth investing in own projects to free up mental capacity for creative pursuits

57:27-1:03:45

• appreciating the view

• Car in the Car

• good trusted feedback is good

• “don’t just gaslight me”

• AOTA name hype

1:03:45-

• wrap up

In this episode, I am joined with the charismatic Elisabeth Bradley, fellow Glute Squad member who has always helped me to see myself. We discuss how we have been perceived by others, how TV shows have helped us to be more ourselves, and how we navigate staying true to ourselves in the world of the internet. Buckle in (cuz we are in the car next to a Starbuck's Drive Thru after all) and enjoy.

Today's nuggets:

How you present yourself could be an open invitation for other people

You being authentic encourages other people to be authentic

Post so you don't have to cling to the idea anymore

Bottom line is to believe in yourself

In today’s episode I discuss one of the many things having a podcast has taught me - I’m constantly going through seasons and there’s no predictability whether I will be into something for a month, a week, or a day. I discuss how this has led me to more deeply appreciate the seasons of life, including the seasons of nothingness. I reveal what evidence I have of how change can be unfathomably better than all expectations, and why I need to be reminded of that right now.

Today I am joined by my best friend from the 6th grade, Sarah Kirby, who is the beautifully articulate and wildly intelligent Astrologer behind SevenMoons Astrology. One of my life's greatest pleasures is discussing astrology with her, so I thought, why not finally bring that to the public? We break down some of the energy of my own birth chart, areas that I struggle with and will continue to work through in my lifetime, how the energy is shifting this year, and so much more. No matter if you're brand new to this, skeptical of it entirely, or a vault of astro knowledge yourself, I think there is much to gain by giving it a listen.

Click here to get your 2023 forecast or check out more of SevenMoons Astrology: https://www.sevenmoonsastrology.com/on-the-horizon-the-2023-astrology-forecast/

Find Sarah on IG, Tik Tok, and Youtube: @SevenMoonsAstrology

00:00 - Which signs are the horniest?

02:30 - Explaining the zodiac

02:45 - Exploring the 2nd house

04:58 - How do natal charts reflect me if I am always changing?

06:17 - Should astrology be illegal?

07:23 - When Carlie knew she loved astrology

09:16 - Learning to be normal when you’re anything but

10:37 - Practicing astrology mindfully

13:20 - The energizing thing about astrology

14:42 - The merciless hamster wheel of self-improvement

17:17 - Are you awkward or is it just Aquarius energy?

17:41 - How Mercury represents your mind

23:56 - Why do people fear Scorpio/8th house energy?

28:35 - Finding your purpose with the north node

30:37 - The natal chart is a literal map of the sky

32:01 - Working with oppositions, inconjunctions

37:56 - The fortunate 9th house

38:27 - Carlie’s Sun in Pisces

40:48 - Our Saturn placements

45:51 - Astrology illuminates your private inner world

49:01 - The astrology of our current times (transits)

52:56 - The nodes are shifting, the nodes are shifting!

53:56 - What is a retrograde really?

1:00:33 - Carlie and Sarah’s synastry relationship

1:08:44 - Outro

There's a lot we can learn from our childhood selves, and that's what I dive into this episode. 4th grade Carlie was a peak Carlie era. I break down all the reasons why and how I can be a happier, more true adult version of myself with that wisdom in mind. 

Editor's picks:

7:25 - “So, we’re out here, we’re feeling like a 6 year old, and it is scary but it is rewarding, okay? We’re liking it”

18:09 - “girl, you’ve been burying banana peels in your backyard since you were 10”

20:36 - “Dancing has been in ya bones since you came out the womb. So, just keep on dancing”

22:03  - “You just know that I be going to the ocean. And feeling all different sorts of emotions. Because me and the water just get along.  BARS.”

Haley Harkins is back and we get real, we get rough, and we get honest all about our ~*bodies baby*~ (Meg echoes bodyada in the background). We're soon going on a vacation together, and we discuss how that was the motivator to get us back in the gym. Did we have a healthy approach? How has feeling uncomfortable in our bodies negatively impacted our lives? How has our view of nourishing ourselves changed? What is our new drive for being in the gym? How the fuck do you approach this all in an INTENTIONAL WAY THAT ULTIMATELY SERVES YOU AND KEEPS YOU BEING ABLE TO SHOW UP FOR YOURSELF? Tune in, find out, and hopefully this conversation will leave you feeling lighter... as it did me. 

And remember, being hot doesn't make you a good person. Be a good person first, and then be hot too.

Carlie's picks:

"Is how you're thinking about your body right now contributing to joy in this moment?" 

"I forgot how good it makes me feel when I feel strong. It gets me out of my head, I just wish my correlation to how I look isn't so tied to it."

"Do it from the intention that I deserve to feel good and I deserve to take care of myself."

At the time of posting this, I have 31 days left of being 27. I reflect on what I expected my 27th year of life to be (I had BIG BIG visions), how it actually turned out (spent most of it at my parents), and where my heart is at with turning 28. One of my favorite episode's to date. I know it's going to be special to be able to reflect upon when I do in fact get to where I want to be going. I hope you're able to take something from this. Enjoy & remember to just flip the eggs.

Hi loves, in today's episode I recount a moment in my young adult life that I carried a metric ass ton of shame around because I felt like I had messed up my entire future. After I come to terms with that, I go into something my ass did that I never owned up to.... until now. Enjoy xoxo

At some point in my life. Maybe. You might be too after this episode.

Join me today as I reflect on how my January goals are going, then dive into some 'would you rathers' that could change the course of your life. Enjoy babes!