All Talked Out

What Are You Driven By??

Have you actually stopped to ask yourself what you're driven by? Not what you think you should want, not what everyone else is chasing — the real thing underneath it.

In this episode, Tess unpacks the difference between moving toward desire and moving away from pain, why most goals fall apart the second they're built on someone else's definition of success, and how she doubled her own income goal in July without it ever being about the number. She walks through the "why, why, why" exercise that gets you past the surface-level goal to the actual driver underneath it, talks through a conversation from a recent property event about what "financial freedom" really means to different people, and gets honest about fear, resistance, and why authentic desire flows so differently than performing for approval.

This one's a call to stop sitting on the surface of your own goals and actually get honest about what's fueling you.

In this episode:

• Why we move away from pain faster than we move toward desire — and what that means for your goals
• The difference between external goals (performing) and internal ones (alignment)
• The "why" exercise to find your real driver behind any goal
• What financial freedom and "retirement" actually mean once you get specific
• Why friction shows up when you're chasing something that isn't really yours
• How to define what you want, why you want it, and who you become getting there

Holy helllllll I set out wanting to hit my first $20k month for July and ended on $43k... lets unpack together + some Q&A answers from my IG question box 🙌🏼

It's the 17th of July and I'm sharing this one in real time: I'm going for a $30K month this month. And honestly? It's scary. Today I've been feeling the stretch of my upper limit, so instead of hiding from it, I'm talking you through it.

In this episode I take you back through my whole remote sales journey. This time last year I thought sales was disgusting and swore I'd never do a sales call in my business (which is probably exactly why I wasn't making much money 😅). Then I found Brooke, financed my training with no money in my bank account, got my first closing offer before I was even certified, and went from $3K in my first month to $77K in seven months. And now Brody gets to quit FIFO because of it 🥹

But this episode isn't really about the numbers. It's about what happens when you set a goal that scares you, and the gap between who you're currently being and who you need to become to receive it.

We cover:
✨ My journey from "sales is gross" to full time closer for She Sells with Brooke
✨ The strategic (and intuitive) moves that landed me my first closing role
✨ Why I started living as the 20K month version of me BEFORE the money landed
✨ Goals are not linear: why one quiet day means nothing
✨ How scarcity mindset changes the energy you bring to every call
✨ Hitting your upper limit and expanding through it instead of shrinking back

If your goals don't scare you a little bit, you're not playing big enough. Go figure out who your "her" is, and start becoming her 🤍

Everything you do comes down to one of two energies: fear or love. Fear contracts you. It's playing small, hiding away, quietening your truth. Love is faith, trust, expansion. And every single day, whether you realise it or not, you're choosing one of them.

In this short and punchy episode, I'm talking about the "miserable maybe" — that place so many of us live in when we're too scared to make a decision, so we don't make one at all. Spoiler: not deciding IS deciding, and it's costing you your energy, your momentum, and your self trust.

I share the exact process I use for making big scary decisions (including the real numbers behind our 30K property development investment 👀), why the most successful people close the gap between question and answer, and the one belief that makes it all possible: no matter what happens, I've got me.

If you've been sitting on a decision — leaving a relationship, changing careers, starting the business, moving cities — this one's for you.

We cover:
✨ Fear vs love as contracting vs expanding energies
✨ Why the "miserable maybe" is actually choosing fear
✨ What self trust really means (it's not "everything will work out")
✨ The best case / worst case exercise to get out of vague fear
✨ The 12-month question: what does delaying this decision really cost you?

Stop delaying. Decide quicker. And make it from love 🤍

...it's been a longgg time guys 🫣

Here's the biggest lessons I've learnt over the last year:

1. Put the effort in to be conscious 
2. You’re never starting over. You’re just taking the next step. 
3. Sometimes going to the next level feels like you’re going backwards. 
4. Your beliefs are only as strong as your until. 
5. You can do it all. But you can do it better if it’s not all at once. 
6. Success is boring. Quiet moments of consistency for long than most people will stay consistent for. 
7. Your trust in spending money comes from your trust to make more. 
8. People need hope. Followed by agency. 
9. Not all advice is meant for everyone. 
10. Fear is forever. It just disguises itself better. 
11. Marry a good man. 
12. Ready is a decision not a feeling. 
13. Learn to handle your own fear. You will always object your own growth. 

Catch Bree on instagram at @hellofletcherandco

Thank you so much for joining me on this episode!

Make sure to give us a follow over at @_theabundanceproject and @tess_trainor on instagram so that we can connect and build this community together!!

I would LOVE to hear your takeaways so feel free to slide into the DMs over there and let me know what landed!

Until next week,
Tess xx

Thank you so much for joining me on this episode!

Make sure to give us a follow over at @_theabundanceproject and @tess_trainor on instagram so that we can connect and build this community together!!

I would LOVE to hear your takeaways so feel free to slide into the DMs over there and let me know what landed!

If you are interested in joining Spiritual September you can do so here

Until next week, Tess xx

What a privilege it was to be joined by Tamara Myers to speak all things business, branding and mindset.

From the transitions from dancer, bodybuilder to CEO, Tamara and I have a lot in common and this was an epic conversation to have!

You can find Tamara at @tamarameyercoach over at instagram

Thank you so much for joining me on this episode!
Make sure to give us a follow over at @_theabundanceproject and @tess_trainor on instagram so that we can connect and build this community together!!

I would LOVE to hear your takeaways so feel free to slide into the DMs over there and let me know what landed!

If you are interested in knowing more about my program, Money & The Masculine, you can find everything you need to know here

Until next week,
Tess xx

Thank you so much for joining me on this episode!

Make sure to give us a follow over at @_theabundanceproject and @tess_trainor on instagram so that we can connect and build this community together!!

I would LOVE to hear your takeaways so feel free to slide into the DMs over there and let me know what landed!

If you are interested in knowing more about my program, Money & The Masculine, you can find everything you need to know here

Until next week,
Tess xx

Join me in this episode as I chat with Courtney about the void that happens before transformation, much like the caterpillar in the cocoon.

We also speak to EFT (tapping) and Courtney becoming an author.

You can find Courtney at @iamcourtneyemma

Thank you so much for joining me on this episode! Make sure to give us a follow over at @_theabundanceproject and @tess_trainor on instagram so that we can connect and build this community together!!

I would LOVE to hear your takeaways so feel free to slide into the DMs over there and let me know what landed!

If you are interested in knowing more about my program, Money & The Masculine, you can find everything you need to know here

Until next week, Tess xx