All The F Words

Are you a lover or a fighter? Related: has being trapped indoors with your partner and/or children made you feel a little more like the latter of late? You’re not alone. In this episode, Gabi and Joanne talk about how we fight, what we fight about, and what—if anything—we can do about it.

Links:

How to Fight Right – In a Pandemic, or After by Allison Hope, September 2021, The New York Times: https://www.nytimes.com/2021/09/30/style/how-to-fight-right.html

Esure study: https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1389002/Fallout-Couples-argue-average-seven-times-day.html

Dr. Lauren Cook: https://www.drlaurencook.com/

Fighting fair: Adaptive Marital Conflict Strategies as Predictors of Future Adolescent Peer and Romantic Relationship Quality: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3474533/

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Where did I put my phone? What do you call that thing again? Forgetting is normal and, sometimes, it gets worse. Like after you have a baby. Or when you’re in your sixties and older. Forgetting also serves a purpose. Imagine remembering every awful moment in your life? No thanks. Gabi and Joanne discuss the joys and frustrations of forgetting and share tips on how to move beyond lousy or traumatic memories.

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Links:
Why Forgetting is Good for Your Memory by Carla Cantor, Columbia University Psychiatry
https://www.columbiapsychiatry.org/news/why-forgetting-good-your-memory

Why Forgetting May Make Your Mind More Efficient, More Efficient, by Tom Siefgried, Knowable Magazine
https://knowablemagazine.org/article/mind/2019/why-we-forget

The Psychology of Forgetting and Why Memory Fails by Kendra Cherry, updated Jan. 3, 2021
https://www.verywellmind.com/forgetting-about-psychology-2795034

For most of history, “til death do us part” has been the expectation most couples have of one another, and yet cheating has always been a fact of life, usually in secret. While infidelity is still a common occurrence, people are talking about it openly more than ever before. In this episode, Gabi and Joanne discuss the emotional and literal logistics of having an affair, polyamory, and the reason happily married people cheat.

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Links:

Why Happy People Cheat by Esther Perel, The Atlantic, October 2017: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2017/10/why-happy-people-cheat/537882/

Cheating statistics: https://comparecamp.com/cheating-statistics/

Polyamory Works for Them, by Alice Hines, The New York Times, August, 2019: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/08/03/style/polyamory-nonmonogamy-relationships.html

In our first full episode, Gabi & Joanne talk about Friendship. Throughout our lives, we look for different things in our friendships, including ours, which is unique in that we are both moms who are looking at the world from two different generations. We'll also talk about how Covid has impacted and even created new friendships.

"Formalities" is our premiere episode, where Gabi & Joanne introduce themselves and lay the groundwork for this entertaining and interesting series of conversations between two writer friends, 30 years apart.