Making friends as an adult is hard. Like, trying-to-fix-a-leaky-faucet-with-a-pear hard. This week, Pete and Tommy dive into the emotional absurdity of adult relationships—why it’s so difficult to make new friends when you’re older, and why you still feel bad about that one friend you accidentally ghosted in during the Regan presidency.

Tommy explores the paradox of adult friendship logistics (spoiler: it involves trivia nights and at least one emotional support podcast), while Pete unpacks the slow, awkward fade of the friendships we didn’t mean to lose but also didn’t exactly fight to keep. Plus: a deeply educational detour through ancient Roman memory-erasure rituals and the definitive game show you didn’t know your dating app history prepared you for—What’s App’nin?

So whether you’re out there desperately trying to make a new friend or quietly mourning the group text that went dark, this one’s for you. You’re not alone. Unless you are. In which case… welcome.

Links & Notes

• Become a Feeling Friend

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Welcome to All the Feelings: Adulting, where fitness isn’t about abs, it’s about survival—and emotional support comes with a side of pepperoni.

In this episode, Pete confronts a lifelong love-hate relationship with exercise (spoiler: mostly hate) and shares how working with a trainer finally reframed strength as energy storage, not just punishment. Protein becomes more than a punchline—it’s a power-up. Tommy, meanwhile, peels back the anxious layers of adult health care avoidance and delivers a heartfelt, hilarious exploration of iatrophobia—the very real fear of doctors. From raccoon-infested crawl spaces to gym myths, shame spirals to colonoscopy bragging rights, this episode is probably not your way to health, strength, and medical care in adulthood.

Bonus: historical sexism, magical poop, and the emotional complexity of car snacks. Welcome to adulthood.

Links & Notes

• Become a Feeling Friend
• The infamous Bicycle Face panic of 1895
• Don't for Women on Bicycles, 1895

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Welcome to Season 10 of All the Feelings, where your hosts Pete Wright and Tommy Metz III take you on a guided tour of that weird liminal space between “I should know better by now” and “Why does filling out a W-2 feel like a personality test written by Kafka?”

In this premiere episode, the subject is Money, starting with the slow-burning crisis of homeownership. Tommy—staunch apartment loyalist and occasional demon extractor—wonders if owning property is still the pinnacle of adult success, or just another gatekeeping tradition propped up by 1940s mortgage policy and peer pressure from ghosts. Pete, long-time homeowner and accidental handyman, walks us through the real cost of grass, siding, and painting things that no landlord will pay for.

Then, it’s Tax Time: the annual gauntlet where America’s adults cosplay as accountants and hope they don’t accidentally confess to fraud. If you’ve ever had to Google “What is MAGI?” and gotten answers involving sorcery or the Nativity, this episode is for you. Pete recounts his annual ritual of fiscal shame and digital form-filling dread, and Tommy offers a scathing comparison between the IRS and the HOV lane—both of which function primarily through fear.

Along the way, we explore the emotional toll of systems that are designed to be opaque, the quiet panic of feeling unqualified to do basic grown-up things, and why the true cost of adulthood might just be your confidence. Spoiler: No one really knows what they’re doing. Even Einstein.

🌐 Links & Notes

• Become a Feeling Friend and support the show
• History of the Window Tax (yes, it was real and yes, it was that dumb)
• IRS.gov: Tips to help taxpayers reduce tax-time stress

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KOFF-N: It’s not a choice. It’s a podcast.

Introducing KOFF-N — a proudly non-FDA-evaluated experience brought to you by the minds behind All The Feelings. Side effects include nostalgia, regret, adult acne, a deep yearning for your high school metabolism, and a compulsive need to ask, “normal blood pressure for my age.”

This week, Pete and Tommy unveil ADULTING: a season-long exploration of what happens when you crest the hill of youth… and keep rolling. Think of it as a guided tour through the existential landscaping of middle life — featuring emotional potholes, financial sinkholes, and the occasional oddly comforting cul-de-sac of acceptance.

Whether you’re Googling, “why does my knee do that” or rethinking every decision you made in your twenties, this season is for you.

Welcome to All The Feelings: Season 10 – ADULTING.

Our brave hosts embark on a journey through the Tabanero Hot Sauce Challenge, a sadistic gauntlet of increasingly ferocious condiments that culminates in something ominously named Dragon’s Breath, which sounds less like a food product and more like something that should require a hazmat suit and a government permit.

Links & Notes

• Make Me a Nerd (Mandy's podcast)

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Oh, hello! This week on All The Feelings, we embark on yet another emotional rollercoaster, but this time, instead of spiraling into the depths of raw human emotion, we spiral into something far more terrifying: the crushing realization that we are allegedly adults and should know things.

Of course, the rest of this member bonus episode is for our Feeling Friends. Want to hear the whole thing? Just head over to AllTheFeelings.fun and become an official member! Then you'll get your own personal podcast feed with all the goods and extended editions and you'll help us keep making this show season after season after season. Thank you!

Links & Notes

• Submit your adulting stories! It’s just one click to this handy form!

Stay strong, feeling friends. We’re all barely holding it together.

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Is it possible for a canned cocktail, once opened, to retain its fizz for an entire summer? This isn't a question typically pondered in the hallowed halls of academia, but it's precisely the kind of delightful mystery that unravels in this episode of All the Feelings. Pete and Tommy embark on a conversational odyssey that spans the spectrum of human experience, from the surprisingly complex world of condiments to the existential angst of a cherished New Year's Eve tradition.

But if you're reading this, you're not getting the whole thing! Our supporting Feeling Friends get the full score because they visited allthefeelings.fun and signed up to support us, get their own private member feed of our complete archive, and help us keep food on the table and shoes on our feet. See, you might go to work and make money and then eat because your boss pays you. Feeling Friends are OUR boss. You want to be someone's boss, right? It'll be fun! And thank you in advance for your bossiness!  

What happens when the relentless march of capitalism collides with our deepest, most primal cravings? This week, Pete, Tommy, and Mandy plunge headfirst into a bizarre experiment that straddles the line between genius and madness: the world of branded iced coffees. Forget your artisanal pour-over; we're talking Twinkie, Ding-Dong, Twix, and Snickers-flavored lattes. It's a flavor profile that defies logic, a sensory experience that raises profound questions about the nature of taste itself. Are these just clever chemical concoctions masquerading as nostalgia? Or is there something more sinister at play?

The trio grapples with this existential beverage crisis, dissecting each sip with the fervor of a forensic team examining a crime scene. Tommy, a self-proclaimed "non-sweethead," finds himself in a battle of wills against the saccharine onslaught, while Pete, ever the pragmatist, seeks the elusive balance between coffee and candy. Mandy, the instigator of this caffeinated chaos, navigates the treacherous terrain of artificial flavors with a mix of morbid curiosity and genuine delight.

As they navigate the perplexing world of branded beverages, the group stumbles upon a surprising revelation: the true nature of "Twinkie" flavor. Is it a tangible ingredient or a carefully crafted illusion? It's a question that leads them down a rabbit hole of food science and corporate intrigue, forcing us to confront the unsettling reality of what we consume.

Links & Notes

• Make Me a Nerd (Mandy's podcast)

Pete and Tommy are back for a two-fer! This time they're tackling not one, but two of the heavenly virtues: kindness and patience.

Join them as they explore what these virtues really mean, from navigating grocery store lines to reflecting on the DNC (dated references and all!). They dive deep into the idea of mindful patience, even touching on the ancient practice of Vipassana. Tom tries to cultivate more patience in his daily life, and they both ponder how kindness and patience (or the lack thereof) play out in modern culture, including a half-assed takedown of that Pepsi commercial.

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Pete and Tommy tackle the sticky subject of greed in this episode of All the Feelings. They dive deep into everything from the biblical definition of this cardinal sin to its complicated relationship with modern capitalism. 

They wrestle with their own consumerist tendencies (hello, new iPhone!), explore the psychology of materialism, and manage to connect greed to Tommy's impressive DVD collection without breaking much of a sweat. Plus, Tommy’s childhood trick-or-treating story might just make you rethink your Halloween candy strategy.

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