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Do you ever wonder what it's like for children growing up in a different country that's not the one they were born in? Or what about growing up in several different countries? Today we dive into the life of TCK's (third culture kids) and what it's like growing up in different countries, finding your identity, education, culture shock, and discovering God's path. Larissa Ness takes us on her personal journey in this fun episode as we learn the ins and outs of living abroad. 

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Lovevery —  Lovevery's goal is to help every parent feel confident. Their play products are designed by child development experts and distilled to their simplest, purest purpose: to be exactly what children need at each stage. Support your child's developing brain with stage-based play designed by experts delivered to your door. Use this unique link and order today: lovevery.pxf.io/angG4b

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Within five years after the birth of a first child, over 40 percent percent of couples will go their separate ways. Some studies report marriages failing within 18 months after the first child is born. In this episode I share on how postpartum can affect your marriage. The areas commonly affected are: 

1. Communication
2. Intimacy
3. Likes/Dislikes
4. Priorities 
5. Roles

At the end of the day marriage is work and as seasons of life shifts it requires intentionality to keep  Christ and each other first. Marriages can be successful if both parties work and work together. 

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EveryLife — the only premium baby brand that is unapologetically pro-life. EveryLife offers high-performing, supremely soft diapers and wipes that protect and celebrate every precious life. Head to https://EveryLife.com and use promo code VASHTI10 to get 10% off your first order today!

Seven Weeks Coffee — Seven Weeks is a pro-life coffee company with a simple mission: DONATE 10% of every sale to pregnancy care centers across America. Get your organically farmed and pesticide-free coffee at https://sevenweekscoffee.com and let your coffee serve a greater purpose. Use the promo code VASHTI10 to save 10% off your order.

Lovevery —  Lovevery's goal is to help every parent feel confident. Their play products are designed by child development experts and distilled to their simplest, purest purpose: to be exactly what children need at each stage. Support your child's developing brain with stage-based play designed by experts delivered to your door. Use this unique link and order today: lovevery.pxf.io/angG4b

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There's quite a bit I was very unprepared for when it comes to postpartum. A couple new moms and seasoned mom shared a similar narrative as I when I questioned them on their postpartum journey. In this episode I share my personal postpartum journey along with those that shared theirs and what they experienced. We touch on:

1. My expectations vs reality
2. Bounce back concept
3. Hormones
4. Lack of Sleep (thankful for my mom)
5. Breast changes and more
6. Bloody discharge. 
7. Overall body soreness. 
8. Hemorrhoids or constipation
9. Hair and skin changes
10. Mood changes - “baby blues” and Postpartum depression
11. Postpartum psychosis

Tips:

• Eat a balanced diet.
• Make daily physical activity a habit.
• Limit your alcohol and caffeine intake.
• Ask for help from your partner, other family members, and friends.
• Take time for yourself, even if it’s just a few minutes here and there (don't do it alone)
• Practice stress management techniques 
• Speak to others who’ve experienced PPD.
• Seek support from a mental health professional.
• Listen to worship music, start a postpartum devotional 
• Choose your hard.

Biblical References:
 
Psalm 55:22: "Cast your burden on the LORD, and he will sustain you; he will never permit the righteous to be moved"

Matthew 11:28-30: "Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light"

Matthew 5:4: "God blesses those who mourn, for they will be comforted"

Psalm 46:1: "God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble"

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EveryLife — the only premium baby brand that is unapologetically pro-life. EveryLife offers high-performing, supremely soft diapers and wipes that protect and celebrate every precious life. Head to https://EveryLife.com and use promo code VASHTI10 to get 10% off your first order today!

Seven Weeks Coffee — Seven Weeks is a pro-life coffee company with a simple mission: DONATE 10% of every sale to pregnancy care centers across America. Get your organically farmed and pesticide-free coffee at https://sevenweekscoffee.com and let your coffee serve a greater purpose. Use the promo code VASHTI10 to save 10% off your order.

Lovevery —  Lovevery's goal is to help every parent feel confident. Their play products are designed by child development experts and distilled to their simplest, purest purpose: to be exactly what children need at each stage. Support your child's developing brain with stage-based play designed by experts delivered to your door. Use this unique link and order today: lovevery.pxf.io/angG4b

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While I don't believe in "the one" I do believe you can marry the best for you.  I wholeheartedly believe I married the best man. In this episode I share do's and dont's that led to finding the man of my dreams. 

Three things I did:

1. I kept Jesus first. 
2. Allowed him to lead from the start. 
3. Worked on me - physically, emotionally, mentally (who you are is who you will attract) 

Three things I didn’t do: 

1. I didn’t date around - fully committed to one. 
2. I didn’t give up my life - I didn’t change my schedule to fit his.
3. I didn’t follow all the rules - we weren’t perfect but that’s just being real.

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Seven Weeks Coffee — Seven Weeks is a pro-life coffee company with a simple mission: DONATE 10% of every sale to pregnancy care centers across America. Get your organically farmed and pesticide-free coffee at https://sevenweekscoffee.com and let your coffee serve a greater purpose. Use the promo code VASHTI10 to save 10% off your order.

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It seems like a Gen Z thing that friendships tend to mimic and resemble marriage.  The statement is "we're just friends" yet there's emotional intimacy, dependency, and exclusivity. In this episode I address the pitfalls of relationships that resemble marriage, the impact this has on other and future relationships, recognizing and establishing healthy boundaries as well as when to seek help. If your friendships involve codependency, blurred boundaries, and unrealistic expectations then this episode is for you. 

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On Wednesday, July 10th 2019, Natalie Annell Weaver, 21, pleaded guilty to a second-degree felony charge of manslaughter and a state jail felony charge of abuse of a corpse. Her story doesn't start there and neither does it end there. In today's episode, Natalie shares how prison saved her life.  She talks about the moments that led to the night where everything changed, her sentence, warning signs, societal perceptions and judgments, what the future holds moving forward and Natalie's aspirations and goals to work in prison ministry.

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EveryLife — the only premium baby brand that is unapologetically pro-life. EveryLife offers high-performing, supremely soft diapers and wipes that protect and celebrate every precious life. Head to https://EveryLife.com and use promo code VASHTI10 to get 10% off your first order today!

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Today's surveys and studies suggest that approximately 20 to 25 percent of Christian marriages end in divorce, with higher percentages reported among millennials and younger generations of believers. Guest, Dana Spinlar, MA,LPC, unpacks the unexpected reasons Christians get divorced as well as alternatives to divorce. 

We cover:

• Infidelity that is physical and online 
• Unwillingness to treat mental health 
• Family in-law dynamics 
• Failure to acknowledge their role in the problem 
• Emotional neglect – includes working too much 
• Blended families that cannot blend 
• Commitment to children over the marriage
• Unwillingness to accept the influence from the other side and to offer the other to live their dream 

Other:

• Therapeutic Separation 
• Discernment Counseling 

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EveryLife — the only premium baby brand that is unapologetically pro-life. EveryLife offers high-performing, supremely soft diapers and wipes that protect and celebrate every precious life. Head to https://EveryLife.com and use promo code VASHTI10 to get 10% off your first order today!

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In today's episode, guest Elle returns to share about her journey on discovering a faithful God,  a healed heart, and a hopeful future after porn addiction shattered her marriage.

She answers:

1. The initial signs or moments when she realized that pornography was impacting her relationship.
2. How her and her ex-husband initially addressed the issue of pornography.
3. Challenges and difficulties faced while navigating the issue of pornography.
4. Challenges with the connection and intimacy within the marriage.
5. Counseling and therapy.
6. When divorce become the only option.
7. Writing and publishing her story.
8. Insights and lessons gained.

Porn Addiction Help:
Wild at Heart - https://a.co/d/cN7Py4M
Covenant Eyes -  https://www.covenanteyes.com/

Recovery programs for women who have experienced betrayal trauma:
Bloom - https://bloomforwomen.com/
Life Free Wives - https://livefreewives.org/

Elle Ladebu:
Website - https://www.ellemariah.com/
(Un)Faithful - https://www.ellemariah.com/

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EveryLife — the only premium baby brand that is unapologetically pro-life. EveryLife offers high-performing, supremely soft diapers and wipes that protect and celebrate every precious life. Head to https://EveryLife.com and use promo code VASHTI10 to get 10% off your first order today!

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Human trafficking is commonly referred to as a modern-day form of slavery, and is a crime that effects every community. The United States government defines trafficking as “the use of force, fraud, or coercion to compel a person into commercial sex acts or labor or services against his or her will.

In today's episode guest, Elle Ladebu, shares Rescue Her's mission and vision, the dangers of pornography and it's influence in the rise of sex trafficking as well as how you and I can help combat this issue. 

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The United Nations estimate that over 30 million people worldwide are trafficked for forced labor, sexual exploitation, or organ harvesting. According to some estimates, approximately 79% of trafficking involves sexual exploitation, and 18% involves labor exploitation. Human trafficking and forced labor is a $150 billion crime worldwide, and is fueled by buyers who pay traffickers to supply victims to meet their demand. Buyers are commonly employed men with enough disposable income to engage in these activities, which typically cost from $15 to over $1,000 USD.” 


Support Rescue Her: https://www.rescueher.org/give

 Resources mentioned:

• National Human Trafficking Hotline: https://humantraffickinghotline.org/en/human-trafficking
• Polaris Project: https://polarisproject.org/human-trafficking/
• Defend Young Minds: https://www.defendyoungminds.com/
• Good Pictures, Bad Pictures: https://www.defendyoungminds.com/books
• Our app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/rescue-her/id6475563861

Elle Ladebu:
Website: https://www.ellemariah.com/
(Un)Faithful: https://www.ellemariah.com/

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EveryLife — the only premium baby brand that is unapologetically pro-life. EveryLife offers high-performing, supremely soft diapers and wipes that protect and celebrate every precious life. Head to https://EveryLife.com and use promo code VASHTI10 to get 10% off your first order today!

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All marriages go through the following stages:

1. Romantic Love
2. Disillusionment and Distraction
3. Dissolution, adjustment with resignation, or adjustment with contentment 

It's inevitable. These stages aren't bad per say however, how we approach each stage does affect the health of your marriage. 

Dana Spinler, MA, LPC, has spent a lifetime as a listener and encourager. She's no stranger to marriage counseling and shares her expertise in this episode. As a counselor, she brings her personal and professional experience along with a sense of humor to guide people to self-acceptance of their uniqueness and encourage their authenticity. 

In this episode we unpack the stages of marriage as well as pinpoint areas to look out for and work on in order to not have your marriage on life support. No marriage is perfect. We all have some work to do. It's a matter of if we will put the time in for a successful marriage.

Trainings include - Gottman Couples Therapy - Acceptance, Commitment Therapy (ACT), Sex Therapist Certification through ABCST. 

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EveryLife — the only premium baby brand that is unapologetically pro-life. EveryLife offers high-performing, supremely soft diapers and wipes that protect and celebrate every precious life. Head to https://EveryLife.com and use promo code VASHTI10 to get 10% off your first order today!

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