ALL THERE IS

When it comes to discussing difficult topics, we're taught from a young age to avoid those that hold a lot of power and passion for us at all costs. Polarizing topics like race, politics, religion...

All this avoiding has left us with a significant gap in the skills we need to really share this human experience and SEE each other. Often when these topics come up we stonewall in defense to a perceived threat. We avoid it because we don’t know HOW to do it in a way that is respectful, loving, kind and productive.

 So how do we do that? How do we get beyond ourselves? How do we SEE more than what’s on the surface? How do we SEE through the hurt, the anger, the disagreement, the misunderstanding of others and ourselves? How do we SEE through perhaps our own past, our own mistakes, our own misjudgments, misunderstandings, and way of thinking? How do we stop being defensive and start being See-through?

In episode 4, I introduced a concept, an acronym, that I call SEE and it is a sixth sense that we can develop to train ourselves to really see each other.

ü  Stop.  Pause. Take a breath, a beat, a moment, before you do or say something impatient or hurtful, take a moment to consider.

ü  Evaluate: Ask questions. Be curious. Could there be more than what I see on the surface? Could I be wrong?

ü  Empathize: Find a way in to the feeling. Figure out an angle to put yourself in their shoes. Commit to understand and sharing the feelings rather than dismissing them.

Let's move ourselves from Stonewall to SEE-through.

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Consider the Elephant. Often, we keep ourselves tethered to other people's ideas of who we should be and what we should be doing, not realizing that we have the power within to pull up the stake and cord that holds us and create our own path. 

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In this episode we discuss finding that state of harmony and peace within ourselves through feeding our Spirit, nourishing our Body and tending our Soul.

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Let's talk about GARBAGE!  Generating waste is part of the human condition. It is unavoidable. But how long we hold onto it is up to us. 

Keep your waste container small and empty it often. That's where the magic is. 

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In this episode, listeners will learn about Narcolepsy. Often, this neurological disease is undiagnosed and misunderstood. Its impact can be crippling to those who are diagnosed with it. 

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Helping others with ID through awareness, understanding and acceptance.

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True story of what it's like to live in a world that moves too fast.

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We can't always see everything at first glance.

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Are you on the right path?

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It's Connection!

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