-TW: This episode has a lot of sex talk. Like a lot.

In this episode we discuss some revelations around sexual intimacy, self pleasure and what that means in our relationship and what we have learned in this process of getting closer together and self discovery.

TW - Some sexual discussion and a scenario where the phrase violated was used as an averse asexual.

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In this episode we discuss different forms of empathy in a relationship specifically the difference between Cognitive Empathy and Emotional Empathy and how we as humans need to get away from self preservation / defense and sit for a moment and if we can't emotionally provide empathy, intellectually think about the situation and see if you can provide congitive empathy to get to a place of understanding without understanding.

TW - General Sex Talk

In this Episode, we discuss clarifications from Episode 19 and on top of that, discuss what it looks like to make clear agreements in a relationship especially when it comes to understanding each other better in an asexual relationship but also how that can strengthen communication in your relationship too.

TW - SEX and Substance Use

Look. We get it. Monogamies isn't a word. That's fine. This episode is about both Ethical Non-Monogamy and Ethical Monogamy. Most people don't consider the fact that their monogamous relationship may not be ethical. Who decides that? Well the answer is the both of you.

Lately, Jessi has been feeling guilty because she feels like she is forcing celibacy on me and we compare the relationship to the Cost Suck Fallacy and is that the only reason why I am afraid to say I need more?

Well, tune in and find out.

TW - Sex

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Today Jessi wanted to continue her discussion about looking back to few days before realizing she was Asexual and what that looked like. Along with that, realizing the masks that we wear for good or bad and why the sexual persona is such a difficult persona to shed and what that means in a relationship. That can be hard for both the Asexual partner and Allosexual partner.

TW - Sex talk and compliance

Today we talk more about Compliance and clarify some of the things we talked about in Episode 16. We talk about the boundaries needing to be clear to help prevent sexual compliance and we talk about what getting behaviors are and when they might be good but when they certainly are not good.

TW: This whole episode is about SA in the form of Sexual Compliance and Sex

We discuss the various forms of asexuality including the level of Favorability or Repulsness of sex and how Sexual Compliance can sneak into the relationship.

Importance of Consent and Boundaries as well as societal pressures, and miss-information when it comes to asexuality being psychological or a hormone imbalance.

We discuss communication and issues around communication as well as boundaries and how difficult this episode was for Jessi.

TW - General sex talk - Not Graphic

Today we discuss a few education moments that Jessi had one being a trigger and one being with her Asexual son.

We then discuss Rejection going both ways for not only the Allosexual partner with sex but also the way that the Asexual partner is not only rejected by society but also by their partner.

TW - Sex experience discussed

In this episode, we go back to discussing boundaries like in Episode 3 but talking about being nice to yourself as an asexual for making mistakes when trying to figure out your boundaries as well as for the Allosexual to have patience and being kind to yourself and your Asexual partner when it comes to boundaries and reactions that happen.

TW - Sex, Kissing, Touching etc.

Today we discuss live some boundaries that have come up recently.

We read a negative review that says they don't know a single "sexual" (they refuse to say Allosexual) person who views sex as a higher form of intimacy and that there isn't a hierarchy to intimacy. And we discuss the perceived sexual hierarchy.

We also discuss more in depth where we ourselves may place our own requirements to stay in a relationship.