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Do me a favor and rate this podcast. This week's episode is all about overcoming shyness to become your best self. So if you're ready, let's get right into it. Every woman in my family is shy, timid, or reserved, including myself. And, I've managed to pass this on to my daughters. Now I know what you're thinking.
Being shy or reserved is not necessarily a bad thing, but it can be a bad thing if it keeps you in your comfort zone or it stops you from living because more often than not a shy or reserved person tends to not like getting out of their comfort zone. But what if you want more from life and this more you want from life, requires you to step out of your comfort.
Would you stay safely tucked away? Or would you rise to the occasion? Or have you come to the conclusion that you must rise to the occasion, but聽 are having a hard time doing so? Well, as it turns out, it's not all your fault. As some studies suggest shyness is a result of genetics, learned behavior,聽 and life experiences.
With that being said, you don't have to accept shyness as your fate, and it doesn't have to be your destiny. You can change this and become the person that you've always wanted to be. So if you consider yourself a shy person, you are no stranger to the effects this has on your life. Things like not going to social events at the last moment, you just can't bring yourself to going, because maybe you don't know enough people there.
聽You avoid situations that will provide a much needed positive outcome for you say it's a networking event. But because you don't know a lot of people there, or you may not know anyone there, you avoid the situation and then you have the issue of having few or no friends, again, because you are not the type of person to walk in a room and walk up to a stranger and introduce yourself, all of these things, Rob you
of becoming the person, you know, you should be. So we've discovered some of the causes and effects of shyness. Let's now look into ways in which we can overcome shyness. Now that you know, shyness comes from genetics, life experiences and learned behaviors. There's still hope because although we can't change what genetics has given us
or go back in time and change the life experiences we've had. We can for sure learn new behaviors to overcome, or at the very least learn how to work through your shyness and become everything God has created you to be. The first thing is fake it till you make it act confidently. Act like you are a confident person because often time, what helps is when you face that thing that frightens you head on.
And as you go, you develop more confidence because you realize that there was nothing for you to be afraid of to begin with. So yes, it may be scary to walk into room of people that you don't know, but the more you act confident. And you go in that room and you are around other people, you begin to realize that you're no different than the other people in the room.
And chances are, you're not the only person who is nervous or feeling shy. So this helps you to be more confident when you act more confident. 2. Pay attention to your self-talk instead of constantly reminding yourself by saying, "I am shy," change those words from, "I am shy" to, "I am practicing learning to be more confident," or "I can do this."
Those phrases can go a long way in moving you from being this shy person to becoming the confident person that you want to be. 3. If need be take a couple of deep breaths before entering the room. This s
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