Allowed

Discover a set of skills to help you when find yourself with an intense urge to fix problems for others or control outcomes. Whether you're working with your children, collaborating with your partner, someone at work or are a manager of people you may find yourself fixing problems. In this episode, I'm going to give you an alternative to produce amazing results. 

Learn how to stop rescuing and start coaching. Throughout this episode learn why coaches welcome challenges and how to create the changes and success you want. Move into the role of a conscious creator.  See show notes and get free tools and guides at Caneel.com.

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In this episode, we honor the leader in each of us. Discover your creative power, your ability to influence and even control things that you did not know that you could control. When you move into empowerment and away from victimhood and other forms of Drama, you have the opportunity to create the life you want to live and make your other dreams a reality.

Throughout this episode, learn how to reject the Victim mindset and step into the Creator role in your own life. You can claim your full power by learning how to harness the power of responsibility to bring your vision to life.
 
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Diana Chapman is a best selling author of the 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership, cofounder of the Conscious Leadership Group and she was named as one of the top 5 CEO coaches in Silicon Valley. Also, Diana was also my coach for 3 years. Do you ever feel lost or searching for someone or something to show us the way to the light? Do you feel that at the end of the day, all the practices you do are really not moving the needle? In today's episode, we will get to take a peek into the personal life of one of my gurus, Diana Chapman, and learn how to bring that leader home with us.

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Whether you are supported by a rich community that nurtures the best parts of you and helps you to grow and succeed, or if you are feeling isolated, sometimes lonely, like you're wandering through a relational desert, today's episode is going to rock your world.

All of us have fundamental needs; the need for food, water, and air. But we also have some specific social needs. We need to belong. We need to work in teams to survive and we need to feel recognized, respected, and understood. We need to relate to each other authentically. But how?

In this special episode of Allowed, you're going to gain some tools to enrich your life and your relationships from Executive Coach, Simon D’Arcy. Enjoy insights about authentic relating and learn some tools for applying this powerful framework in your business and your personal life.

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Are you setting new year's resolutions or company goals, but by this point in the year you've often fallen off the wagon? You wanted to make a big change and wanted to improve your life, but are spiraling with indecision? In this episode, you learn how to instantly predict the likelihood of achieving your goals and I'll teach you about how I do my new year's resolution recharge. See show notes and get free tools and guides at Caneel.com.

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 In this episode, you unlearn everything you ever learned about heroes from movies like Superman or Star Wars. Learn how you’re allowed to help solve and fix in a way that is deeply empowering to yourself and others and does not drain your energy.

Do you like to solve any problem as soon as they come up? Do you find yourself often swooping in to save other people from bad things that might happen or to teach them stuff they really, REALLY need to know so that more bad things don’t happen? You might be a hero if you seek to help, solve, or fix in order to relieve discomfort or suffering from yourself or others.  

Throughout this episode, discover what the drama triangle hero archetype is and how heroing is a form of perpetuating drama and powerlessness in your own life and the lives around you. Wake up to the costs of your own heroing and learn how you're allowed to help others without continuing a cycle of suffering. 

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Dive into the Villain mindset on the drama triangle. As part of the drama triangle series, this episode will teach you about the powerful Villain aspect. The Villain guilts, shames, judges, and blames. Learning this framework will make you more self-aware about limiting mindsets that lead to drama and dysfunction. 

By the end of the episode, you will gain more skills to move away from drama and towards empowerment. Question the stories that hold you back and free yourself from negative cycles. 

Highlights

00:00 Intro

04:47 A quick overview of the Drama Triangle and how identifying these patterns helps you break out of them. 

11:15 How to know when you are in villain mode and why it matters.

17:39 Different flavors of the villain and how you might behave in villain mode. 

22:33 Drama is contagious, and villains spread the drama

24:56 How to shift out of villain mode and come into power

28:10 Question your stories and reduce their negative impact

36:38 How to handle other people who are in villain mode. 

39:54 What happens when you stay a villain 

42:15 A real example of moving from villain mode and into empowerment and accountability.

47:07 Learn to love all parts of you and let go of “right” and “wrong”. 

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In this episode, discover how you might be unintentionally making yourself a magnet for negativity and drama. You will learn how to avoid creating negative circumstances in your life, and how to reverse the pattern if it starts happening. 

Get your life to start operating FOR YOU instead of against you. Throughout this coaching session, gain the skills to recognize if you’re in a victim mindset and learn what steps you can take to change your mindset so that you can move out of drama and into empowerment. 

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Are you stuck in logic? Are you ignoring your animal instincts? Do you feel that you are constantly trying to react to situations instead of being one step ahead? In this episode, we talk with Beth Killough from The Circle Up Experience. Beth teaches us about natural leadership, humans as animals, and how people respond to pressure. We also discuss the four types of awareness and how, whether we are conscious of it or not, these levels of awareness actually guide us in our daily lives. See show notes and get free tools and guides at Caneel.com.

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Are you in the midst of an epic Hero's Journey?
 
The answer is yes, we all are. The Hero’s Journey is an important construct in all of our lives and is present in cultures throughout the entire world.
 
Everyone experiences longer “macro” Hero’s Journeys in their lives, as well as many smaller “micro” Hero’s Journeys, whether it’s having a child, going to college, starting your own business, or switching jobs. No matter what the details are of your journey, all Hero’s Journeys follow the same formula.
 
Understanding and mapping out exactly where you are currently in your Hero’s Journey will help you move through the struggle more quickly to reach the return home where you can share your gifts with the world.
 
In this episode, David Shechtman, a talented coach and partner at Evolution, shares his Hero’s Journey expertise, gained from decades of studying the art and science of behavior change, including many deep dives with Joseph Campbell’s Hero’s Journey dynamic.

07:04 - What is The Hero's Journey? Who is Joseph Campbell?  Plus, examples of The Hero's Journey at different levels and life stages.

19:06 -Meet Coach David Shechtman and hear his story on how he developed his career and learn how it connects to the Hero's Journey.

23:18 The Hero's Journey is a skeleton key for human development in a universal way. The Hero's Journey represents the blueprint of a consistent experience that people go through on their life journey.

32:58 The importance of having meaning and purpose and formula identification in your life and career journey. The narrative structure created helps people define the experiences they have and make meaning of their life.

35:31 The 3 main stages of The Hero's Journey- departure, initiation, return, 

49:24 The Hero's Journey is important for people to understand and utilize because struggle, challenge, and experience are what create the gifts and transform lives so that a person can embody the change in their lives, create sustainable change and remove themselves from patterns and cycles that are keeping them in the struggle much longer than they need to be.

52:23 David's Bear in his backyard story and how it relates to the Hero's Journey. Within the Hero's Journey, there are challengers, allies, and other aspects of the experience that comes into it such as "The Call" and "The Dragon"

01:06:57 The denial of the call.

01:11:00 The Hero's Journey in the face of death. The mystery of death shines light on the importance of life and allows us to redefine and gain clarity about our priorities and our ultimate story that is The Hero's Journey of our life upon the final return home.

 

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