Join myself and author Tiffany Brooks, PhD as we discuss the spiritual gaslighting and bypassing we've experienced. Our goal in this podcast episode is to first, share Tiffany's new book, Gaslighted By God, (available everywhere), and secondly, to provide language to what we have experienced through metaphors and stories that attribute to what we have known within confining walls of the institutional Church.

TW: Suicide, depression, anxiety

Join me for an amazing conversation with 3 incredible people about taking a look back on life before deconstruction and where our chips fall now as content creators. 

Joining me on this episode:

Aaron from @goingtoheckforthis - https://linktr.ee/goingtoheckforthis

Bekah from @bekahsays helphumans.care

Tina from @tendersongva - https://linktr.ee/tendersong

We know all too well how much the church asks of it's congregants, it's staff and Pastors. If you have a talent, it's your duty to use it for God. And with that, it means you need to produce within the realm of church with your talents. For us, we discuss our experiences working on the worship team, the pressure to produce content and to lead worship no matter what it costs you. 

Burn out is real but in our experience, it only mattered that you rested but then got right back to work. Mental health does not exist in the spaces of church institutions. They need you for the content you can create. 

This is the first episode of season 2 where we are deep diving into Bo Burnham's INSIDE! Each song will be an episode along with different guests throughout the season.

This first episode is our introduction to what we'll be doing here during this breakdown.

Aaron will be a co-host this season and I'm really excited to do this with him. Follow him on instagram @goingtoheckforthis and also check out his merch! You can get his shirt that we discuss in this episode!

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Check out Aaron on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/goingtoheckforthis/

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Welcome to my first distance recorded podcast with Heather from @Justagirlpastor on Instagram! Today we're talking about the process/journey of re-mothering ourselves. We share some of Heather's story, her resources and her unique vantage point of her experience.

TW as we dicuss and/or briefly mention sexual assault, alcoholism, child negelct, trauma from birth and homeschooling (Also, mention of James Dobson because that monster of a human deserves a warning label).

Heather's resources:

Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. James Townsend
https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Updated-Expanded-When-Control/dp/0310351804/ref=sr_1_1?crid=28GY7GH7C307J&dchild=1&keywords=boundaries+henry+cloud&qid=1633456370&sprefix=boundaries+%2Caps%2C157&sr=8-1

Hold Onto Your Kids by Gabor Mate
https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Your-Kids-Parents-Matter/dp/0375760288/ref=sr_1_2?crid=2FPL8NPK9NDAX&dchild=1&keywords=hold+onto+your+kids+gabor+mate&qid=1633456547&sprefix=Hold+onto+%2Caps%2C151&sr=8-2

Tina and I discuss our thoughts on fatphobia within purity culture and all of the other topics that intersect with it.

TW for eating disorder, sexual abuse/assault

Listen to Tina's EP songs as they release here: https://open.spotify.com/artist/6xyfusQFHNvMYNVZ1hQ9w0?si=pV66ojUET1SWaOknOMAODw&dl_branch=1

This episode discusses my recent breakthrough which was preceded by a mental break down. I also discuss how I created my own value system.

Books I mention:

Shameless by Nadia Bolz Weber

Pagan Christianity by Frank Viola and George Barna

Love Wins by Rob Bell

In this episode, I discuss my issues I take with the bible.

Sources are:

The actual Bible

https://www.relevantmagazine.com/faith/stop-taking-jeremiah-2911-out-context/

https://www.crosswalk.com/faith/bible-study/ways-christians-may-be-misusing-i-can-do-all-things-through-christ-who-strengthens-me.html

https://www.gotquestions.org/2-Chronicles-7-14.html

Romans 16:1-2 - Phoebe is called a diakonon which is greek for deacon or servant and the same word is used for Stephen and Philip.

Chloe- 1 Cor. 1:11

Nympha- Col. 4:15

10 Lies the Church Tells Women by J. Lee Grady

1 Cor. 14:34-35

1 Tim. 2:12

Faith and Feminism A Holy Alliance by Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D.

I discuss how I came to the idea about confronting my old youth pastor and how it came about and how it went.