My son saved my daughter from going in the nettle bushes but ended up going in himself. So often we have leaders who not only let us fall in the nettles, but they throw us there in order to save themselves. I'd like to see more leaders willing to serve and sacrifice a little to ensure the safety and wellbeing of their people. Would you like to see and experience this too? Maybe you already are... be sure to thank your leader for their heart. If you aren't, then it's your time. Email me at [email protected] and i'd love to be a source of encouragement for you. 

Ever find yourself wanting the research or the evidence before you do something? Please don't forget that YOU are the most important data point. As a human, try things and reflect back on them to see if they left you better or worse. Do more of what helps, less of what hinders and that's how you become better than yesterday as opposed to being more average than yesterday. You are not average. There is no average human. So focus on being the best version of you. 

In research methods we were taught that for every experiment where there were hypotheses being tested, we should always state our null hypothesis. 

The next time you feel compelled to act, say something, have made an assumption or created a story and narrative in your head, remember your null hypothesis and know that you may not need to act, say anything, or assume correctly. Be sure to question your perspective and always seek to broaden your perspective. 

Not all information requires action. 

There's a lot of focus on flow states at the moment. I don't believe you can separate flow from mastery, pressure and meaning. Clyde Brolin once reported that F1 drivers such as Schumacher and Hamilton would drop 10% if they were intellectually thinking about their braking spots and when to turn in. What's the 10% you're losing by being in your mind too much? Create more flow states by surrendering intellectual control and embodying your mastery. 

On episode 185 I am joined by Dr. John Gray. John is the author of the most well-known and trusted relationship book of all time, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus.

USA Today listed his book as one of the top 10 most influential books of the last quarter century. In hardcover, it was the #1 bestselling book of the 1990s. Dr. Gray’s books are translated into approximately 45 languages in more than 100 countries and continues to be a bestseller.

John helps men and women better understand and respect their differences in both personal and professional relationships. His approach combines specific communication techniques with healthy, nutritional choices that create the brain and body chemistry for lasting health, happiness and romance.

In this episode you will hear: 

01:30 The more aware you are of your feelings, the more you take things personally

03:00 hormonally its an addiction

08:00 advice for Fathers without a male role model

12:30 men don’t have to talk about their feelings

14:00 creating safety for women

21:00 role mate to soul mate

23:50 don’t believe in gender reassignment

25:30 our brain is still being developed at the age of 28

26:30 same sex arousal, pornography and the impact of masturbation

31:45 multi-orgasmic man

33:30 soul mate and emotional fulfilment

35:30 John’s Heartprint

37:45 John’s daughter Lauren continuing the Mars Venus legacy

I hope this interview inspires your heart-centred leadership and relationships.

Please do subscribe, leave a little review, and share it with someone you wish to inspire too.

Always love

Ryan

Connect with Dr. John

Website: www.marsvenus.com

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Can you love these three versions of you?

Past version of you for getting you here

Current version of you for all that you are and the 

Future version of you that is worth showing up for in this very moment 

Everything in your life is your responsibility, once you realise everythign in your life is your responsibility - Dr. Bruce Lipton 

Why? Because it regains the power for you to be able to respond rather than react. 

Your chimp response becomes replaced by your chosen response. 

This is self leadership. 

Do you have a hierarchy of emotions?

My encouragement to you is to judge your emotions less, be more curious and to feel it all. 

Send your questions to [email protected]

Always love 

Ryan 

I attended the Health Optimisation Summit with world leading speakers. Here is part two of my key takeaways from the summit.

They relate to our lifestyle and I will cover insights into 5g, tap water, love, relationships, meat and meditation. 

Be sure to follow experts Tim Biohacker Gray, Diana Rodgers Md, Darin Olien, Ben Greenfield, Vishen Lakiani and John Gray. 

Send your questions to [email protected] 

Remember that the growth is in your experiences, not simply gaining more knowledge. Implement one thing that might help and do one less thing that hinders!

Your feedback on these long form episodes is useful too. Let me know if you want to hear more longer form episodes from me. 

Always love 

Ryan 

On episode 185 I am joined by Dr. John Gray. John is the author of the most well-known and trusted relationship book of all time, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus.

USA Today listed his book as one of the top 10 most influential books of the last quarter century. In hardcover, it was the #1 bestselling book of the 1990s. Dr. Gray’s books are translated into approximately 45 languages in more than 100 countries and continues to be a bestseller.

Dr. Gray has written over 20 books. His Mars/Venus book series has forever changed the way men and women view their relationships.

John helps men and women better understand and respect their differences in both personal and professional relationships. His approach combines specific communication techniques with healthy, nutritional choices that create the brain and body chemistry for lasting health, happiness and romance.

His many books, blogs and free online workshops at MarsVenus.com provide practical insights to improve relationships at all stages of life and love. An advocate of health and optimal brain function, he also provides natural solutions for overcoming depression, anxiety and stress to support increased energy, libido, hormonal balance and better sleep.

He has appeared repeatedly on Oprah, as well as on The Dr. Oz Show, TODAY, CBS This Morning, Good Morning America, and others. He has been profiled in Time, Forbes, USA Today, and People. 

In this episode you will hear:

00:30 Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus

04:00 Gender specific Love Languages

08:00 Listening is penetration

11:00 Score points with little acts of love

13:30 Independence produces masculinity, dependence produces femininity

16:00 Respect and admiration

18:30 a lot of people can’t deal with their freedom

21:00 weak men and masculine women

25:00 you don’t have love until you can make love

27:00 Oxytocin reduces stress in women, but not men

30:00 were they sexist in the past?

33:30 it’s about polarity

37:00 how to score more points by understanding her cycle

40:00 men are naturally in and out and women are up and down

42:00 newness motivation

45:00 the implication is something is broken…me

I hope this interview inspires your heart-centred leadership and relationships.

Please do subscribe, leave a little review, and share it with someone you wish to inspire too.

Always love

Ryan

Connect with Dr. John

Website: www.marsvenus.com

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/JohnGrayMarsVenus

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Mars.Venus.John.Gray

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johngraymarsvenus_official/

Connect with Always Better than Yesterday

Website: www.abty.co.uk

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Facebook Community: www.facebook.com/groups/weareABTY

Thank you to our friends at Elevate OM, proud supporters of the Always Better than Yesterday Interview Sessions.

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Email your questions to [email protected]