Welcome back to Am I Too Loud?! where today we’re discussing a disease many of us had in our 20s: being way too nice and calling it “having a good heart” 😭💀 In this episode, I’m unpacking the nice girl trap, people-pleasing, saying yes when I wanted to say absolutely hell no, overexplaining myself when I didn’t need to, and why being “easygoing” had me stressed, resentful, and lowkey disappearing. We’re getting into how this shows up in friendships, dating, work, and family, the guilt that hits after you finally set a boundary, and how to stop abandoning yourself just to be liked. If you’ve ever been the “chill” one but secretly wanted to scream, PODD FAM… this is your episode. Let’s heal, laugh, and learn how to say NO as a FULL SENTENCE 💋🎙️

00:00 Welcome & Setting Intentions for 2026
03:20 Growing Up as a People Pleaser
09:43 The College Hair Appointment Wake-Up Call
11:03 People Pleasing in Dating & Relationships
15:57 The Canon Camera Story & Fear-Based Giving
19:00 It's Okay to Disappoint People
19:23 Five Signs You're People Pleasing, Not Just Nice
21:36 People Pleasing in Friendships
23:42 Being Perceived as Difficult as a Black Woman
38:23 Setting Boundaries with Family
42:51 Reddit Stories: People Pleasing in Real Life
55:08 Sexual Assault, Consent & People Pleasing in Intimacy
1:00:32 Final Thoughts: Choose Yourself First

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Hey PODD FAM! This one was a rollercoaster!! I’m solo again this time talking all things black history month, valentines day, diaspora wars and so much more? Was I TOO LOUD? ABSOLUTELY!! Hope you enjoy todays podcast and I’ll see you back here next wednesday!

• 00:00:00 Welcome & Technical Difficulties Drama
• 00:03:40 Valentine's Day Crash Out & Panic Attack
• 00:11:03 Physical Touch & Why I Hate Hugs
• 00:13:48 Sunflowers, Self-Love & Intentionality
• 00:17:04 Women Need to Learn Solo Dating
• 00:19:57 Self-Care Isn't Frivolous - It's Necessary
• 00:26:09 100 Years of Black History Month
• 00:29:18 Shaboozey's Grammy Speech & The Immigrant Debate
• 00:33:14 Black People Built America - Not Immigrants
• 00:36:08 Racism in America & The Nigerian American Experience
• 00:37:54 Peace Is Impossible because of Human Nature
• 00:39:32 Bad Bunny at the Super Bowl & Language Barriers
• 00:42:44 Colonization, Resources & Immigration Hypocrisy
• 00:52:34 IShowSpeed's Africa Tour Impact
• 00:47:40 Tyla's Grammy Win & African Music Representation
• 01:00:53 Diaspora Wars Need to Stop
• 01:03:22 Shoutout to All Black Ethnic Groups
• 01:05:07 Closing Thoughts & Episode Wrap

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POD FAM 💚

I have missed you!!!! In today's episode of AM I TOO LOUD?!, I’m talking honestly about everything that happened in the past few months, some pop culture catch up and a much needed podcast debrief and new year plans! 

I've missed you!

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Hey POD FAM 💚 I miss you, and I hope you've been enjoying all the episodes from the past year. We're almost at our 50th episode, which feels like a significant milestone for us, still just babies in this podcasting journey. Our first episode back will officially be episode 50, and I can't wait to share more moments with you all.  

Thanks for watching in 2025 & Happy New Year!!! 🎉

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POD FAM 💚 This is our final episode of the year, so we wanted to end on a conversation that’s reflective, grounded, and honest about what it really means to speak publicly, take space, and choose yourself when things get heavy.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Cancel culture and context collapse
• Being misunderstood online
• Internet outrage vs real accountability
• Faith, culture, and organized religion
• Nigeria, misinformation, and global narratives
• Burnout and taking a break publicly
• Community response vs online pile-ons
• The pressure to constantly explain yourself
• Why context matters more than clips
• Being “too loud” on purpose
• Choosing yourself even when it’s unpopular

This episode isn’t about being right.

It’s about being honest, thoughtful, and understanding the cost that sometimes comes with speaking publicly.

Thank you for rocking with us all year. 💚

We’ll see you next year.

Chapters

00:00 — Intro: Taking a break & choosing yourself
06:45 — Burnout doesn’t announce itself
14:20 — Being misunderstood online
23:10 — Internet outrage vs real accountability
32:40 — Faith, culture & organized religion
49:15 — Nigeria, misinformation & global narratives
1:05:30 — Cancel culture & community response
1:22:10 — Being “too loud” on purpose
1:38:00 — Why context matters

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POD FAM 💚 This episode might make some people uncomfortable, and that’s exactly why we had it.

On this episode of Am I Too Loud, I'm joined by Igho and Donald for a long, honest, no-rushing conversation about selfishness, burnout, boundaries, and what it actually looks like to choose yourself as an adult.

Somewhere along the way, being “selfless” turned into being exhausted.

And in this episode, we unpack why the goal for next year might need to be… being selfish — not in a careless way, but in a self-preservation, clarity, and self-respect way.


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POD FAM 💚 This episode might make some people uncomfortable, and that’s exactly why we had it.

On this episode of Am I Too Loud, I'm joined by Igho and Donald for a long, honest, no-rushing conversation about selfishness, burnout, boundaries, and what it actually looks like to choose yourself as an adult.

Somewhere along the way, being “selfless” turned into being exhausted.

And in this episode, we unpack why the goal for next year might need to be… being selfish — not in a careless way, but in a self-preservation, clarity, and self-respect way.

Igho Eferere and Donald Aduvie E are on Am I Too Loud? hosted by The Odditty

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POD FAM 💚 Today on Am I Too Loud, our guest is Andrea Okeke, better known as DreaKnowsBest — Nigerian-American actress, creator, comedian, storyteller, and digital powerhouse. 

In this episode, Drea opens up about what becoming your best self actually looks like. You know those conversations you’ll remember for a long time… this is one of them.Drea really knows best.

We got into the business of being a creator, the realities behind building something from scratch, the level of healthy delusion it takes to keep going, and how her Nigerian upbringing shaped everything.

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POD FAM 💚 Today, we have actual reality TV royalty in the building.

She was born in the Congo, moved to the U.S. as a kid, and has been choosing joy and resilience ever since. You first met her on Love Island USA Season 2, where she went from overlooked to unforgettable and made history as part of the first Black couple to ever win the American franchise.

Then, because once just wasn’t enough, she came back on Love Island Games, won the entire thing, and officially became a two-time Love Island champion. 

Off-screen, she’s a TV personality, content creator, and model, sharing fashion, fitness, beauty, and ‘soft girl entering her bad-ass era’ vibes with a massive online community as @justinejoy

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POD FAM 💚 Today on Am I Too Loud, we are joined by a man who is single-handedly trying to prove that men, in fact, can moisturize, lift heavy, be disciplined, smell good, be accountable and keep their sanity at the same time.

Our guest is Mohamet Mbaye — better known as Swaggy Mo and The Fit African — a creator, athlete, model, and wellness advocate based in Los Angeles.

Born to Gambian and Senegalese parents, Mo grew up in a village in Gambia until he was 15. When he moved to the US, he had to navigate colorism, bullying, and being “the dark-skinned African kid” in America. Instead of shrinking, he transformed his body, his confidence, and his life — and made it his mission to help men (and women) build real self-worth through fitness, discipline, mindset, and self-care.

Since then, he’s become a full-time creator and model working with global fashion, fitness, and beauty brands — from runway shows and campaigns to health and skincare partnerships, including his recent work in the wellness and beauty space and collaborations with brands like Sephora.

And today, he’s here for a conversation I’ve been DYING to have because… genuinely… ARE MEN OKAY?

If you’re raising men, dating men, friends with men, or are a man trying to unlearn and rebuild, then this one is for you.

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