Being self-disciplined and courageous are not just right things for men to do they also make men stronger. How some men on dating apps employ similar strategies of deception to spiders. Why Stockholm Syndrome happens and why women are slightly more impacted than men. In spite of what they may tell you, women are really really not attracted to men who sob in self-pity. They may say they admire it, they may say they respect it. But they are not attracted to it.