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Let’s talk about sexual encounters and our emotional templates. Binge on sex. Use sex the same way an alcoholic uses alcohol. Acting out in a sexual way that is against your values. How can sex be an addiction? How do you know if you have sex addiction? Is a sex addict a pedophile? Is a pedophile a sex addict? Can a sex addict ever have a healthy sex life after recovering from sex addiction?

Hypersexual disorder is a proposed diagnosis for people who have an "excessive" amount of sex and feel distress as a result. There is debate, however, over whether sex addiction exists in the same way as other addictions. In Western psychiatry, "excessive" sexual behaviors have been documented since the 1700s and have been referred to as Don Juanism, satyriasis, nymphomania, excessive sexual drive, sexual addiction, and hypersexuality, among other things. These terms all refer to sexual behavior that includes limited control of excessive and problematic sexual fantasies, urges, and behaviors.

Ava Profota, a licensed clinical social worker, certified sex addiction therapist, certified multiple addictions therapist and supervisor for all three credentials. She worked six years in residential substance use treatment managing clients with multi-addictions and co-occurring diagnoses and initiated a number of co-occurring addiction programs while there. In addition to CSAT training, she has trained with Pia Mellody from the Meadows in Arizona, in childhood relational trauma resolution. She founded Inner Loop Counseling in 2010, an outpatient treatment center with multi levels of care for sex and love addiction, attachment disorder, childhood relational trauma and financial disorders. In 2014, Ms. Profota was voted Addiction Counselor of the Year by the Houston regional Texas Association of Addiction Professionals and is writing a workbook for Love Addiction therapy.

For Further Insight:

- www.innerloopcounseling.com

- www.loveaddiction.info

- www.recoveryondemand.com

I realize that what my step-father was doing to me every night was not normal. I covered my secrets and shame by being ‘Little Ms. Perfect’. Why didn’t someone save me when my mother could not--as she felt helpless. It is the adults job to empower children and teach them language of ‘speaking out’. What happens to a child who was not protected as adult survivor of a toxic life? How do they recover?

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to live your life as the awesome person you used to be before child abuse and trauma shattered your world? If so, Releasing Your Authentic Self: A Daily Guide to Help Child Abuse and Trauma Survivors Rediscover Themselves is the tool you’ve been searching for. Child abuse teaches you to hide the real you (your authentic self). The exercises in this book were designed to help you release that incredible part of yourself and begin this amazing journey of rediscovery!

Svava Brooks is a survivor of child sexual abuse and the co-founder of a nationwide child sexual abuse prevention and education organization in Iceland called “Blátt áfram.” She is also a certified instructor and facilitator for Darkness to Light Stewards of Children, as well as a certified Crisis Intervention Specialist, a certified Positive Discipline Parent Educator, a BellaNet Teen support group facilitator, a Certified TRE® Provider, and an Abuse Survivor Coach.

The mother of three children, Svava has dedicated her life to ending the cycle of child sexual abuse through education, awareness, and by helping survivors heal and thrive. She is a certified facilitator for Advance! a program created by Connections to restore authentic identity. Every week she writes about healing after trauma on her blog, and also leads a discussion forum on Child Sexual Abuse Healing and Recovery online.

BOOK: Releasing Your Authentic Self:

A Daily Guide to Help Child Abuse and Trauma Survivors Rediscover Themselves

For Further Insight:

Web site and blog:  https://www.educate4change.com/blog1

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/educate4change/

Follow on Twitter:  https://twitter.com/SvavaBrooks

Periscope: https://www.pscp.tv/svavas/follow Join me m-f  4pm pst.

Free gift link: This is a 14 Day excerpt (pdf) from the Journey to the Heart: https://svava-brooks.mykajabi.com/p/FreeGuide

ALL I THOUGHT ABOUT WAS ENDING IT, I feel no hope. There is no more HOPE, only thoughts of when, where and how. I can’t stop these thoughts in my mind. My thinking is a never-ending song--a revolving door telling me to kill myself, I am no good, I am nothing, a nobody, everything and everyone would be better off if I wasn’t here. I can’t take the pain, suffering, agony, I don’t want to live anymore. Today I am going to do it. I can’t tolerate myself. I am over life, I am out of here. NOW.

The risk for suicidal behavior is complex. Research suggests that people who attempt suicide differ from others in many aspects of how they think, react to events, and make decisions. There are differences in aspects of memory, attention, planning, and emotion, for example. These differences often occur along with disorders like depression, substance use, anxiety, and psychosis. Sometimes suicidal behavior is triggered by events such as personal loss or violence.

In order to be able to detect those at risk and prevent suicide, it is crucial that we understand the role of both long-term factors—such as experiences in childhood—and more immediate factors like mental health and recent life events. Researchers are also looking at how genes can either increase risk or make someone more resilient to loss and hardships.

Many people have some of these risk factors but do not attempt suicide. Suicide is not a normal response to stress. It is, however, a sign of extreme distress, not a harmless bid for attention.

DAN PELLY Inspirational Speaker: 2 Suicide Attempts (1996) & (2010) my message to the world is “I Want to LIVE “Never Give Up! My Life Matters. Let’s Win Together.

My mission is to have real dialogue for anyone who is dealing with Suicide Ideations or has attempted and survived. I want them to not attempt again, recover & live a Wonderful Life. Also for others who are grieving a loss. I hope that hearing my experience’s and what it feels like to live with Depression & Suicide ideations they begin to understand their own silent pain & isolation. I also, support those seeing love ones, friends or colleagues that are struggling with this horrible life snatching disease, Suicide. Together, let’s Save Lives.

For Further Insight:

Suicide Prevention: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

Provides help to those in suicidal crisis or emotional distress.

Call 1-800-273-8255

1-800-273-8255 FREE

Available 24 hours everyday

NAMI 1-800-950-6264

YouTube Videos:

Pain Suicide: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Wn2GcH-7QA&list=PLx_AUwyoHgqGuMUaVqsT8i2DndfCr0VaD&index=1

Better off Without Me Suicide? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r5xRH_Bhw7w&index=2&list=PLx_AUwyoHgqGuMUaVqsT8i2DndfCr0VaD

Keep Moving Suicide: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NkD_FpyitMA&index=4&list=PLx_AUwyoHgqGuMUaVqsT8i2DndfCr0VaD

It’s our choice what we want to expect of ourselves… WANT TO be better than HAVE TO, WISH to be better… than SHOULD be better. It’s our choice how we look at things after the fact, what meaning we attach USA – Unconditional Self-Acceptance. If you are not doing USA than you are probably doing - SHAME- Shame is an important feeling to discuss for a number of reasons. It is often the primary emotional disturbance that people seek relief from by drinking or using and abusing drugs, or even attempting suicide. It can also be a secondary disturbance in that it brings you to Low Self-Esteem that is shame about past, Anxiety is about the future Rabbits (run), turtles (hide) and rattlesnakes (bite):

1)  It makes people want to keep what they think and feel, or even do a secret

2)  It makes deny there's anything wrong, and pretend there isn't a problem

3)  It makes people less likely to accept or ask for help that is available

Ray Mathis is an Education Consultant, Speaker, Educator, Author, Advocate for Mental and Emotional Tool Kit and Tool Time group leader.

For Further Insight:

The Mental and Emotional Tool Kit for Life #2: www.itsjustanevent.com

Characteristics of Shame-Based Adults in Their Relationships — taken from Jane Middleton-Moz https://cryingoutforjustice.com/2012/05/05/characteristics-of-shame-based-adults-in-their-relationships-taken-from-jane-middleton-moz/

Top 100 Traits of people who suffer from Personality Disorders

 http://outofthefog.website/top-100-trait-blog/2015/11/4/shame-shaming

THE SMILE MAN Edward Rodriguez is on a quest to collect 10 Million Smiles. From donning a rabbit costume to walking from Florida to New York in 277 days, Edward will go to any length to reach his smile quota. Edward has learned that: "Life is filled with challenges and they will always continue but, when passion is ignited, all obstacles can be conquered.” He learned to see every problem as a gift, wrapped in valuable lessons and experiences to be shared. Edward’s events to share happiness are: “Happiness in the Park” where he set the unofficial world record for the most people smiling and waving simultaneously. The Miami Dolphins hosted the first Smile and Wave America Day at Sun Life Stadium, during a live NFL football game.

Edward is on a mission to help America smile again, and nothing will stop him.

May your days be filled with joy, Eddy.

“The Power of the Smile” opens doors to great opportunities and “The Power of laughter” releases stress and heals the heart!! Together they transform lives!!!

For Further Insight:

E-Mail: [email protected]

Website: http://www.smileandwaveamerica.com

Videos: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gFoL4nEzFvc

and http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eP32Fzxkkds

Can one recover from serious mental imbalance? How? These questions are increasingly important to emotionally disturbed people and the governments supporting them. It's crazy, but top research psychiatrists now admit "We still don't know the cause of most mental illness; indicators show it is not a ‘broken brain' that can be fixed by medications." There are many resources for Extraordinary Healing that exposes a new paradigm about the causes of mental disturbances and maps pathways to full recovery.

An effective model of care from Brazil that has been developed since the 1930s is described in Dr. Bradgon’s book. The treatment addresses biological, psychosocial, and spiritual issues-- not separately, but together. In one of Brazil’s hospitals is a collaborating healthcare team made up of medical doctors, psychiatrists, medical intuitives and spiritual healers. Trained volunteers bring compassionate understanding and companionship. It is more cost-effective than our system.

Emma Bragdon has a PhD in Transpersonal Psychology. She was licensed as a Marriage, Family, Child Therapist in 1988 and consults with individuals online. She is the Founder and current Executive Director of "Integrative Mental Health for You"--an online educational resource. She is Deeply involved with metaphysics, energy healing, spiritual healing and meditation since 1964.

For Further Insight:

Website: https://emmabragdon.com

IMHU website: https://imhu.org

BOOKS

Spiritism and Mental Health: Practices from Spiritist Centers and Spiritist Psychiatric Hospitals in Brazil

Resources for Extraordinary Healing: Schizophrenia, Bipolar and Other Serious Mental Illnesses

It’s happening to all of us at some point or another in our lives “We keep circling the emotional drain”. What is THINK-FEEL-DO thermostat and the connections between your thoughts, feelings and actions. Let’s connect the dots. DEMANDINGNESS is the first and most important type of irrational thinking identified by Dr. Ellis. When irrational thinking is recognized it equates with AWFULIZING, CAN'T STAND IT-ITIS, and LABELING AND DAMNING. None of which serves your purpose or happiness. Now, that you know and understand what got you where you are the question is how do you correct your irrational thinking?

Ray Mathis taught health education for 33 years. To do that job better, he became certified in Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy (REBT). He developed a new approach to health and wellness “The Mental and Emotional Tool Kit for Life". Ray represents the non-profit Chicago Institute for Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy (and Education). He speaks to schools, universities, groups, businesses, and at state and national conventions for teachers, school counselors and mental health professionals about taking his "tool kit" approach to mental health, health, social, behavioral, academic and other societal problems.

Further insights:

Ray Mathis:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/ray-mathis-a8a61a10/

Control Issues:  http://www.monikahoyt.com/relationship-control-issues/

Shame-Based Issues:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/intense-emotions-and-strong-feelings/201104/shame-concealed-contagious-and-dangerous-emotion

How Distorted Thinking Increases Stress and Anxiety:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/turning-straw-gold/201409/how-distorted-thinking-increases-stress-and-anxiety?collection=166710

We all have a host of COGNITIVE CHOICES that really determine how we feel.  Our choices include:

* How we LOOK AT what happens

* What MEANING we attach to what happens

* What we FOCUS on about what happens

* What we COMPARE things to

* What we EXPECT of ourselves, others and lives

* What we REMEMBER about the past

* What we IMAGINE will happen next

* How much IMPORTANCE we attach to what happens

* What we spend our time THINKING about

So much that goes wrong in the lives of individuals, families, schools and society is caused by people generating more emotion than is necessary or helpful in response to their life events, and what they do because of it, or to deal with it. That is why emotional management is the most important life skill.

It Simply Means 1) There is always more than one way to look at anything 2) Whatever way we pick will be understandable given our unique life experiences 3) But some will make us feel better, others will make us feel worst 4) Some will make it easier to deal with things, others will make it harder 5) And we always have a choice as to how we want to look at things.

"Life is MIND made"

The way we choose often tends to be automatic. It's often the way we've made that choice many times before. That's why we tend to be relatively unaware that we've made a choice. However, the way we make these choices is not "cast in stone". We can learn to make them differently and better. With practice and rehearsal, making them in different ways can become as automatic as the old ways were for how to change what you think, feel, say and do)

Ray Mathis is an Education Consultant, Speaker, Educator, Author, Advocate for Mental and Emotional Tool Kit, Tool Time group leader and Author of several books including:   It's Just an Event-It's Your Choice How You Want to Feel: The ABC System of Cognitive, Emotional and Behavioral Self-Management and Self-Improvement.

For Further Insight:

GoodReads: https://www.goodreads.com/author/list/672      917.Ray_Mathis

The Mental and Emotional Tool Kit for Life. A FREE resource for teachers, students, parents and professionals of all kinds from the Chicago Institute for Rational Emotive Behavioral Education.

http://www.itsjustanevent.com/index.html

Book: A Guide to Rational Living / Edition 3

https://www.barnesandnoble.com/p/a-guide-to-rational-living-albert-ellis/1122982034/2676972092893?st=PLA&sid=BNB_DRS_New+Marketplace+Shopping+Textbooks_00000000&2sid=Google_&sourceId=PLGoP164997&gclid=CjwKCAiA6qPRBRAkEiwAGw4Sdr9ZxIduBxZvwbr9iEBA9otOKm_Sbw9pp-V-nsrbTB45tMSxdKJSHBoC2q4QAvD_BwE

Veterans are not a problem needing to be solved. Veterans are the solution to employers’ problems. Companies will only truly understand this if they take the proper and necessary time to research their target audience.

This may require going outside of the corporate walls to learn what drives Post 9/11 Veterans. If employers’ do not do this properly, well then, they are wasting the veteran’s time with recruitment efforts and within 18 months most likely the veteran will find another job anyway. Employers need to first establish ‘the why ‘to their marketing strategy. Why do they want to hire veterans? This is vital to properly executing any sort of recruitment plan that will bear fruit.

Carin R. Sendra, USAF Post 9/11 Veteran. A veteran and former Department of Defense contractor, Carin R. Sendra is an enthusiastic writer and supporter of the military community. Her passions include discussing those topics that may get overlooked on veteran challenges. Carin writes thoughtful and informative material through her Ph.D. dissertation work; ‘Veteran turnover intention in the workplace’ as well as contributed to the following; Work of Honor, Veterans Voices Magazine, The Talent Economy, GotUrSix Radio, KSON Employment after Deployment and BRAVE radio. Her current endeavors include volunteering as a board member with a new nonprofit called VETFILMS.org which encourages therapeutic expression through screenplays and acting in veteran made films.

Carin advocates authenticity in leadership and encourages veterans to assess their worth when moving into job opportunities post service. Veterans should not be discouraged if assessed as a poor fit within an organization-they should only seek an organization which appreciates them as they are.

Further Insight:

Connect here: www.linkedin.com/in/carin-r-sendra

Website: www.vetfilms.org

She was a victim of sexual abuse as a child and domestic violence victim as an adult. All of which contributed to many years of suffering before being diagnosed with PTSD, Depression, and Anxiety. She was married 3 times and divorced her last husband in 2012. Prior to her last divorce she lost weight via consistent exercise, nutrition, and Psychotherapy. Her weight lost, a size 24 down to a size 14.

Kimyetta Taylor is a walking testimony in how to turn the victim status into victor.

Kimyetta Taylor was born in Brooklyn, New York, May 29th 1973. She is the second oldest of 6 siblings, with one daughter and four grandsons. At the age of 24 during one of her classes at the community college, she discovered she was a poet. Since then she has been writing non- stop. Writing is her way of releasing the pain. Her first book “Atrurose” was published October, 2015 and her second book “Poetry works of an insane heart- A fool for love” 05/2016. She served as a Guardian Ad Liteum Child advocate from 2015 until 2016. She was a member of Toastmasters where she held a role as Sergeant at arms and Area Director, 2013 - 2016. Kimyetta became a certified Zumba instructor October 2017 and a Life Coach Novembe r2017.

In Oct 2015 she was a guest speaker at the Jacksonville Sherriff’s Domestic Violence Awareness Press Conference. She also appeared on the morning show and on NPR the same year. She will be publishing two children books before the end of the year 2017 “Who stole my Applesauce” and “Sometimes Chickens have purple feet”.

For Further Insight:

Am I in an Abusive Relationship – Quiz:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=to4PDbE_CSU

30 Shocking Domestic Violence Statistics That Remind Us It’s An Epidemic:  https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/10/23/domestic-violence-statistics_n_5959776.html

Domestic Violence Hotline:  http://www.thehotline.org/help/help-for-survivors/

Tragic Tale of Teen Dating Violence:  http://abcnews.go.com/2020/Health/story?id=630874