Katia Bolotin is a Torah educator, speaker, and author, based in Israel. Her thought-provoking articles and audio talks highlight the enduring relevance of Torah in our ever-changing world. Katia's focus on personal growth harmonizes with the Torah's wisdom of how to best cultivate and maintain that growth. Katia is also a pianist, songwriter, and composer of contemporary classical music. Her original musical compositions can be streamed at Katia Bolotin on SoundCloud. Katia released an insightful book called Timeless Torah Wisdom: Making It Relevant For Our Ever-Changing World that is the subject of this interview.

Katia teaches us about the importance of spiritual wealth. While many of us chase monetary wealth, a perfect body, and relationships, Katia helps us understand that those things are only the MEANS to and END. The marriage, the flat stomach, the gorgeous house, and everything else that we want are not the end in itself. Katia shows us how to see beyond the superficial qualities of someone or something that we love and look beyond it to see that it was Hashem who created it for us. She gives us a great exercise to teach us how to see Hashem as the Source of everything, and how to internalize that realization.

Katia discusses the importance of seeing every obstacle and challenge in our lives at a set up, and not as a set back. She teaches us to apply Torah wisdom to changing our perspective on any challenge, and thereby using Torah to help us OVERCOME our challenges. "When you change the way you see things, the things that you see change."

In this poignant conversation, we learn how to go from being a victim to being a victor, just like Joseph did when he found himself thrown into a pit by his brothers. If he thought of himself as being left in a pit to die, he would have drowned in his victimhood. Instead, he looked at himself as being sent into the pit for a higher purpose, which later revealed itself when he became a leader in Egypt, and saved the people (including his own family) from famine. We are all put into this world to achieve our own unique purpose--NOBODY else can do it for us. We may look or dress the same, but our intentions are different; our life experiences are different, and because of that, the way we approach people and situations is different. It is that very difference that helps us carry out our mission.

Throughout or conversation, Katia shared beautiful nuggets of knowledge on how to use ancient Torah wisdom to navigate the challenges we face in life today.Katia's Book: Timeless Torah Wisdom: Making It Relevant For An Ever-Changing World, can be purchased on Amazon:https://www.amazon.com/Making-Relevant-Timeless-Torah-wisdom/dp/B0FRSWS2B2/ref=sr_1_1?crid=P8LUA7J5YRT9&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.pLUw-JJXdgp3xgp_b94jM1HQZa-Ja40W1gMI2Dzrh5PSNiHuwjNeUWAMS-S7yR7poFdbcIrdax3Dw5usrzdhwvQeecJMS0_MdQPKMOsAGOzNH82GA9UaF8krLVJg9wsb4YTsjO6uahoDQw9DEC2s4dx2tQHenUkKe-ZabnISkUllnLHBB5IpJLCQN__m_DeEuyG-sNnkgZ_-9u8wFjzYOu30DlZXJm3O27CNiMMekJs.o3HzKgHQGThEiSOESCXHa15oXXy_Q7hYiJoq_FJkM5I&dib_tag=se&keywords=katia+bolotin&qid=1780415287&sprefix=katia+bol%2Caps%2C176&sr=8-1If you would like to rediscover who you are on a soul level and unlock a life of self-worth and authenticity, click the link to book a free discovery call with Vera Kessler:https://innerlifecoachingwithvera.com/Contact email: [email protected]

Truly inspirational coach, teacher, and mentor to women of all ages and stages, Chaya Hinda Allen, teaches us how to stop abandoning ourselves and how to live authentically through self-attunement.

There is a parsha in the Torah that describes the Jewish people's encampment in the desert as being opposite of Har Sinai. Saying that it is "opposite" the mountain, instead of "next to" the mountain, is an interesting way of phrasing how the Jews were positioned. Chaya Hinda explains the profound reasoning for this wording. She explains that the Torah is an ideal of perfection, while the reality is that Jews aren't perfect; we were never meant to be perfect. Our life was meant to be a journey. In this way, we are always meant to learn and grow. The first step in growing is to know yourself.

Chaya Hinda goes on to explain the deep importance of knowing yourself. She explains that a child is helpless and is in need of attachment to survive. We are hard wired to survive, so we will attach to people even if they are abusive or neglectful. Children often learn that the only way they get any form of attachment (that often comes in the form of attention) is if they people please; if they are attuned to the needs of others and stand ready to conform themselves to those needs, instead of their own. This type of people pleasing, giving, and always trying to make others happy is often carried into adulthood. People end up subconsciously giving so much to others (thinking that they are being "good" or doing something positive), at the expense of meeting their own needs. Quite often, people don't even know what their needs are because they are simply surviving off the praise and compliments that they receive from serving other people's needs. That is self-abandonment.

Self-abandonment often leads to physical illnesses because when you suppress your own emotional needs, they come up as physical ailments in the body. YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO HAVE YOUR OWN NEEDS! DON'T IGNORE YOUR OWN NEEDS!

The cure for self-abandonment is self-attunement, when you stop focusing on other people's needs and start focusing on your own needs. Chaya Hinda encourages women to take away the blame and the shame of their feelings--all feelings are ok. It's ok to feel whatever you feel--even the yuckiest feelings are ok. You have to feel in order to heal. She explains that the most important part of the healing process is when you allow yourself to sit with your feelings and really feel them--wherever they are in your body. (Sometime you will feel a heaviness in the pit of your stomach, or a tightness in your chest.)

1. Take the time to sit with yourself, COMPASSIONATELY, WITHOUT SELF-JUDGEMENT. 2. Allow yourself to feel whatever feelings come up. It may take a while for you to fully feel the extent of your feeling. Multiple feelings might come up at the same time. That's ok. Feel whatever comes up, and DON'T PUSH THE FEELINGS AWAY.3. Cry, scream and yell if that's what you need to do to process your emotions.4.Tune into your feelings and see what message they have for you. Your feelings are your teachers. They teach you about yourself. By tuning into your feelings, you get to know authentic self; you find out who you really are, beyond the people pleasing. You learn that YOU ARE IMPORTANT. When you learn that WHO YOU ARE MATTERS, you show up in life differently. Chaya Hinda gives some great examples of some of her clients who have made beautiful transformations from being women who used to abandon themselves to now being women who are in tune with themselves and who really see themselves. It's a powerful shift!

To book a FREE coaching session with Chaya Hinda Allen, please click on this link: https://setupyourappointmentwithchayahinda.as.me/schedule/1e97738a/appointment/33038991/calendar/6801787?appointmentTypeIds[]=33038991

To be in touch with Vera Kessler, please email: [email protected] or visit: https://innerlifecoachingwithvera.com/

Are you ready to live an authentic life? A life that is genuinely you? Without the people pleasing; without the task managing; without the never ending running around without a purpose? You are going to learn how to get out of the chaos RIGHT NOW!

If you are ready to reconnect with your soul and create a life of connection, peace and freedom, this conversation is for you! (There is a really deep and meaningful soul meditation toward the end that you don't want to miss!)

Rebbetzin Chana Margulies is a prolific writer who recently launched a book called Start With the Good Part: A Novel to Live Your Dreams. This is NOT a typical novel. It literally illustrates for you how to live in geula (redemption) RIGHT NOW. By the time you read the last chapter, you won't just have read a book, you will have discovered life changing tools to step into your own freedom, to ask yourself powerful questions, and to choose freedom over fear. We learn to tap into our own essence and enhance our connection to Hashem (G-d.)

This book depicts the lives of several women, struggling with the types of things many of us struggle with--financial security, finding our soulmate, infertility, losing a child to a drug overdose, and learning to love ourselves.

In addition to talking about the book, Rebbetzin Chana shares chassidic insights related to the month of Kislev. Chassidus is the innermost dimension of Torah.

Read Start With the Good Part:https://www.amazon.com/Start-Good-Part-Novel-Dreams/dp/9655973905

For Rebbetzin Chana's FREE powerful marriage COURSE, please visit: geulawives.org/courses

Contact Chana: [email protected]

Atara Weisberger's book, How To Soul, that she co-authored with Rabbi Dov Lipman, is a groundbreaking guide that blends ancient wisdom with modern insights to help you reconnect with your soul. Through relatable stories, practical exercises and guided meditations, this book provides a roadmap for living authentically and joyfully.

According to Atara, the first thing we need to do in order to live a life full of happiness, is to create an authentic relationship with ourselves. We need to be real with ourselves about who we are--our values and beliefs; our strengths and weaknesses; our likes and dislikes; who we currently are and who we genuinely want to be.

Once we know ourselves, we will begin to let go of judgements. We will stop judging ourselves and start accepting ourselves exactly as we are. Atara says that wherever we are right now is exactly where we need to be. We are ok right now, just as we are. Once we stop judging ourselves, we will stop judging others. Once we accept ourselves, we will be more accepting of others. Change the criticism to curiosity. Get curious and ask yourself questions, instead of beating yourself up about a mistake or a destructive pattern. Find out why you are doing a certain behavior.

Once we connect with ourselves, we need to connect with G-d. We need to know that G-d loves us exactly as we are. Knowing ourselves deeply, and having an intimate connection with Hashem, is the key to living a fulfilled life.

Atara advises us to get in touch with our soul in order to find out who we really are, and in what directly we truly want to go. Our minds are so filled with chaos--thoughts, feelings and emotions all over the place. Once we get our minds and bodies quiet, we can listen into that calm quiet voice. That is the voice of our soul. (The loud, critical voice is never our soul. Don't listen to that voice.)

At the end of our conversation, Atara leads us through a beautiful guided meditation to calm ourselves and guide our thoughts inward so that we can reconnect to our soul.

Contact: [email protected]

Vera Kessler (host of America's Top Rebbetzins) is a certified life coach. She specializes in transformational life coaching and accountability coaching. She is also a motivational speaker.

Vera's mission is to help women get out of survival mode and start thriving. She works with women who are committed to stepping into their own self-worth and creating the life they want to live--one that is full of joy, empowerment, meaning, and purpose. To learn more, visit:https://innerlifecoachingwithvera.com/

Rebbetzin Esti Simon, and her husband, Rabbi Sruly run the Chabad Student Centre of Kington, in Kingston, Ontatio, Canada.

Rebbetzin Esti is one of 14 children, and her husband is one of 13 children. Her story about her parents and family is inspiring!

Rebbetzin Esti shares the secrets of the unique power of a woman to lead, inspire, and nurture, in relationships. Rebbetzin Esti tells us that in a relationship, each person has their own strengths. According to the Lubuvitcher Rebbe, women should be partners with their husband in building a Jewish home. By allowing and making space for each person to fulfill the role that they are naturally good at, a dynamic is created where a husband and wife feel like they are contributing to the relationship without being stepped on.

Kabbalah teaches that men are the givers and women are the receivers. The feminine energy is about receiving. A woman receives from a man, and then creates something from that which she received.

Trust and relax, believing that everything comes from Hashem.

Contact: [email protected]

Vera Kessler (host of America's Top Rebbetzins) is a certified life coach. She specializes in transformational life coaching and accountability coaching. She is also a motivational speaker. Vera's mission is to help women get out of survival mode and start thriving. She works with women who are committed to stepping into their own self-worth and creating the life they want to live--one that is full of joy, empowerment, meaning, and purpose.

To learn more, visit:https://innerlifecoachingwithvera.com/

The Challah Mom (Anat Ishai) candidly shares her personal Jewish journey of making aliyah to Israel from Toronto, Canada. She speaks about being born in Israel and growing up in Toronto as the daughter of Russian Jews.

The Challah Mom describes the process of how she and her family made the decision to come to Israel for a year during Covid, how they moved back to Toronto afterward, and then officially moved back to Israel, making aliyah just 30 days before October 7. Her story is beautiful, soulful and authentic. It highlights the importance of listening to our inner voice, and it encourages people to embrace their light and potential. Don't be afraid of succeeding!

Anat shares how she felt a return to self in Israel. Throughout our conversation, you can tangibly feel her deep, soulful connection to Israel and to Torah. As she navigated the ups and downs of life, Anat progressed on her Jewish journey. Instead of asking, "Why?" when things happened, The Challah Mom learned to ask, "What am I supposed to learn from this?" It's such a powerful shift in perspective. It's not so much that we need to know why something is happening, but more importantly, we need to know the hidden message inside of what is happening, and how we can grow from it.This is a very powerful message!

The Challah Mom also shares her story about how she began covering her hair and why she wears her beautiful scarves.

You can follow The Challah Mom on Instagram and Facebook.

Vera Kessler (host of America's Top Rebbetzins) is a certified life coach. She specializes in transformational life coaching and accountability coaching. She is also a motivational speaker. Vera's mission is to help women get out of survival mode and start thriving. She works with women who are committed to stepping into their own self-worth and creating the life they want to live--one that is full of joy, empowerment, meaning, and purpose. To learn more, visit:https://innerlifecoachingwithvera.com/

"When was the last time you felt the baby move? There is no heartbeat." Those were the words that Rebbetzin Tzipah Wertheimer's doctor told her when she went in for an appointment at 9 months pregnant.

Rebbetzin Tzipah bravely shares about the loss of her baby at full term. The sadness and disappointment; the way she handled coming home from the hospital without the baby, and how she was able to move forward. She talks about the mentors from whom she sought advice, and the strength she gained from her Chabad on Campus of Queens. Rebbetzin Tzipah, and her husband, Rabbi Shaul Wertheimer, have been running the Chabad on Campus of Queens (New York) since 2004.

Rebbetzin Tzipah goes on to speak about the losses of two other pregnancies, and her relationship with Hashem during these challenging times. She learned to lean into the Jewish traditions of grief and mourning. She also received some poignant advice from one of her mentors: "You don't need to understand everything in order to move forward." In other words, we need to have Emunah (faith) in Hashem that everything He does is good...but we don't need to understand how or why it's good. As human beings, we don't see the big picture. We see the events that are unfolding in front of us, but we don't necessarily see the connection to our past, and we definitely don't see what the future holds for us because of these events (not despite them.)

Rebbetzin Tzipah also addresses the question of "Why do bad things happen to good people?"

To be connected to Rebbetzin Tzipah, please email Vera Kessler, host of America's Top Rebbetzins: [email protected] Vera Kessler (host of America's Top Rebbetzins) is a certified life coach. She specializes in transformational life coaching and accountability coaching. She is also a motivational speaker. Vera's mission is to help women get out of survival mode and start thriving. She works with women who are committed to stepping into their own self-worth and creating the life they want to live--one that is full of joy, empowerment, meaning, and purpose. To learn more, visit:https://innerlifecoachingwithvera.com/

Rebbetzin Dini (Dina) Coopersmith is the trip leader and coordinator of women's learning trips to Israel through Women's Reconnection Trips. She has a Bachelor's degree in Education and a Master's degree in Jewish History. Rebbetzin Dini teaches in a number of seminaries in Jerusalem, where she lives with her husband and children.

From this situation, only good will come, was the central theme of our enlightening conversation. Emunah--the belief that everything comes from Hashem (G-d), everything He does is good, and everything He does has a purpose--is the way Rebbetzin Dini lives her life. This is also the theme that runs through her Reconnection trips with women.

The Level Up women's emunah and solidarity missions are designed to help women reconnect with each other, with themselves, and with Hashem, in a truly transformative way. The women visit historical places in Israel and they also spend time with people and families whose lives were directly impacted by the events of October 7. When women connect to women, in an authentic and compassionate way, they have the capacity to truly uplift each other's souls.

Rebbetzin Dini also describes some of the classes that Reconnection Trip participants experience. She speaks about a beautiful class where women learn to identify their purpose and their tikkun in life. Also, she speaks, in depth, about a class on emunah that calls women's attention to:A--appreciation for all the Hashem has done for youB-belief and connection to HashemC-communication through prayerD-declaring your beliefs and positive affirmations out loudE-expecting the best from Hashem

For more information on Rebbetzin Dini's Reconnection Trips, please visit:https://www.reconnectiontrips.com/

For Rebbetzin Dini's YouTube channel, please visit: https://www.youtube.com/@dinicoopersmith

Contact: [email protected]

Vera Kessler (host of America's Top Rebbetzins) is a certified life coach. She specializes in transformational life coaching and accountability coaching. She is also a motivational speaker.

Vera's mission is to help women get out of survival mode and start thriving. She works with women who are committed to stepping into their own self-worth and creating the life they want to live--one that is full of joy, empowerment, meaning, and purpose.

To learn more, visit:https://innerlifecoachingwithvera.com/

You asked, Rikki Jacobson Davis answered YOUR questions on dealing with the narcissist in your life.

Rikki was originally on our podcast a few episodes ago, talking about narcissism and narcissists. If you missed that conversation, definitely check it out. Here is the link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F4Jof1QdtUQ&t=6s

In today's interview, Rikki addressed questions that she received about labeling narcissists, specifically about labelling the lens through which you see the person through their consistent dynamics and behavior.

In terms of whether or not it's possible to have a relationship with a narcissist, Rikki encourages us to take into account our emotional and physical safety (and that of our children) and also respect (does the narcissistic person in your life respect you? Do you have respect for them?) Are you able to set boundaries with this person?Emotional and physical safety, and respect are key ingredients to successful relationships.

Rikki also speaks about the role of compassion in dealing with a narcissist. She explains that compassion is a value, and values don't come in a vacuum. In other words, we should consider expense at which compassion comes. Are you having compassion for the person in order to get something from them? Is having compassion for that person compromising your safety or the safety of your children? Is having compassion for that person beneficial for them? Are they even open to receiving compassion?

Rikki emphasized that we need to get clear on our values so that we can stay true to ourselves and not lose our self identity in trying to placate or manage the narcissist.

She also discussed emotional abuse and psychological abuse, as well as gaslighting. Gaslighting is the systematic breakdown of your trust in yourself. Is the narcissist in your life trying to make you doubt yourself, your behavior, or an event that actually happened (and they say it didn't happen)? Are they constantly distorting reality? There is both intentional and unintentional gaslighting.

You can reach Rikki through her website: www.relationalresilience.com

You can also email: [email protected]

Vera Kessler (host of America's Top Rebbetzins) is a certified life coach. She specializes in transformational life coaching and accountability coaching. She is also a motivational speaker. Vera's mission is to help women get out of survival mode and start thriving. She works with women who are committed to stepping into their own self-worth and creating the life they want to live--one that is full of joy, empowerment, meaning, and purpose. To learn more, visit:https://innerlifecoachingwithvera.com/

I am NOT my struggle, I AM my LIGHT. Very powerful words from Rebbetzin Ruty David, who is renown for her relatable manner and non judgmental way of engaging. She is authentic in her passionate commitment to spread Torah values as she works with the many brides who seek her out to help prepare them for their weddings. She also focuses on energetic healing to help people shift from self-doubt to self-empowerment.

In our engaging conversation, Rebbetzin Ruty explains to us how we can find the light of Hashem inside ourselves and inside of others, including our husband.

The first thing you need to do is to realize that Hashem chose YOU to radiate YOUR light--if He hadn't chosen you, then you wouldn't be here. Once you know yourself, you know Hashem. His pure essence is inside of you.

Next, you need to understand that your TRUE ESSENCE is your LIGHT. Your soul is pure light. The darkness you experience is just the yetzer hara (the evil inclination.)

Wherever you have the greatest struggle, you have the greatest light. If you want to know where your strengths are, look at your weaknesses. If you are struggling, turn inward and listen to your intuition. Your intuition is a soft voice; it's Hashem's voice guiding you. Listen to that voice.

When things are hard for you, sit with your pain for a while. Express your pain. You can journal or write down your feelings. Then move the pain out of yourself through exercise, dance, music, or anything that moves the pain out of your psyche. You don't want to hold on to pain.

Show yourself compassion, but don't drown in self-pity. Look for your inner light. Your intuition will guide you to see your light and, therefore, your strengths. It will allow you to shift your beliefs from "I'm not good enough" to "I am a shining light of goodness." By sitting with your pain and then shifting your mindset, you give yourself compassion with boundaries--Tiferet.

Once we shift our mindset, we shift our energy. When we shift our own energy, creating a positive, loving light, others feel our energy shift, and THEIR energy also begins to shift, and they are more receptive to us. Our husband, children, family, friends, potential clients, will be drawn to us because we are radiating happiness and positivity. People want to be around light, not darkness.

Also, we need to see the light in others, including our husband. The more light we see in ourselves, the bigger that light grows inside of us. Consequently, the more light we see in others (especially our husband), the more their light grows, and the more radiant they become.

When you see the good in yourself and in others, your mind becomes accustomed to seeing the good, or looking for the good, instead of the negative. When you look for the good, you will find more good--both in yourself and in others.

You can email me at: [email protected]

Vera Kessler (host of America's Top Rebbetzins) is a certified life coach. She specializes in transformational life coaching and accountability coaching. She is also a motivational speaker. Vera's mission is to help women get out of survival mode and start thriving. She works with women who are committed to stepping into their own self-worth and creating the life they want to live--one that is full of joy, empowerment, meaning, and purpose. To learn more, visit:https://innerlifecoachingwithvera.com/