Social Media and Kids,  Being Dapper is Being Stoic - An OBVIOU5 Voice Episode 23

Parenting.   

I want to really talk about our social media, we need to educate ourselves and I know that we're growing older and parenting in that 40-year-old range right now. A lot of the social media is out there, you're not as quite in tune with it as we need to be. Whether we talking about Facebook or TikTok or Twitter or Snapchat or whatever new social media is out there right now, these are just the messaging centers where a lot of our kids are already on there and they're already sharing stuff. You need to educate yourself on where your children are, what they're posting.  

Mental Health  

This week we're talking about Blue Monday, I believe I've mentioned this in a podcast, last year, or even in a blog post something to that effect however I want to bring it back because I did some thinking about it this year. Blue Monday was something that was coined in 2004. So, 16 years ago is a long time in the mental health thought process and how we talk about mental health, and how we share about our mental health. Blue Monday is it a real thing? 

Dapper  

The rough path ahead is going to get really bumpy. We don't all have our vaccines we're still in quarantine, we're still trying to fight through the doldrums of January in a COVID era. What we need to do, being dapper is to be stoic.  

Dad Tip of the Day  

“There's always something coming, good or bad, it's going to help you grow every day”  

Take your shot - An OBVIOU5 Voice – Episode 22 

Parenting 

 Take your kids skating. I never knew how much this has brought my girls and I together.  

Mental Health  

Live in the moment. Yesterday is the past, tomorrow is a future however today is the days that we make the memories 

Giveaway 

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Dapper 

Be classy. We've got all seven Canadian teams in one division, and that means every single Canadian fan is going to be fighting against each other for 56 games. It's going to be cutthroat, it's going to be gruesome and it's going to be nasty be classy. 

Dad Tip of the Day 

“You miss 100% of the shots, you don't take” - Wayne Gretzky.  

We’re on the back nine; the plan for 2021 – An OBVIOU5 Voice Episode 21 

Welcome to episode #21 of an OBVIOU5 Voice my name is Clay Wiebe or Captain OBVIOU5.  

I will be giving away our new hat next week on the podcast so stay tuned on how you can win that, I've got a bunch coming in so I'm going to try and give one away per month for the next six months. Tune into next week's podcast and I will tell you exactly how you can get your hands on one of these beautiful new lids. 

Parenting 

We want to talk about goals for our children and how to help them set these goals up.  You don't want to set these goals, too high or too long. The biggest thing is if you set them too long, like a yearlong goal, then you may lose their interest throughout the year.   So, make these goals for your kids smaller make them achievable, and cheer on their little wins.  

Mental Health 

We've got to be more diligent with our mental health. What I want to remind everybody that struggles with depression and mental health, or if this is the first time that you're actually noticing that you may be depressed going through all of this, you need to do.  You acknowledge your feelings you recognize your feelings, then take a step back and breathe, and then we can take steps to change the course that we were on or find out why.  

Dapper 

when we go into January and we go into New Year's resolutions we go into a brand-new year and a brand-new book and it's a brand-new page and a brand-new chapter and we're all super jacked and super excited about it.  Do it for nobody else, do it for yourself, mentally you'll be more intelligent you'll feel better with your body. And that's going to help you be dapper moving forward as well.  

Dad Tip of the Day 

“Never cut a tree down in the wintertime. Never make a negative decision in a low time. Never make your worst important decisions when you were in the worst moods. Wait. Be patient. The storm will pass the spring will come.”  

Teen texts, A solo Christmas, Setting up for success, Festivus – An OBVIOU5 Voice – Episode 20 

December 23, this will be the last episode of 2020, and it's only right to end on episode 20. 

Parenting 

“kk” 

Understanding your text messages from your teens. Every generation, we all have our different lingo and the way that we say things and the way that we talk to our friends. Even more so now with texting and with this next generation. 

Mental Health 

Two sides of the story when we're talking about mental health this year with Christmas, how to survive a solo Christmas as a single dad. And there are a lot of people out there right now that are extremely happy with the restrictions. Because they don't have the stress with Christmas. 

Dapper 

Setting yourself up for success for next year. As we get rid of 2020, we know that 2021 is going to be one special year because everyone's going to be going out and pushing harder than they ever had before. Once everything is open back up, you hit the ground running and you're way ahead of everybody else. Do the steps now.  

Festivus; airing of grievances. 

This is basic, after the garbage that we've gone through, I want to talk about the stupid people during COVID.  

Dad Tip of the Day 

“Smile as often as you can. You never know what can happen tomorrow.” 

“Eat, drink and be merry, for tomorrow we die.”  - Dave Matthews Band 

Pay it Forward, Be Kind - An OBVIOU5 Voice Episode 19 

Parenting 

During these Christmas holidays, there are so many people out there right now that are in more need than others. I want to talk to you and everyone out there about how we can pay it forward. It starts with us, and it's how we can help and support our children in understanding the concept of paying it forward. 

Mental Health 

A tweet from Michael Landsberg.  “I can't tell you that you are not alone. Because I've been where you are. And those words are hollow. But I can tell you that your pain is understood your desire to retreat is understood your belief, it will never get better is understood. You are understood. #sicknotweak” 

Dapper 

During these Christmas times seeing the struggles during COVID, during these little lockdowns that were stuck in; the frontline workers whether they be nurses or police officers, whether they be people working at the grocery stores or people that are driving your delivery services, people that are standing at the counter while you're getting gas or getting milk or getting ice. These are the frontline workers that we need to be more aware of. And you being dapper in your own mind and in your approach. 

Dad Tip of the Day 

"When everything seems like an uphill struggle. Just think of the view from the top.” 

Navigating Another Lockdown - An OBVIOU5 Voice - 018 

Parenting 

Going into this situation we now know that Christmas has been basically taken off the table, going and seeing relatives going and seeing family members going and seeing parents or having siblings come and visit us, or being able to be with our loved ones which is the biggest thing that we've had to deal with over the last nine months of this COVID era we're living in. But what I wanted to mention in the parenting aspect is, how are we going to educate our kids on what's actually going on. And not only that, if we've had conversations and we've gone through the process of wearing masks of washing your hands or using the sanitizer.  When we start rolling into 2021, we start getting our vaccines, then we start moving forward because we need to do this all together so that we all can move forward.  

Mental Health 

Thinking about the mental health of the small business owners out there right now. With these lockdowns and these new precautions that are coming into play. The number of people coming into their stores is going to be very, very limited. So how can we go about helping out these mom and pop shops and these small businesses, what can we do to make sure that they make it through COVID, with their business intact, so that when all the restrictions do lift. People can start coming in again.  

Dapper 

I want you to think about taking one or two days of your week to get up, have that shower, and feel refreshed, it's going to help you get through your day as well. A lot of you have to do meetings online through zoom and FaceTime. This is a great opportunity just to get up, put some makeup on, make you feel better. Get up, have a shave. Let your face feel refreshed. Because the better you feel, the better you are going to project yourself, the better you project yourself, the better you will be in the long run.  

Dad Tip of the Day 

12 daily reminders.  

1. The past cannot be changed. 
2. Opinions don't define your reality. 
3. Everyone's journey is different. 
4. Things always get better with time. 
5. Judgments are a confession of character. 
6. Overthinking will lead to sadness. 
7. Happiness is found within. 
8. Positive thoughts create positive things. 
9. Smiles are contagious.
10. Kindness is free.
11. You only fail if you quit
12. What goes around comes around. 

Dad-splaining, My Trigger, Be Dapper - An OBVIOU5 Voice - 017 

I wanted to quickly touch base with Movember and I wanted to reach out and thank each and every one of you that have donated and sent along any of the best wishes that you did and support that you gave me. We ended up Movember at $420, and every single one of those dollars counts towards helping Men's Health. 

Parenting  

This is something with my daughter she jokes with me all the time about this, and I'm sure many of the women out there can attest to this at the same time. But I want to talk about how to help out with homework or simple conversations without dad-splaining. The joke that's actually going around with my daughter and I, she wants me to get a tattoo like a dictionary entry, where I have dad-splaining up top and then underneath it explain what dad-splaining is, which I think is actually quite cute, won't be doing that, but I think it's funny, and it's one of those things that we all do... 

Mental health.  

My trigger for my mental health and my depression comes from this month. December is a tough month for many different reasons and I don't know when it actually started for me. The amount of time that I was spending alone in the house and the amount of time that I would either be reading something or watching something or seeing something on the internet that would push me further into that depressed state and seeing kids on TV, seeing kids interact with their fathers on TV. Certain blurbs on the internet about loved ones being together... 

 Dapper. 

No matter what happens, no matter what you hear, what you read, or what you see, always be dapper. There's something that is going to set you off or put you down a path that is not very stoic, you need to take a step back, take that breath and have a thought, think about where this information came from... 

Dad Tip of the Day  

“Today's mood or emotions or thoughts, don't belong to tomorrow.” 

Anything that we're dealing with today is today's baggage. Deal with it today. Then when you wake up tomorrow it's a brand-new day, a fresh start. It's time to move forward. So, anything that's happening today all of your thoughts, your moods, your emotions, understand it, see it. Then deal with it. We'll move on to tomorrow we'll start fresh. Every day is a new day. we see the sun come up every single day. 

Movember is Ending, the Dialog Must Continue – An OBVIOIU5 Voice - Episode 16 

Quick Movember update. We are at $400 currently donated to my page. Just to give you a quick reminder of the Movember contest that I am running right now. If I can get to $1,000 donated, then I will be shaving my head. If I can get to $1,500 donated, then I will be shaving my head and roll in the snow in my boxers. If I can get to $2,000 donated, I will shave my head and I will roll in the snow in my boxers, and get my chest waxed. 

All right, so we've got five days left, five days. What we need to do is we need to make sure that we use these last five days, and we keep going, keep the conversation going. But after these five days are over. Don't stop the conversation, be that person be that advocate. Talk about mental health, talk about testicular cancer. Talk about prostate cancer. 

Parenting 

Our children learn from us. They see what we do and they mimic it. And if we do it over and over again, it becomes part of their life and their values, and the way that they develop as adults. So, we need to step up and we need to make sure that we are better role models for our children. 

Mental Health 

Today, I want to reach out to everybody that does suffer from depression, because this is your turn to turn it around and help other people, confusing as that sounds. We're going to be going into another lockdown here right away, and when we do, many people that don't suffer from depression or never have, they're going to start to feel these feelings and they have no idea how to deal with them. So, all of us that have to fight every day through this mental illness, then we need to show support to them. We need to show them that we understand.  

Dapper 

Getting into a full-fledged argument and yelling and screaming at somebody because you know what getting your argument across doesn't mean getting louder. Okay. You can't get louder, they're not going to listen, they stop listening. So why don't we have intelligent conversations adult conversations we listen to the other people's sides. We try to understand where they are coming from and what they see. And then we explain our sights. And who knows, maybe we can come to a mutual understanding. Maybe we can't. And that happens 

Dad Tip of the Day  

You are not weak, people like us. We're brave. We're the ones who get up and face our worst fears, every day. We keep fighting. Keep fighting. Be strong. Every morning that you wake up and you fight that battle. Keep fighting, because I know it's hard. I struggle. I try and put my best foot forward. We're the brave ones that fight every single day and we wake up every single day, and we move on to the next day. Every day is difficult. Don't think about next week. Don't think about Christmas. Think about tomorrow. How can we be better tomorrow. That way we can move on. 

Movember update. Currently, we are sitting at $300, so let's get that going. We've got two weeks left, we're midway point of Movember. This is the time that we need to really start to amp it up. Because two weeks into any kind of a fundraising event like this, we start to get complacent. We've heard it already for the last 14 days. And do we want to hear more about it? Yes, yes, we need to hear more about it because we need to talk about mental health. And we need to talk about men's health. 

The contest, if you hadn't heard previously, is the Movember quest $1,000. If we can make it up to that, I'm going to shave my head, $1500 I'll shave my head and roll in the snow; $2,000 then I will shave my head, roll in the snow, and get my chest waxed. Doing it all for a good cause. 

Parenting  

Letting our kids know that dreams can become reality. Helping them, propping them up, and not making them feel like it's not possible. Certain situations come into play and our children will have many, many dreams. They want to be princesses or unicorns, or sparkly sharks. The thing is, we need to help, let them understand that that's all possible in this day and age, if they want to be an NHL player, or if they want to be a YouTube star or a twitch streamer, help empower them, and let them know that the possibilities are there. If they want to be a doctor or a lawyer, or a police officer. The possibilities are there. Let's guide them.  

Mental Health 

These holidays are going to be difficult. We know that going in, this is going to be hard for so many people, it's going to be dark. But we know this going in.  So let's do things to prepare ourselves that we're not going to be able to go and see everyone and spread the Christmas cheer like we used to, we can't go to people's houses and have those cocktails and the rum and eggnogs. Because the situation that we're living in right now in this COVID area is not the same as it was last year or the year previous, or 20 years in the past. Be smarter than this. Let's just sacrifice this holiday, so that next year, we can go and see our loved ones we can be with our soul mates, we can hold our parents. We need to be smarter.  

 Dapper 

You don't know how somebody else lives unless you walk a mile in their shoes. I know. That's not the quote. So, don't hit me on that. But what I'm getting at is everybody is suffering and everybody's fighting and everybody's lost things. Yes, you didn't get to go to Mexico this year. Yes. You didn't get to play hockey in your beer league team this year. Yes, your children. are missing out on some friends' time. Everybody is suffering. There are people that haven't seen loved ones for months. There are people that have lost parents. Other people are fighting through the same thing. 

Dad Tip of the Day 

“Keep looking up, that's the secret of life” - Charlie Brown.  

As we go through our struggles for the next few days, the next month, and who knows how long, keep looking up, look to the positive. Because that's how we keep going. That's how we fight through these dark times. And that's how we climb out of our holes. Think of the positive. Hold on to it. That's the secret to life. You will get through your struggles. 

An OBVIOU5 Voice ep 14 - Movember Challenge

https://movember.com/m/claywiebe?mc=1

This year I wanted to put a bit of a challenge out there I wanted to set a three-tier challenge on what I can do to help motivate more people to send off 10 or 20 bucks because when I hit that first tier which is going to be the $1,000 threshold,  I'm going to go and shave my head. If we make it to $1500, then I will be shaving my head plus I'm going to strip down to my boxers and roll down a snowy hill.  If I can raise $2,000, I'll be shaving my head, rolling down the hill in my boxers, and I'm going to be waxing my chest.  It's gonna be interesting, setting the challenge out to you guys, setting the challenge out to myself, and trying to raise as much money as possible for Movember.

Parenting

We need to do the best we can and practice personal responsibility. And that's going to be sacrificing, sacrificing going out and seeing friends you haven't seen for a long time. The more than we can sacrifice now, the quicker we can get back to where we were a year ago.  Do the best you can. It's gonna be tough, but reach out, because we've got this amazing thing called technology. We can FaceTime we can zoom we can text, we can chat all the time.  I know it's not the physical contact that we're all used to or that we like. So as a parent, I want you to do the best that you can to try and keep the spread under control because we've got a lot of bubbles that are connecting right now so let's just try and limit those to what we can do.

Mental Health

There's another lockdown coming so you have to do the best you can to keep contact with your children, mentally, it's going to mess with you. It really starts to get the depression going again, and a lot of you have seen it, and a lot of you are just experiencing this depression for the first time, and you're really confused about what this feeling is and why you're feeling tired and down and lethargic and then all of a sudden other voices in your head saying, you should be doing this, why aren't you doing this, and you start giving yourself sh!t for not doing the things that you used to be doing. It's such a vicious circle. You just need to stop, take a breath. You need to make sure that you come back in your element, and say, Okay, I understand what's going on. Let's just stop and think about it.

Dapper

Being dapper in society means supporting your neighbours. and in this situation, if you're one of the first people out there shoveling snow. Why not hit the neighbours to the left or hit the neighbour to the right, or if you know that there's an elderly neighbour on the street. Why don't you step up and jump across the street and help them out too. It's one of those things that we can band together as a neighbourhood, especially during this lockdown. Do the best you can to help other people, because you have no idea how much it supports them, and it puts a smile on their face and it just helps them along the right path. Anytime we can help, we should step up and do that. So let's be a little more dapper with our neighbours

Dad Tip of the Day 

“You're doing great. You're stronger than you think. Don't give up.”   This is gonna be big. This is something that I forget a lot, and I know a lot of people out there forget to, but you need to remember that you're doing great. You're stronger than you think. And that's the one thing I need to keep telling myself. I'm stronger than the voices in the head telling me I am, so don't give up. Every day is a new day. You fight through today, get on to tomorrow.