And Just Like That... We Found Therapy - A Sex and the City Podcast

Dating coach Sabrina Zohar joins me to wrap up Season 3 of Sex and the City, using the tools from her new book, Why Am I Like This?

In this episode:

• How Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte and Samantha may each have learned to earn love, prove themselves or keep everything looking perfect
• “How old did that make you feel?”, the question Sabrina uses to interrupt a spiral
• A fight, flight, freeze and fawn flash round on Season 3’s biggest moments, from Aidan to the boathouse to Natasha on the stairs
• Self-regulation vs co-regulation, and why outsourcing your calm to ChatGPT might keep you in a loop
• Self-abandonment, and which dating myth each of the girls falls for (If They Wanted To, They Would, and When You Know, You Know)
• Whether Big could ever have changed, and why Samantha’s confidence may have an avoidant side
• Advice to the girls: each character’s “bullshit blueprint”, and whether Aidan could have been a corrective experience for Carrie

Sabrina Zohar is a relationship coach, host of The Sabrina Zohar Show, and author of Why Am I Like This? Break Your Relationship Patterns and Create The Life You Want, out now.
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We made it — Season 3 finale. Scarlett Plott, co-founder of Lesbian Supper Club and certified menace on a motorcycle, joins to close out the season with Cock-A-Doodle-Doo.

• Big calls Carrie after the affair, using a fake interior design crisis as a pretext for lunch
• Why "meant for you" shouldn't mean "this hard" — unpacking the Big dynamic
• Miranda draws a boundary with Carrie — was she right, and where did the delivery let her down
• The line between loving someone at their lowest and enabling them to stay there
• This episode's genuinely bad trans representation, discussed honestly
• Trey's erectile dysfunction, workshopped by a lesbian, as God intended

That's Season 3. Thank you for every single download, DM, and "this is literally my situationship" comment this season. I see all of it — and it's the only reason there's a Season 4 to make.

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Scarlett: @_scarlettjpLesbian Supper Club: @lesbiansupperclubpod

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Lora Cheadle — attorney, certified hypnotherapist, betrayal recovery expert, TEDx speaker, and host of the podcast FLAUNT — joins me to unpack Sex and the City S3E17, "What Goes Around Comes Around." It's the karma episode, and the cheating is everywhere.

In this episode:

• Charlotte's "harmless" attraction to the gardener and the baby steps that lead to crossing a line
• Why jealousy is rarely about what it looks like it's about
• Carrie and Natasha's lunch confrontation — and why Carrie made it about her
• Is relationship karma real, or is it a self-fulfilling prophecy?
• Miranda spiraling with Detective Stevens, and why she can't believe a good-looking man would want her
• Charlotte and Trey's painful conversation about separating
• Lora's own story: surviving her husband's 15-year affair, and what healing actually looked like

Find Lora:

• Her website
• FLAUNT Podcast
• Free Betrayal Recovery Guide
• Lora's Instagram Account
• YouTube channel
• Books: FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout It's Betrayal

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Charlotte almost masturbated next to her husband. Miranda went on a date with a dead man's phone. And Carrie got heckled at the Learning Annex for being unmarried. Season 3, Episode 16 is chaotic, and psychotherapist Jessica Fern is here to make sense of all of it.

Jessica Fern is a trauma expert, attachment theorist, and author of Polysecure, Polywise, and her latest, Transforming the Shame Triangle. In this episode we cover:

• The Madonna-whore complex — why it still shows up in modern marriages, even open ones
• Charlotte and Trey's bedroom dynamic, and what her lingerie scene tells us about authentic desire vs. performance
• Why women judge each other for not hitting milestones on schedule
• Whether it's ever okay to date your best friend's ex
• The scarcity trap Miranda falls into — and how to tell if you actually like someone or just like that they like you
• Where to actually meet people when the apps have broken your spirit

Guest links:🌐 Her website📚 Her learning platform📱Her IG

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What happens when kids can't wait to grow up — and adults can't stop wishing they could go back?

Season 3, Episode 15 of Sex and the City is built around one question: who gets permission to play? This week, Isabel sits down with Dr. Nicole Thompson — sex and relationship psychotherapist, founder of The Pleasure Practice, and author of the world's first academic research study on relationship anarchy — to unpack "Hot Child in the City."

In this episode:

• Trey's erectile dysfunction and its real psychological roots (spoiler: it's not physical)
• The Madonna-whore complex operating inside the MacDougal marriage
• Charlotte's hydraulic solution and why sliding a piece of paper across the table isn't vulnerability
• The Yale psychotherapist's nicknaming exercise — and what Dr. Nicole would do instead
• Charlotte's Juggs magazine intervention and the classical conditioning logic behind it
• Carrie dating a man who lives with his parents — waste of time or exactly what she needs?
• Jenny Brier's bat mitzvah and what rushed childhoods tell us about sexual repression
• Miranda's braces removal as an evolutionary fear response
• Why your capacity for play is directly connected to your sex life
• Relationship anarchy, psychedelic-assisted therapy, and neuroplasticity

Find Dr. Nicole at modernanarchypodcast.com

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The girls are still in Los Angeles, and this week Isabel is joined by Aisha Mainwaring — founder of Mane Design and Pontoon, and someone who actually grew up in LA — to break down the city's most iconic episode.

Are people in LA genuinely happier, or do the optics just look better? We get into VIP after parties, the Playboy Mansion era, fake Fendi bags in the Valley, and why Carrie's bikini wax-fuelled fling was doomed from the start. Also: Charlotte and Trey, and the question of whether you should really marry someone you've never had sex with.

Plus — Aisha's honest take on Raya, transactional friendships, and why finding a good guy in LA might require a one-way ticket out.

Find Aisha:

• Her personal IG
• Pontoon's IG and website
• Main Design's IG and website

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Can you really run from your problems — or do you just bring them with you on the plane?

This week I'm joined by Dr. Melissa Richman, psychotherapist and relationship expert based in Los Angeles, to unpack one of the most thematically rich episodes of Season 3. We're talking Trey's psychogenic erectile dysfunction (yes, we go there), why Charlotte's "fix it" energy is its own form of avoidance, and what Carrie's Hollywood escape really reveals about the stories we tell ourselves.

We also get into Miranda's mechanical bull moment — was it liberation or performance? Samantha's unexpected shame spiral when her dildo model tries to take things further. And the LA vs. New York vs. Europe question about sex, superficiality, and whether the wellness industrial complex is actually helping anyone.

Dr. Richman calls it like it is — and this conversation does not disappoint.

What we cover:

• Trey's erectile dysfunction: why it's psychogenic, not physical, and what nocturnal penile tumescence actually tells us
• The Madonna-whore complex, Bunny MacDougall, and why Trey was never really available for marriage
• Charlotte's avoidance spiral and why fixing everything kept her from facing the rejection
• Carrie escaping to LA — the difference between getting perspective and running away
• Miranda in LA: performing sexiness vs. actually inhabiting it
• Samantha's shadow self — what the Met Gala moment reveals about her real relationship with her own sexuality
• Big as a potential sex addict, and why Carrie kept going back
• The LA vs. Europe lens on sex, desire, and how much the wellness culture is smoke and mirrors
• Polyamory and open relationships: Dr. Richman's honest (and probably controversial) take

Find Dr. Melissa Richman at richmancare.com or on Instagram @drmelissarichman.

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This week we're covering Season 3, Episode 12 of Sex and the City — the one where Carrie finally tells Aiden about Big. And honestly? It's a lot.

I'm joined by Idit Sharoni, licensed marriage and family therapist, founder of Relationship Experts, and host of the podcast Relationships Uncomplicated. Idit specialises in infidelity recovery, and she brings a perspective I genuinely wasn't expecting — because the answer to "should you always tell?" is not what you think it is.

We get into:

• Whether honesty is actually always the best policy in relationships
• What it means when your partner has no idea the affair was happening — and what that says about connection
• The difference between "sufferers" and "explorers" after infidelity
• How to disclose an affair (and what Carrie absolutely got wrong about timing)
• Why women who cheat often feel more vindicated than men
• Whether Carrie ever really had a chance of making it work with Aiden
• What wanting to know every detail is really about — and when it hurts more than it helps

We also cover Miranda's disastrous speed dating lie, Charlotte and Trey's wedding night, and Samantha storming out of Vera Wang. A full episode.

Find Idit:🌐 Website: https://iditsharoni.com/💔 It's Okay To Stay (Infidelity Recovery Program): https://infidelityrecovery.iditsharoni.com/🎙️ Relationships Uncomplicated (Podcast): https://iditsharoni.com/category/podcast/📸 Instagram: @therelationshipexperts📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/iditsharonilmft▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Iditsharonicounseling

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Carrie Bradshaw is having an affair. And somehow she's the villain and the victim — often in the same scene.

This week I'm joined by Minaa B — licensed therapist and author of Owning Our Struggles — to break down Season 3, Episode 11 of Sex and the City: Running with Scissors. The one where Natasha finds out, a tooth gets chipped, and Carrie delivers the most iconic breakup line in the show's history.

We get into the guilt and pleasure duality of affairs, the gendered double standard women face when they cheat, all-or-nothing thinking and why one slip becomes a full spiral, and what Samantha's STI scare reveals about the stories we tell ourselves to feel exempt from consequences.

We also talk about how to be a good friend to someone doing something you don't agree with — without shaming them into silence or losing yourself in the process.

Find Minaa B:📖 Owning Our Struggles — available wherever books are sold🎙️ This Feels Familiar — on all podcast platforms📩 Substack: All the Hard Things📱 @minaa_b on Instagram

Welcome back to And Just Like That... We Found Therapy.

This week Donna Oriowo and I unpack Sex and the City S03E10 All or Nothing.

Carrie has Aiden, Big calling from downstairs, and absolutely no self-control. Season three, episode ten — and we are not being gentle about it.

This week I'm joined by Dr. Donna Oriowo, licensed sex and relationship therapist and author of Drink Water & Mind Your Business, whose work explores sexual shame, body politics, and what it really takes to reclaim pleasure.

We're recapping "All or Nothing" — the episode where Carrie loses Pete the dog, lies to Aidan's face, and somehow still expects us to root for her. Meanwhile Charlotte is negotiating her prenup like it's a sample sale, Samantha is sick with a broken curtain rod and a briefly broken spirit, and Miranda discovers her Chicago office situationship is not as exclusive as she thought.

Dr. Donna brings her four types of self-esteem framework to Carrie's chaos, we debate whether Big's "I'll leave my wife" speech was genuine or a performance of epic proportions, and we ask the question nobody wants to answer — does Carrie actually want Aidan, or does she just want to win?

This one got real, fast.

🎙️ Guest: Dr. Donna Oriowo

📖 Donna's New Book: Drink Water & Mind Your Business

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