And Just Like That... We Found Therapy - A Sex and the City Podcast

This week we are unpacking Season 3, Episode 9 of Sex and the City — the one where Carrie cheats on Aidan with Mr. Big — and I am joined by psychologist, attachment theory expert, and host of the Let's Get Vulnerable Podcast, Dr. Morgan Anderson.

We get into why Carrie cannot resist Big even when she has everything she says she wants with Aidan, what the affair is actually about (hint: it is not Big), why Miranda's guilt is quietly destroying her own boundaries, what Charlotte's "all righty" engagement reveals about anxious attachment and self-abandonment, and what Samantha's storyline tells us about sexual self-worth and people-pleasing in the bedroom.

Dr. Morgan also breaks down the difference between following your heart and following your attachment style, repetition compulsion, the father wound, and why awareness alone is rarely enough to break the pattern.

This episode has lived rent free in my head since I first watched it. I think it might do the same to you.

🔗 How to find Dr. Morgan Anderson

• ​Instagram
• ​Podcast (Let's Get Vulnerable)
• ​YouTube (Dr. Morgan TV)
• ​Attachment Style Quiz
• ​Empowered.Secure.Loved Program
• ​Love Magnet Program

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Flying solo this week — and honestly, fate had a hand in it.

We're breaking down S03E08 of Sex and the City, The Big Time — an episode that is essentially a 20-minute intervention for anyone currently waiting for a man to get his act together.

This week we cover:

• Carrie & Mr. Big — the radar that goes off the moment you start to move on, and why "I miss you" from a married man who shows up at your door is still a whole lot of nothing
• Miranda & Steve — when it's not a rut, it's just not working. And no, a baby won't fix it.
• Charlotte & Trey — what the research actually says about relationship timelines and how fast is too fast to call someone "the one"
• Samantha — making peace with ageing, and a storyline that is genuinely sad to watch
• The Taxi Light Theory — and why I don't buy the right person, wrong time excuse

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And Just Like That… We Found Therapy is a Sex and the City recap podcast about modern dating and relationships — with a little help from therapists, experts, and a lot of Carrie Bradshaw. New episodes every week.

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Carrie can't sleep — and the only thing wrong is that everything is right. This week Isabel is joined by Talia Koren (host of Dating Intentionally, entrepreneur, and author who went on 64 first dates so you don't have to) to unpack Sex and the City Season 3, Episode 7: Drama Queens.

They cover why security feels threatening when you're wired for chaos, how to tell the difference between settling and something that's actually healthy, Charlotte's Marriage Incorporated moment, and the bad first pancake theory of post-breakup dating. Plus- the staple - Advice to the Girls for Carrie, Charlotte, Miranda, and Samantha.

Find Talia on Instagram @datingintentionally and on her podcast Dating Intentionally wherever you listen.

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This week we're on S03E06, Are We Sluts? — and I brought in Jake Hazel, personal trainer and man of the streets of Notting Hill, to give us the male perspective.

Carrie Bradshaw is analysing Chinese takeout like it's a personality test. Miranda has chlamydia and a very awkward phone call to make. Charlotte's investment banker has a colourful vocabulary in bed. And Samantha gets expelled from her building like it's the Salem witch trials.

We get into how to self-regulate when you start dating someone new after a big heartbreak, what anxious attachment actually looks like in practice, and why a good man can feel like a red flag when you've been trained by Mr. Big.

This episode covers:

• ​Aidan taking it slow — and why Carrie can't compute it
• ​Body counts, double standards, and the maths nobody wants to do out loud
• ​Performing for the relationship timeline instead of asking what you actually want
• ​The bath scene — intimacy without agenda
• ​Anxious attachment and why kindness registers as a threat

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Are your deal breakers protecting you or are they just keeping you stuck?

This week Isabel is joined by creative strategist, cultural thinker and one of her oldest friends, Treyvone Moosa — to unpack Sex and the City S03E05, No Ifs, Ands or Butts.

We meet Aiden for the first time. Charlotte is trying to coach a bad kisser into a keeper. Carrie is sneaking cigarettes in her Dior saddle bag like a junkie. And Samantha falls for a man whose sister has very strong opinions about who her brother should date.

This episode covers:

• ​Are deal breakers protecting you or keeping you stuck?
• ​The face lick heard around the world — and what it says about entitlement over someone's body
• ​Aphelile Amadoda ("men are finished") and the lengths we go to when the bar is low
• ​Does proximity to blackness equal permission to the culture?
• ​Aiden and the cigarette — control dressed up as care
• ​Love is a room with only one chair — and someone is always standing
• ​Miranda shrinking herself for Steve, and the early signs we choose to ignore

Find Treyvone Moosa:📸 Instagram📝 Substack, check out his piece mentioned on the pod "Love is Room With Only One Chair"🍽️ Blue Table Project

And don't forget to send in your dating dilemmas to the new section: He's Not Your Mr Big.

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How okay are you really with dating someone bisexual? This week Isabel is joined by Dr. Joli Hamilton — research psychologist, TEDx speaker, polyamory advocate and host of the Playing With Fire podcast — to unpack Sex and the City S03E04, Boy, Girl, Boy, Girl.

Carrie dates someone bisexual and completely spirals. The girls serve up biphobia, bi erasure and some truly outdated takes. And Charlotte gets the closest she's ever been to her authentic self — in a suit and a fake moustache.

Dr. Joli brings her lens as a Jungian psychologist to the conversation. Jungian psychology, rooted in the work of Carl Jung, explores how we make sense of ourselves through archetypes, duality and the unconscious — including the idea that every person carries both masculine and feminine energies within them, regardless of gender. It's a framework that makes this episode land very differently when you apply it.

This episode covers:

• Is gender really an illusion?
• Biphobia, bi erasure and why "greedy" makes no sense
• Carrie's jealousy and what it's really about
• Masculine vs feminine energy — and why the internet is selling you repackaged misogyny
• What Charlotte almost figured out in drag

Find Dr. Joli Hamilton:🎙️ Playing With Fire Podcast📊 Take her quiz to check how open you are to polyamory💚 Jealousy resources📸 Check our her IG Page

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This week on And Just Like That… We Found Therapy, I’m diving into a solo breakdown of Sex and the City Season 3, Episode 3: Attack of the Five Foot Ten Woman.

When Mr. Big marries Natasha, Carrie spirals into one of the most relatable emotional traps there is: comparison.

In this episode we explore:

• Why comparing yourself to your ex’s new partner hurts so much
• The difference between expressing yourself through style and dressing to repair a wound
• How insecurity can make us turn other women into rivals
• Why Carrie’s spending spiral is really about belonging
• Charlotte’s body image struggles and learning to make peace with your body
• Miranda setting boundaries with Magda and the danger of over-explaining yourself
• Samantha’s reminder that tearing other women down never builds you up

We talk about comparison, insecurity, female rivalry, body image, and the quiet work of learning how to back yourself instead of competing with other women.

Because the truth is: another woman’s existence is not evidence of your inadequacy.

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This week on And Just Like That… We Found Therapy, I’m joined by therapist and in-house sexpert at Killing Kittens, Calandra Balfour, to unpack one of the boldest episodes of Sex and the City: Season 3, Episode 2 — Politically Erect.

Calandra Balfour is a professional Dominatrix, sex therapist, kink workshop facilitator. and owns sex shop and dungeons in Brighton, UK. With regular appearances on UK TV Channels 4 and Channel 5, Calandra has a knack for putting clients at ease with her insightful and entertaining take on sex. Check out her website.

Killing Kittens holds world-famous hedonistic events and are the ultimate adult playgrounds. Celebrating 20 years of empowerment, KK crafts unforgettable hedonistic experiences around the world, through parties, retreats, cruises and more. Step into a world of liberation, where excitement is limitless. Check out their Wax App.

In this episode, we explore:

• ​Are we attracted to power, or to the safety we think power provides?
• ​Why high-achieving men often crave sexual submission
• ​How to introduce a kink into a relationship without blowing it up
• ​The difference between compromise and self-abandonment
• ​Whether sexual fulfillment translates into confidence in leadership
• ​Why wanting what you cannot have feels intoxicating

We also discuss how power shifts inside relationships, why vulnerability can be the ultimate power move, and how clarity is often sexier than control.

Smart, spicy, psychologically layered and still wildly relevant.

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Season 3 is officially here — and we’re starting strong.

In this episode, I’m joined by the brilliant Hannah Aaron Brown to break down Sex and the City S03E01, Where There’s Smoke — the episode that asks what happens when you’re freshly heartbroken, a little lost, and suddenly back in the dating world.

From firemen fantasies to political crushes, from post-breakup paralysis to the pressure to “move on already,” we unpack what it really looks like to start again after a big love ends.

In this episode, we talk about:

✨ Why being freshly single makes even small dating moments feel overwhelming

✨ The danger of chasing fantasy instead of reality

✨ When wanting to be “rescued” actually means avoiding your own healing

✨ Why hot doesn’t always mean good — in dating or in bed

✨ Learning to enjoy dating again without turning it into pressure

✨ And how sometimes the best reset is choosing your friends, not another relationship

Hannah brings her sharp pop-culture brain, honesty, and humor to a conversation about breakups, boundaries, and why finding your way back to yourself matters more than finding the next person.

You can follow Hannah on IG and TikTok and check out her podcast Not Aspirational for more of her brilliant takes.

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This episode is the Season 2 wrap — and the start of something new.

I’m joined by Tom Flaherty, host of Rejection Rehab, for what I like to call Carrie’s Bootcamp: a full walkthrough of Sex and the City Season 2, episode by episode, through the lens of rejection, mixed signals, emotional unavailability, and why we stay when we shouldn’t.

Tom hasn’t watched a single episode of SATC — so he steps in as the brutally honest guy friend, helping me unpack Carrie’s relationship with Mr. Big in real time.

We talk about:

✨ Why sexual chemistry doesn’t guarantee emotional commitment

✨ The myth of “if I wait long enough, he’ll choose me”

✨ When effort is real vs bare minimum dressed up as romance

✨ Why consistency matters more than intensity

✨ The danger of loving potential instead of reality

✨ And the moment every Carrie has to face: “Why wasn’t it me?”

If you’ve ever romanticised inconsistency, ignored red flags, or stayed because it almost worked — this one’s for you.

You can also follow Tom and his brilliant work on Instagram at @rejectionrehab and listen to his podcast here.

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