Anecdotes by Nin

In this episode, i will be talking about how sometimes we question ourselves on why we need to be good and do good things for those who don’t value or appreciate us. Isn’t it a waste of time? Or is it in our nature to do good without getting anything in return? Do we like to take people as “projects” to fix them so we feel good about ourselves or is it to see more good in the world? Whatever that you are, be it. If you are a good person, be it, do it, even if other’s treat you poorly. Because genuine kindness is fading in this world. Don’t be bitter, be better. Don’t forget to give ratings and review on my spotify page (at the top page of my main podcast titles). And don’t forget to follow me on my social media : TikTok (Nina Khalil/@ninkhalil), Instagram : @anecdotes_by_nin . You can leave a msg or comment to me on your thoughts! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message

In this episode, i will be sharing about FOMO (fear of missing out). We live in a world where we allow society to dictate : you should be married at the age of 25, you should be a CEO at 40, you shouldn’t be a Stay at Home Mom; you should go to work. We should mute these narratives that’s been “planted” in our minds since we were kids. People nagging in our ears and shoving their beliefs & thoughts unto us. Stop it. Allow yourself to go through these phases and stages in life at your own timeline & pace! Focus on yourself to be better first and the rest will be aligned at the right time. Do not fear, missing OUT! Don’t forget to give ratings and review on my spotify page (at the top page of my main podcast titles). And don’t forget to follow me on my social media : TikTok (Nina Khalil/@ninkhalil), Instagram : @anecdotes_by_nin . You can leave a msg or comment to me on your thoughts! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message

On this episode, i will be sharing about my healing journey, my emotions journal, amongst other things i try to apply in my life. Finding ways that works for your own healing is therapeutic. It gets you in the zone similar feeling to when you’re praying. And praying makes you forget about worldly matters and focusing on your internal state & Allah SWT. Which is your ultimate healing. The definition of healing is different for everyone. For me, healing is mainly just observing yourself to see what works for YOU. Observing your thoughts, your behaviour, your triggers and most importantly, it’s applying “The Pause”. The pause will create a way for you to take a pause, take a deep breath and then figure out your next step to overcome whatever you’re going through. This will buy you time from doing or saying stupid things you might do/say at the heat of the moment when emotions run high. That you’ll regret later. Emotions come and go. Let it. We’ve all been there. I hope by me sharing all the process of my journey will help you find what works for your own healing. Do things at your pace. No one should force you to do anything that you’re not ready to do just yet. I got YOU! Don’t forget to give ratings and review on my spotify page (at the top page of my main podcast titles). And don’t forget to follow me on my social media : TikTok (Nina Khalil/@ninkhalil), Instagram : @anecdotes_by_nin . You can leave a msg or comment to me on your thoughts! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message

On this episode, i will be talking and sharing about how we shouldn’t let compliments get to our heads, and criticism get to our hearts. Treat compliments and criticism like emotions. Let them come and go. Take what’s good to make you grow and leave the bad that’s weighing you down. Moderation is key. I think we get too attached with these things to acknowledge our self worth a lot. So it’s time to separate them so we understand that compliments, criticism, emotions, our past, our mistakes, is NOT WHO WE ARE. And not to link them with who we are. Once we see things in a different perspective, our lives will change. And don’t be too hard on yourself. You’re doing your best. I got you! 🫶🏻. Don’t forget to follow my TikTok : @ninkhalil (Nina Khalil), Instagram : @anecdotes_by_nin. You can leave a msg or comment to me on your thoughts! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message

On this episode, i will be sharing on how we can learn to fight with our partners or the people we love in a more healthy manner, a different approach, a different perspective and direction. Ways to navigate a difficult conversations or disagreements. Find what works for you. What’s your intention and end goal in that fight. Finding the right partner to fight with is also important. Someone who understands that you are a team and the end goal is love and conflict resolution for better understanding not against them. Finding people who understands this concept of fighting is crucial in your relationship/marriage and for your mental health. That is why it’s best to see people how they handle conflict when they don’t get what they want, how they think and behave if it is aligned with yours. Your values etc. These will help you become better people, better partners for each other. Don’t forget to give ratings and review on my spotify page (at the top of my main podcast title). And don’t forget to follow me on my social media : TikTok (Nina Khalil), Instagram : @anecdotes_by_nin . You can leave a msg or comment to me on your thoughts! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message

On this episode, i will be sharing about how we look at our past mistakes in life especially when it comes to relationships. These romantic relationships are often what will trigger our traumas, thoughts, reactions & behaviours as it is the closest to us & affects us deeply. We often blame the ppl who have hurt us but have we actually looked at it differently? How we play a part in the break up. And what are our own toxic patterns, why we attract certain type of ppl that don’t appreciate/value us. And why we are reactive to certain situations/ppl. Ppl will treat you at the level you treat yourself. And ppl will treat you at the level they love themselves. Hurt ppl, hurt ppl. Read that again. You allowed however they treated you. Time to reflect upon mistakes into a much healthier light to be a better version of ourselves and stop blaming others for the hurt they have caused us. Ppl are ppl, let them be. Don’t try to fix them. We can stop the cycle by setting boundaries, stopping your own vicious cycle of attracting ppl who don’t appreciate or want to commit to you etc. We are an active participant and we need to be more mindful and aware of our own patterns. So that we don’t project our past pain unto others and vice versa. Show ppl how you should be treated by loving yourself and putting yourself first. Being selfish at this point, is necessary ❤️.

In this episode, i will be talking about beliefs, morals, values. How we should stand firm on our beliefs. What we were taught (practises in our religion), how we were raised, the environment we are in, what we consume, what we believe is true, knowing what is right & wrong, what is good & evil etc, all play a huge part in how we turn out to be as adults. Humanity is dying. It is up to us to create better human beings for ourselves, our future generations & for a better world.

Men & Women perceive love and emotions differently. We were raised differently in our thought process when it comes to emotion. No matter how much you disagree, it is true. Women are raised in this fairy tale of “Happily Ever After”. Beauty & The Beast, Cinderella etc. A woman connects emotionally with a man. However, a man connects differently with a woman. They connect emotionally with a woman but it takes awhile and it’s slightly different than how a woman connects emotionally. Take a listen to this episode and let me know if any of it is true (in the comment section) and if you have any thoughts 😆. You can leave a msg or comment to me on your thoughts! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message

Having a crush is fun, exciting, refreshing. But when we get infatuated with someone, it’s NOT! Especially when you are self aware. Because infatuation is not real! They’re not true feelings. It could be an obsession or might be an attachment. And it usually lasts for about 4 months or so. This is also the “honeymoon phase” where everything is exciting. You need time to understand your feelings. It fluctuates. Stop creating the character in your mind that they are perfect! Stop creating their characteristics made in your head based on your selected criteria. They’re not perfect and same goes to you. Once you like someone, take your sweet time being friends with them. Allow them to be vulnerable at their own time to see who they truly are. But before even thinking about this person or getting into a relationship, reflect, dive deep and see if you are repeating an old toxic pattern of attracting same toxic partners. If this is trauma bonding. Remember, once you do the internal work, the right ppl will gravitate towards you that’s aligned with you. Just don’t get into your head too much. Good luck! You can leave a msg or comment to me on your thoughts! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message

Forgiveness is a process. Forgive and forget. Can you? As easy as it sounds, it’s not. Not until you go through a stage/process before forgiving someone. A stage called emotional release. This is where you need to fully immerse and understand the hurt and pain you’ve suffered all these years. Acknowledge and be aware of it. Not blame but to understand. To grieve the person that was in pain and was betrayed (you). You are allowed to feel the pain and release it from your body. You may not like it, but it is necessary in order to move forward. You can’t fully forgive someone until you’ve understood the emotion that was pent up inside. Address it in a loving way. Once you’ve gone through this process, you are ready to forgive someone & fully move on from this person. The reason for doing this is that your body needs to release that pent up emotion so you can fully heal. Give yourself patience and kindness while you do so. Once done, you can forgive and move on with your life and be free from the pain. You can leave a msg or comment to me on your thoughts! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message