Anecdotes by Nin

Do you realise, that everyone we meet, will bring out different sides of us. Some bring out the worst and some bring out the best version of us. It depends on what stages/phase in life we are at. And how we perceive it.

“Leave traces of you in ways they’ll think of you.

Leave memories that can be cherished that only you can create.

Leave words that will be planted for them to grow in the most beautiful ways.

Leave in peace, knowing that YOU are in everyone you meet”.

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How do you want to be loved? What is love to you? What makes you feel loved, seen and heard? In this episode i will be sharing about our love languages and how each of us give and receive love differently. And how loving yourself, isn’t necessarily as easy as it sounds. It takes commitment and consistent work. Start observing yourself, what triggers you, your patterns in relationships & how to self soothe without attaching yourself with others. You can leave a msg or comment to me on your thoughts! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message

In this modern world of social media that focuses on status, glitz & glam, power and materialistic things, we tend to get fixated into thinking that it’s never enough. We are never enough. We need more and we need what others have. When in reality, what you need is already in you. Rather than focusing on what’s going on around you and what others have, focus on what’s going on in your internal world and what you already have. Definition of happiness determines on how you look at things. And it differs with everyone else. So why are we too fixated in what others have? You can leave a msg or comment to me on your thoughts! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message

Do you know what your personality type is? It reveals how you function in your thoughts and behaviour and how you interact with others. How it relates to your life. In a way, it helps in understanding yourself more. Google : personality test, and answer those questions as honest as you can. From there, you’ll understand why you act or think a certain way. You can leave a msg or comment to me! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message

Do you look at your parents in a different light as you grow older? When we were kids, we’d view them as parents/caregivers, not really as someone who had to go through life and raise their kids & family, while being aware & caring for their mental health. That’s alot for someone to take in. Especially for young married couple and new parents. Once you go through that phase, will you only see them in that way. In a way that you had to go through. So do we still want to blame them for causing traumas or not being good parents? I think they did their best at the state they were in & emotional maturity they were at when they raised us. Once we actually go through it then we can understand what they went through. Value them that they fought for you, to raise you and care for you when in reality, they might be going through alot of stress and pressure.

For this topic, i will be talking about boundaries, and how to have them. Boundaries are different for everyone. First of all, you need to know what yours is. What’s your love language, what’s your attachment style, what’s your trigger and how you want ppl to treat you. I did something that i’m proud of this week. I stood by my boundary and i didn’t neglect myself how i used to. Healing can be a lonely journey and ppl will most probably leave you and hate you for setting those boundaries because they won’t get that “people pleaser” version of you anymore. But do what it takes to protect your mental health and well being, even when they think you’re mean. Do whatever it takes not to ever abandon yourself and your boundaries. Your inner child will thank you for standing up for her. Know that YOU matter most. Protect yourself how you would protect and defend a friend. For life ❤️. You can leave a msg or comment to me! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message

For this episode, i will be reading and replying feedback/comments from my lovely listeners! Based on previous topics. Thank you for writing in ❤️. Appreciate the support!

Are you having a difficult time letting go of the past and wondering what went wrong to that relationship/marriage/job opportunity/friendship? If you had done it differently? Replaying conversations just to see what went wrong? Stop. Breathe. Let Go and Let God. Time to stop seeking outward and look inward. What is it that you need, emotionally? What makes you feel safe and happy in a relationship? Does that person makes you feel seen and heard and if they are good for your mental health? Most of the time it’s not them, it’s you. There’s something missing in you that is seeking validation from others. Some inner child wound that needs attention. Once you let go of the past, things and people that are weighing you down, you will then see the potential and opportunities that life has to offer. Work on yourself. You will then see amazing people that are aligned with your energy, good opportunities that you never see coming. Be open to possibilities & good things for you and think about YOU, for once. You deserve it. Letting go is easy when you’re healing ✨.

On this episode, i celebrate my birthday and my presence for the very first time. How many of us, as we grow older, we tend to shy away or not celebrate our birthdays? Simply because we are stuck in life, we don’t feel like celebrating etc. This year, i’m celebrating the small wins, the little & big hurdles in life that i’ve overcome, the grateful things in life that i overlook because i was busy looking at the problems instead. I’m celebrating & embracing the person that i am. The person that i’ve become. You should celebrate your birthdays as well and celebrate your presence. Because you are perfect the way that you are and you should love everything about you. It all starts with you. Be kind and gentle with yourself ❤️. Celebrate yourself and celebrate your life ❤️. You can leave a msg or comment to me! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message

In this episode, i will be talking and sharing about my grieving process. We all grieve and mourn in different ways. Some take months, some years and some never fully heal from the pain. How you deal and heal from it, is yours. There are at least 5 stages & emotions associated with grief. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Feeling this way is natural and even necessary. These emotions are steps to your healing journey and there’s no order to them. But what’s important is that you feel whatever that you’re feeling and it is valid. Find ways to cope your day to day live while grieving. And seek professional help when necessary. This is your process. Heal well ❤️. Drop me a private message to share with me your healing process if you like. Click on the link for you to record and send me a message : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message . Follow my instagram page : @anecdotes_by_nin . Thanks for the love ❤️.