Animus Air

00:00 – why recurring fights happen
1:00 – how you put pressure on the problem
2:10 – the neediness sweet spot
2:55 – the healthy need that goes unmet
3:40 – the way out
9:50 – different complaint, same psychology
10:45 – remove your self-worth from the problem
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00:00 – Enmeshment is the veil

1:30 – an old pattern

2:30 – go to church

4:20 – apologize

6:30 – face time with women

8:50 – go through red pill

11:40 – the narcissistic mother

00:00 – Freud and Jung, more similar than different

1:15 – how Freud and Jung differ

5:25 – mind and body

8:00 – false dichotomies

9:15 – mechanism vs teleology

10:50 – conceptual fragmentation

12:00 – the missing link

14:45 – what it looks like

00:00 – real change
1:10 – you’re built to move
3:35 – freezing up around women
4:40 – advice is demeaning
6:40 – two kinds of bad advice
9:20 – no pain, no gain

00:00 – trauma is a physical phenomenon
1:45 – research criticism
3:00 – a confounding variable
4:45 – modern therapy vs insight
6:15 – insight affects physiology
7:30 – Van der Kolk's response
8:00 – context matters
8:45 – who keeps the score?

00:00 – there’s no mental illness definition
2:45 – critique current definition
6:15 – medicine is a legitimate field
8:00 – law is a legitimate field
9:15 – why therapy exists
11:40 – emotions
12:40 – decisions
14:30 – the two emotions
16:30 – mental illness pattern
19:15 – mental illness definition
22:40 – science is the handmaiden
24:15 – growth will still be painful

00:00 – The truth is not enough
1:15 – How truth becomes resentment
2:00 – it's a mother issue
3:00 – "feminism has ruined women"
5:00 – disclaimer
5:30 – "women are hypergamous"
7:00 – "women test men"
8:40 – "masculinity is criticized"
10:15 – "sexual market value"
12:15 – takeaway
14:15 – sexual politics

00:00 – what is therapy speak.
2:45 – therapy-speak guy’s main problem
3:00 – modern therapy causes therapy speak
5:15 – no clarity = no growth
6:15 – attributes of therapy-speak guy
9:30 – Gabor Mate
10:15 – Internal Family Systems
11:00 – Alok Kanojia
11:45 – Jordan Peterson
12:15 – Jonathan Shedler
13:45 – the way out of being therapy-speak guy
17:30 – be normal

00:00 – Two wrong ways to communicate
2:00 – The right way to communicate
3:00 – Question from a viewer who's feeling jealous
3:45 – Growth begins with communication
6:30 – Whiteboard
11:30 – The communication of jealousy
12:45 – Own the jealousy
15:00 – Communication is practical
17:00 – Normal = alpha