Another Great Mistake

Niko found peace and a way of improving his mental health. Klaudia finds nature fascinating and energising. We're both excited about foraging more this year and getting closer to mother nature but in a completely different way. Obviously, we're not planning to live from the land. We need stuff from shops, but if there's a way of being more sustainable by just looking around the closest meadow, woody cycle path or rocky beach, why not try?

Some people are simply afraid of getting poisoned by eating the wrong plant. And there are genuinely poisonous plants, and if you want to learn how to forage, buy books, learn from someone and be observant. Even more in the case of mushrooms and berries! And if you don't feel like it, trust me, by just walking in woods, meadows, and mountain paths regularly, you will be soooo much kinder to your brain and your entire body! Don't put on earphones and put down your phone. Just walk or sit and rest but be there 100%. Breathe and observe, touch trees, and listen to the sounds of nature, smell the moss or soil. A therapy for free!

Nature is healthy. Nature can be a cure. And it's not some magic but chemistry, biology - science in a complete form.

As always, we love you!

With kindness,

Niko and Klaudia

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Books and research mentioned in the episode:

"Be More Human: How to Transform Your Lifestyle for Optimum Health, Happiness and Vitality" by Tony Riddle

"The Wilderness Cure" by Mo Wilde

"Shinrin-Yoku: The Art and Science of Forest Bathing" -  Dr Qing Li "Chronic psychic stress can cause metabolic syndrome through mild hypercapnia" - Andras Sikter

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If you're struggling with your mental health, please get in touch with your loved ones, GP or mental health professionals.

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Hello hello! 

In this episode, we discussed some of Klaudia's key reasons why and how we should allow ourselves to be wrong, learn more and be open to the idea of questioning more often. You can do all of this by being more humble and sometimes trying to ask different questions. 

In Adam Grant's book "Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't Know" there is a lot about the idea of 4 modes of thinking: Preacher, prosecutor, politician and finally, scientist. When we preach, we try to convince someone by showing how right we are and giving reasons. When we prosecute, we try to prove that someone is wrong. In both cases, we assume that we are right. Finally, when we go into the politician's mode, we can say whatever the other person wants to hear, but we won't change our minds. 

On the other hand, there's the scientist mode, where you're curious and proud to discover that you were wrong because that's a sign of progress. 

What else do we have here? The question "how" and "why". Each of us has our own 'why'. We have an opinion and a justification, but it's very subjective. So we start to ask "how," we think about practicality. We extend the thinking with realistic elements and a plan. What does this do? It makes us think objectively. In my opinion, combining the two lets, you encourage yourself and others to create new ideas and make things happen because they know why they want to do it. 

We end with a conversation about the fact that you, or anyone else, can't see your true face. Because whenever you see your face in photographs, in the mirror or even when you see other people's faces, it has already been processed by your brain, where you store your experiences, prejudices and traumas. 

We really hope you like it. Especially Klaudia. Let us know what you think! 

As always, we love you! 

With kindness,

Niko and Klaudia

Books mentioned in the episode: 

"Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't Know" by Adam Grant 

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Some of us have a deep need to support other people. We thrive and flourish when we help others to do the same. But, on the other hand, we get frustrated, sad and disappointed when we see people not taking the opportunity to be better, to try differently. And yet, is it possible for all of us to move forward and improve ourselves? 

Today's episode is about achievement, goal setting and the truth about the effectiveness of the whole list of tools and ways of self-development. You'll have a chance to find out how Niko's life experience is part of his career in the 3rd sector and how to be at peace with the fact that you can't save everyone. Finally, we discuss what lies behind SMART goals and why we should add the mysterious "C" to this acronym. 

Listen to the end to discover where you can find freedom and why kindness is the way. 

As always, we love you. Be kind to yourself and others.

Niko & Klaudia 

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Books mentioned in the episode: 

"Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't Know" by Adam Grant 

"Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones" by James Clear

"The Laws of Human Nature" by Robert Greene

"The Creative Act: A Way of Being" by Rick Rubin

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Seneca said:

What does this mean for us? Start doing today what you love, what you feel you should do, what you have dreamed of doing. Not tomorrow, not next week, not next month. Today.

A spontaneous conversation about the changes in life that living today brings. Self-awareness, self-care, the ability to respond to the needs of your body and mind, and a sense of moving forward.

As usual, a few detours for Klaudia, recent readings and a few Polish words here and there, from the depths of my mind and brain, in search of the most interesting!

As always, we love you. Be kind to yourself and others.

Niko & Klaudia 

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Have you ever thought about the difference between how our brain works and how this beautiful part of our body changes how we feel, think, behave,  deal with everyday stuff and create relationships? 

Neurodivergence is a non-medical term for a broad spectrum of variations in how people's brains function. It includes autism (Autism Spectrum Disorder - ASD - although Niko doesn't like the "disorder" in this name, so we're not using it), dyspraxia, ADHD or ASC, among many others. 

In this episode, we explore differences in the way the autistic brain of Niko and the neurotypical Klaudia's brain function. We talk about daily routines, habits, honesty and childhood. A big part of the conversation focuses on adjusting yourself to fit into the group and how alien this idea sounds to Niko. At 41, Niko discovered that people change depending on the context of the situation, their group, and the hidden need behind specific interactions. Guess what? During the episode, he discovered another difference! So definitely worth listening to the end! 

This episode is full of twists and turns. Started with a quick chat about the cost of living crisis and finished with a little bit of advice about emotional self-support advice and a powerful message that we all have 10,000 shots. 

Join us as we dive deeper into the fascinating tops of understanding, acceptance, and unique perspective of neuro-diversified life! 

As always, we love you. Be kind to yourself and others.

Niko & Klaudia 

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Books mentioned in the episode:

"The Upside of Uncertainty: A Guide to Finding Possibility in the Unknown" by Nathan Furr and Susannah Harmon Furr

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Are you worried? Does uncertainty dominate your emotions or even your life?

Anxiety comes from many sources and has different causes and roots. Worrying about the future of your family, your career, your project at work, the consequences of your choices - is typical for all of us. Today we're going to talk about our journey through fear and uncertainty. A lot of deep diving into Niko's achievement and a big introspective, public analysis of the causes of the uncertainty in Klaudia's life. 

Listen for some tools we both found useful and an incredible story about building a foundation of multiple uncertainties (personal, professional and intellectual) in your life. 

As always, we love you. Be kind to yourself and others.

Niko & Klaudia 

In our episode, we mention fantastic Ryan Holiday and his Daily Stoic https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eytNiPy0xg0

Check Ryan's wisdom and his page www.dailystoic.com and a great book about which you will still hear few words: The "Upside of Uncertainty: A Guide to Finding Possibility in the Unknown" by Nathan Furr and Susannah Harmon Furr

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Did you know that in 2020 there was 110 000 research publication with the keyword "social media"???!!! That number is growing with every passing month, and what's scary, to a large extent, we're starting to realise that online life is not so healthy.


Social media has become an integral part of our lives. Every aspect of our life is bonded to social media. From daily communication to the whole process of buying and selling -product reviews, opinions, social selling to community, entertainment and work life. We're living in an omni-social world. 


Today we present our take on social media, the sense of community and belonging, and the good and bad sides of online life. A conversation which is full of in-the-moment revelations, flow and contradicting feelings. 


In September 2022, Niko took a year's break from Facebook and Instagram. Not an easy decision considering that books will not sell themselves, although it was needed. Klaudia is linked with this due to her work and degree, but she started to withdraw slowly, bit by bit. Why? 

Social media created a sense of community, a source of information and inspiration. Gave us access to the wonders of an entire world. Yet, with it came the whole world of other people's lives, their richness, problems and versions of lives they want us to see, social pressure and constant feelings of need and want. At some point, social media stopped being social and became advertising and influencing platforms. 

What's next? Which direction we're going? What about VR, metaverse? 

What's your opinion?

As always, we love you! Be kind to yourself and others! 

Klaudia & Niko

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Getting back to a romantic relationship, dating and the whole complicated love life after ending a long-term relationship is ekhm.. hard? Awkward? Not so romantic, after all?

Have you ever been asked an awkward question during a date? Or maybe you're the author of the lamest pick-up line like Klaudia?

Today's episode is about creating a new romantic relationship after you've just closed a chapter behind you (or you're in the process). So what is ahead of a person who needs to start dating again after years on one partner's side? What if you have kids?

We go through the importance of therapy after a past relationship and during forming of a new one. We bring our own experience and two research papers.

Ready for loads of laughter, emotions and a fantastic exercise we recommend for couples learning how to communicate in new relationships.

As always, we love you! Be kind to yourself and others!

Niko and Klaudia 

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Research links:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8169131/

https://www.mdpi.com/2076-0760/10/11/431

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In this episode, we're talking about our feelings about 2022 and plans for 2023. Questioning the idea of New Year's Resolutions and looking into our thoughts, fears and worries when looking at 2023. As Layne Norton said in Andrew Humeberman Lab (Klaudia's favourite podcast - Niko jokingly calls K.- Mrs Huberman (no offence, Andrew, but this lassie is mine), why wait for New Year, discard the last days of 2022 if they're good enough to achieve small things? We touch on Forward Motion and creating new habits.

If you're like one of us, not sure what are the plans and goals for 2023, or maybe instead of an intention for 2023, you're filled with worries (let's be honest last two years were a bitch...), then you're not alone. Start with small steps, and keep going even if you fail on the first approach! 

 We discussed plans and what we would like to focus on in the next twelve months. 

As usual, we love you! With kindness,

Niko and Klaudia 

There is no "one size fits all" cure for depression or other mental health issues. Today's episode was born from Nikos' struggle to stay above to surface of sadness.

Today we talk about the actual image of depression, the stigma of help-seeking, mental health support in the UK and the struggle of the NHS to help people. We touch upon the positive effect of nature on mental health and the difficulties people face when supporting those with depression, anxiety and other mental health issues.

Years of therapy, different medication, various tools, a healthy lifestyle, amazing kids and a partner, and dream-come-true friends, yet there's still so much pain and unhappiness inside. Unfortunately, that is a daily struggle of millions of people worldwide.

Research on the impact of CO2 on stress, anxiety, panic disorder

"Chronic psychic stress can cause metabolic syndrome through mild hypercapnia"

If you're struggling with your mental health, please reach out to your loved ones, GP or mental health professionals.

Call 116 123 to talk to Samaritans, or email: [email protected]

You can call the National Suicide Prevention Helpline UK on 0800 689 5652

If you would prefer not to talk but want some mental health support, you could text SHOUT to 85258