Ever gone from “I love this” to “burn it all down” because of one tiny mistake?
Same.
In this episode of Anyway, I Have ADHD, Han gets into rage quitting, sensory overload, and why the ADHD brain can treat mild frustration like a full-blown emergency.
We’re talking about the time she shut down an entire candle business after one spectacularly bad night, crochet projects unravelled into oblivion over microscopic mistakes, and the much less funny side of overwhelm: when noise gets so intense your nervous system reacts before your brain has caught up.
The interesting bit? Those reactions can feel the same while coming from completely different places.
One is a fuel problem. The reward has disappeared, the task feels pointless, and your brain wants out.
The other is a flood problem. Too much noise, too much input, too much everything, and your nervous system has hit capacity.
Same “I cannot handle this” feeling. Very different fix.
In this episode
Why frustration can make ADHD brains more likely to quit
Reward sensitivity and the disappearing “keep going” signal
Why tiny mistakes can derail entire projects
ADHD sensory processing and noise sensitivity
Why rage can sometimes begin as overload
The shame that can hit straight after
Fuel problems vs flood problems
What your brain may actually need in the moment
This week’s one thing
When you hit the “I cannot do this anymore” point, ask:
Is this a fuel problem or a flood problem?
If it’s fuel, shrink the task, change it up, or add an immediate reward.
If it’s flood, reduce the input. Step away, put headphones in, find thirty seconds of quiet, whatever lowers the volume.
Two different problems. Two very different fixes.
Research referenced
Seymour, Macatee & Chronis-Tuscano (2019), Frustration Tolerance in Youth With ADHD, Journal of Attention DisordersPlichta & Scheres (2014), reward anticipation and ventral-striatal activation in ADHD, Neuroscience & Biobehavioral Reviews
Tripp & Wickens (2008), dopamine transfer deficit theory, Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry
Benarous et al. (2020), sensory processing difficulties in ADHD-related populations, Frontiers in Psychiatry
Bijlenga et al. (2017), atypical sensory profiles in adult ADHD, European PsychiatryLane & Reynolds (2019), sensory over-responsivity in ADHD, Frontiers in Integrative Neuroscience
Research around masking and later diagnosis in women with ADHD reflects a broader body of literature rather than one single paper.
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