YES! A BIG YES!
I know my best friend (guy) for 10 years now and we have been best friends for 4 years and neither of us has or will fall for the other one.
We love each other immensely but not in a quintessential lovey-dovey kind of way.
We absolutely won’t ever fall in love with each other contrary to what our friends think and keep saying. Everyone who knows us think that there’s something wrong between us and if not, somewhere in the near future, definately will be. But both of us know that what we feel for each other is more than love.
A relationship might just end someday. but our friendship. WONT.
There’s some sort of transparency in our friendship. We never hide anything from each other. He studies in a different city but that never comes in between our bond. Infact, if anything, we’re only closer. Everytime he comes home, I pick him up from the airport and we travel the odd 20 miles home together. For some people, it might be a waste of time. Travelling all the way to just pick him and come back. But I’d do anything to see his first smile while emerging from the airport. How he runs and hugs me as if we are meeting after years. I’d travel 100 miles for it. Even when he is in another city, we make it a point to call each other once in two days and skype once a week for sure.
We laugh, cry, tease, smile, play pranks, study, travel, eat and do everything imaginable.
Even though we are in different fields and study absoluetely opposite stuff, he makes me do his assignments :P Since I have early morning lectures, he even makes me his alarm clock :P
There are hundred of stuff to say and stories to share. We complete each others sentences (literally) and we know that the other person is sad just with a “Hi” Everytime we meet it’s a blasssst!
We love each others company.
We love our friendship.
We love how we make the world crazy.
And we love each other. But just as friends. And hope to keep it the same.
There is something special about a boy girl friendship. My closest friends have always been girls. One thing I’ve noticed is that they are very understanding. You can have fun with your guy friends but if you are down or want to share something deep your bros might sometimes not get it. Now coming to the question.
As you said it is quite common for them to get into a relationship because they are friends before and they have a deep understanding of each other.
I have a friend who is best friend’s with a girl. I asked him as to why he does’t ask her out. He told me :
“ I find a great companion in her. We joke around and have fun, at the same time we are always there for each other. If I ask her out I know she would say yes, but if she says no then things are going to get awkward. I don’t want to lose a great friend.”
It is pretty understandable and it is also not necessary your best friend has to become your boy/girl friend, we cannot expect everything from a relationship.
So Can a boy and girl be best friends without falling for each other?
Pretty much no. The most beautiful phase of the friendship is when it is above friendship and below love. Love would definitely cross their minds. There is nothing wrong in that, naturally it is bound to happen. They must be mature enough to think it through because once you get into a relationship, you just cannot go back to being friends. That’s the sad truth. You got to gamble and its a pretty big one. Some are mature enough to understand that they cannot risk their friendship. The relationship would last if they still remain as best friends sharing everything with each other.