Rae Katx and I talk every Friday.
We say it’s to give writing feedback but it’s mostly just an excuse to hang and catch up.
Interesting, how connecting with one of your best friends at such a frequency only seems possible — allowed, even — under the auspices of ‘work.’
This fact seems somehow a perfect segue to the conversation we had last week.
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When overachievers have kids
We decided to record this convo after Rae’s feedback on an early draft of my essay My son, the two year old soccer prodigy, which boiled down to ‘Alex, you know that not every parent is this competitive about their kid.’
No I did not know that. I’m still not sure I do. In this convo we discuss that feedback and:
* how we each deal with the feeling of wanting your kid to the best one.
* or, even worse, knowing that your kid is the best at literally whatever activity they are doing and being frustrated that neither the kid nor anyone else is able to see it.
* how all of this will only get harder as our two-year-old kids…get older.
* the absurd need to always apologize for your kid when they do anything ‘wrong’ in public
And I even try to connect ideas from Finite and Infinite Games into the world of parenting!
A lil background
We’ve been friends for fifteen years, bonded by a ridiculous long-standing joke, a niche type of OCD (fun!), and a shared interest in cutting to the core of big questions. This longstanding connection is particularly special to us because of our radically different styles, which are on display in our respective newsletters Inner Workingsand .
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