Are people who care about you having to work around your flesh? Are you having to work around other people's flesh? Nabal, Abigail's husband is the definition of a flesh workaround. Abigail understood Godly submission is to God and HIs Will first, and then to the leadership over us. If someone in leadership makes disastrous mistakes and we do nothing because we are "submitting," we are in trouble because we see the problem and do nothing.