. Welcome everybody to the first episode of the Asian American entrepreneur podcast in this. Episode, we're going to be facing two brutal truths that every Asian American entrepreneur probably has to face in their journey.
And it's better that you face it sooner than that later. make the mistakes that I did, where you spin your wheels for five or more years, years, trying to get a business off the ground. trying. Different things, tactically learning about business, learning about markets, learning how to create a product, how to market it, but not facing the core issue, which is your own internal beliefs that actually self sabotage you and hold you back.
And this is not some sort of like a woo law of attraction kind of thing. Although I am totally into that. And definitely we'll talk about that in future podcasts. This is very real. This is very practical and, I've. I've gone back and forth. I've fluctuated in my career, either, , go and just hardcore, , materialistic, I gotta push myself harder.
I gotta grind harder. , just learn more and that's why I'm failing two going the other way, where it's like, okay, I need to meditate more and, and visualize success. And I found that the most successful path is actually somewhere in between where, you need both of those portions. You need to be working in the real world.
But if you don't have that backing of the vision, and if you don't have the internal beliefs handled, you're not going to get very far. And that's actually what led me to my biggest breakthrough is, is handling that. So these two fundamental truths. Are the drivers for everything. And actually, if you handle these internal beliefs, you can learn the tactical stuff.
You have to learn the tactical stuff on the outside, but, that'll come a lot easier. You'll be motivated. and you'll have this kind of internal compass that, that finds your true North and drives you forward. So, you will have to learn more, this, this won't necessarily take care of the entire journey.
For you, it's not like you can sit around in your house and visualize, and the next day have a thriving business, but the action you take is more effortless. And on autopilot, when you start with the fundamentals, the principle number one is .
Your income and success will always directly correlate with your sense of self worth. Always, always, always. There are no exceptions to this. This is a principle taught by Brian, Tracy. at least he articulates it this way. It's actually a fundamental rule that every successful person operates by whether or not they're conscious of it.
And, and your self worth is, is not always in your conscious mind. This is a deep, internally, held belief that you might not even be aware of, but it comes from programming. Mostly that's installed in us by. External forces in the world as we're growing up. And as Asian Americans, you know, we have these life experiences that are not always positive.
we deal with certain experiences such as bullying, feeling like alien in this country, that really mess with our sense of self worth and that those we hold onto whether or not we bury them, whether or not we think we move on from them, they still color. Everything, as we operate in our, in our adult lives.
And the second factor within that is what happens in our own homes. And this is something that a lot of us don't really want to face. Cause yes, there are larger societal issues and structural issues about American society, which is an important conversation, and that definitely needs to occur. But right now I'm talking about getting your own house in order and taking control of your own life, because frankly you owe it to yourself.
what we don't always talk about is the damage that takes place in our own homes with our parents who give us these disempowering police. And we all know, the memes about Asian parents and how, nothing we do is ever enough. And. That stuff. We laugh about it.
Cause we have to, I mean, that's, that's how we deal with pain. It, it, it really it's, it's so profoundly stunts our growth in the worst possible way for an entrepreneur, who has to, you know, believe in themselves and drive be driven completely internally without the validation of others. And we just don't know how to do that.
We're so cut off from that. Because of the negative conditioning that our parents give us. And this isn't about blaming them. at no point do I want, that to be the, the, the focus of what I talk about here they are, parents were the victims. Of their own culture from their parents before them as well.
And this is a long held ancestral cycle that repeats itself. But you and I today, we're going to take a stand and we're going to break the chains and we're not going to pass this on to the future generations. And in turn, we're actually going to free our ancestors from their burdens by breaking the cycle from once and for all,
the number two that the second biggest lesson is, It's authentic self expression. It's something that we need to be to reconnect with. If we're going to succeed as entrepreneurs and, and authentic self expression of something that that's crushed. So early on, especially for Asian American kids, you know, for me, it was always, my mother, my father wasn't emotionally present.
He was working and, I had a very close relationship with my mother, but it was a very. Codependent relationship where I felt like I was responsible for her feelings. And I was taught through that relationship to always please others. And to think about what others thought of me, you know, we talk about shame culture and, the perception that we're putting forward, not just to our parents, but their friends and families and meeting their expectations.
And through that, we actually lose the connection with our. Own internal, intuition and guidance. And by doing that, we're always communicating in a way that looks for validation from others. And the subtext comes through in everything we do. And it'll, it'll sabotage. Every entrepreneurial venture that you go on and you'll always feel like an imposter deep down, because you're not really guided from an internal sense of, , goals, motivations.
It's always pleasing others. It's always, your end goal is always just to be a success in the eyes for others. And that's actually not going to work. Those are the two things I want to talk about in today's episode, we're going to keep it real short. hope you subscribe. we're going to talk a lot about these issues going forward. We're gonna have some guests and, I'll talk about my own story and how I overcame these, to go on, to be a success , And we'll learn from others who did the same and, would love to hear from you as well as any listeners who might want to come on and talk about your own unique story and how you overcame these mental barriers to unlock your own entrepreneurial success.
I'd love to hear from you. So number one, your income and successful. Always directly correlate with your sense of self worth. And number two, if you're not expressing yourself authentically, you will fail. , so how do we improve our sense of self worth and start communicating authentically? We'll get into that in future episodes. Thanks guys. Take it easy.
