What if a healthy relationship feels...boring? And what if that feeling is more about healing than about settling?

In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener who worries that leaving behind the high-intensity rollercoaster of toxic relationships will mean giving up excitement and passion.

Angela explores:

• Why toxic relationships feel thrilling—and why healthy ones can seem flat by comparison
• How emotional intensity can mask unresolved trauma
• Why healing your nervous system can change what “excitement” feels like
• How to re-sensitize yourself to the subtler joys of real connection
• What it means to move from surviving chaos to living fully in stability
• How healthy love opens the door to deeper, more lasting adventures

If you’ve ever questioned whether healthy relationships are "enough," or feared losing the spark when you leave behind old patterns, this episode offers a fresh, honest, and hopeful perspective.

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✫ Because love after trauma takes a different kind of wisdom—and you don’t have to figure it out alone.

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Episode Title: Doing what brings me joy makes my partner uncomfortable

Description: What do you do when your partner doesn't approve of something you love? How do you stay true to yourself—and your art—without feeling like you're betraying the relationship?

In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener whose husband struggles with her lifelong passion for burlesque dancing. Although he insists he supports her, his visible discomfort leaves her feeling like she's doing something wrong by pursuing what she loves.

Angela explores:

• The difference between true betrayal and uncomfortable growth

• How inner conflicts in partners can show up in mixed signals

• Why early conversations in relationships don’t always predict future realities

• How to hold onto yourself while navigating a partner’s shifting emotions

• The importance of growing with your partner, not shrinking to make them comfortable

If you’ve ever struggled with guilt around pursuing what lights you up—or wondered how to honor your joy while staying connected to your partner—this episode offers honest, grounded guidance for walking that delicate line.

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Because love after trauma takes a different kind of wisdom—and you don’t have to figure it out alone.

Episode Title: How do I say I’m not ready to live together?

Description: What do you do when your partner is ready to move in together—and you're not? How do you communicate your needs without causing harm, and what role does past trauma play in shaping your readiness for deeper commitment?

In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener who feels pressured to move in with his girlfriend, even though he's still healing from the grief of losing a previous partner.

Angela explores:

• How conflicting trauma histories show up in intimate relationships
• Why moving slowly can be an act of care, not avoidance
• How to express your boundaries around major steps like living together
• Why disappointment is a natural—and survivable—part of healthy relationships
• The importance of choosing what (and how much) to share about past trauma
• How emotional honesty builds stronger, more resilient connections

If you’re navigating mismatched timelines in your relationship—or wondering how to talk about your trauma history without feeling exposed—this episode offers gentle, trauma-informed guidance for finding your way forward.

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✫ Because love after trauma takes a different kind of wisdom—and you don’t have to figure it out alone.

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