Ask Anita Astley

Most of my time in therapy is spent helping people work through the "he said, she said, they said bullsh#t" of relationships to get to the core issues.  However, before we can even begin to "explore the relational  field", we need to take ONE crucial step, a step that CANNOT be skipped or avoided if our goal is to building healthy relationships with other people. Tune in and learn how you can turn your relationships around by taking simple basic steps in your life. 

It is the most widely asked question from my male patients and followers! “Help, Anita, I don’t know what women want anymore! Please tell me what they want?  Your a women”. I hear this all the time. Well fellas here is a top ten list of what I believe women are seeking in relationships. It’s complied from my years in therapy and from speaking to friends, family members, and polling followers on Instagram and Facebook and other research. Yes, I realize it’s not a “ scientific study per se” but could be part of one based on my sources. And stay tuned as I share men’s top ten list of what they are seeking in relationships next week.  I bet there will be a great over lap between the two. Enjoy, 

Many relationships experience a great deal of turbulence, sometimes leading to break ups because NEEDS &  EXPECTATIONS are not clear nor ever discussed. Learn how to turn your relationships around by following some basic steps. We have to walk before we can run. 

By now most of us just want COVID-19 to be gone. If only it were that easy! Its like the unwelcomed guest that stayed for ever!  We are saturated with information regarding its affects on our physical healthy and mitigating  those risks which is important. However, we have yet to hear much of what it continues to do to us emotionally. Tune in and learn about how it affects  our emotions and our sense of security. 

Intimacy breeds conflict and conflict makes people run in the opposite direction and remain stuck  in destructive  negative feedback loops.  It doesn't have to be that way friends. Tune in and learn to deal with conflict in a healthy manner by following my "Table it" strategy. 

Covid 19 has reeked  havoc on relational boundaries and has over stayed its welcome. We went from having too little time together to have way too much time together as couples and families.  Tune in and and learn how to "work and play" with  others during COVID 19.  Apply some of these simple techniques to lesson some of the stress and anxiety in your household and in your relationships. 

Oh the times they are changing and yes change is positive,  healthy, and normal however we need to stick to some basics in life. The art of " verbal communication" is getting communicate with each other. Don't get me wrong, I love technology but some things need to we just need to keep in our tool box. Listen in and learn "HOW" to improve your relationships with just a few  simple steps. 

Learn how to break free from this very "destructive relational dance" with a few basic steps. Sometimes by changing the most simplest of things, one can can give life to the process of change that is needed to build a healthy relationship with one self and others.

In and out of session, I have been surrounded by people complaining about their weight; I am too fat, can’t lose weight, it’s so hard, too many events going on, it’s not a good time etc. I get it however these are all excuses. The frustration and struggle is REAL however we have the power to turn it around! We have to STOP COMPLAINING and START DOING  for positive results.

In this episode Anita Astley defines and discusses the process of projection and outlines  how it interferes with personal growth and  compromises all types of relationships; platonic, romantic, familial, and peer to name a few. She provides simple tips to help you become aware of your own your "shit"
 ( your projections ) and “reject” other people’s attempt to dump their “shit” ( their projections ) on to you.

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