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What if the most confident, authoritative, fully-expressed version of you isn't something you have to become... it's something you already are?

In this episode of Ask Chardee, I'm joined by the incredible Dr. Shalando Jones PhD in communication, public speaking coach, university professor, and author of The Heart of Public Speaking for a conversation that is going to change how you think about identity, confidence, and showing up.

We're talking about alter egos.

Not faking it until you make it. Not putting on a costume and pretending. Something far more powerful than that.

An alter ego is conditioning. It's developing the characteristics already inside you and giving them permission to show up.

Dr. Jones breaks down exactly how to create one, how to name it (she introduces us to her own alter ego, the iconic Scarlett Noir 🖤), and why this simple, underutilised tool might be the missing piece in how you step into your next level.

This one is a treat. I promise.

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In this episode:

• What "alter ego" actually means and why you're already using one without realising it
• The three-step process for creating an alter ego that actually works
• Why an alter ego is completely different from "faking it until you make it"
• How to name your alter ego and why the name matters more than you think
• Meet Scarlett Noir: Dr. Jones's own alter ego and the story behind her
• How Chardee's alter ego "Bonnie" got retired (and why that matters)
• Where to find Dr. Jones and her book The Heart of Public Speaking

📌 Reminder

• Dr. Jones's book: The Heart of Public Speaking
• YouTube: @speechcoach.shalando
• Instagram: @speechcoach.shalando
• TikTok: @speechcoach.shalando

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You've been told your future is built by ambition. By how hard you work. By how big you dream.

But what if that's not actually true?

In this episode of Ask Chardee, we're opening June with a truth that might be the most important reframe you hear all year:

Your standards... not your goals... are creating your future. Right now. Every single day.

We're talking about the five areas of your life where your current standards are already determining what comes next: your relationships, your health, your business, your environment, and your emotional life.

And we're getting honest about the gap between the future you say you want, and the standards you're actually living by.

If your life isn't matching your ambition, this episode will show you exactly why, and what to do about it.

This is the life your standards create. Let's talk about it.

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A lot of people imagine growth as something dramatic.

A breakthrough.A big leap.A visible shift.A moment where everything changes.

But real growth rarely feels like that.

More often, sustainable growth looks quieter than people expect:less chaos, clearer decisions, better standards, stronger boundaries, and a life that feels more stable at a higher level.

In this episode of Ask Chardee Podcast, we explore what sustainable growth actually feels like, and why calm, steadiness, and emotional regulation are often signs that you’ve grown more than you realise.

This conversation challenges the idea that growth has to feel intense or exciting to be real. It offers a more mature and grounded way to recognise progress, especially if your nervous system has been conditioned to equate chaos with movement.

If you’ve ever felt like things are “too quiet” and wondered whether you’re doing enough, this episode will help you see stability for what it really is: growth that lasts.

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Growth is exciting in the beginning.

Momentum builds. Possibilities expand. Things start moving.

But what often gets overlooked is what happens after growth begins.

Because expansion is not just about creating movement... it’s about protecting what you’re building once it starts to grow.

In this episode of Ask Chardee Podcast, we explore why standards are one of the most underrated forms of self-leadership. This conversation unpacks why desire and motivation alone are not enough to sustain growth, and why healthy standards around your time, energy, recovery, and boundaries are what allow expansion to feel safe, supported, and sustainable.

If growth has started to feel chaotic, heavy, or harder than it should, this episode offers a grounded way to protect what matters without losing yourself in the process.

Because expansion is not sustained by desire.

It’s protected by standards.

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Growth isn’t just about getting more.

It’s about becoming someone who can hold more without losing yourself in the process.

More success, visibility, responsibility, opportunities.

These things are often seen as the goal... but when they arrive, they can also bring pressure, fear, overwhelm, and the resurfacing of old coping patterns.

In this episode of Ask Chardee Podcast, we explore the emotional and nervous system side of expansion. This conversation unpacks why growth can feel unsettling even when it’s what you wanted, why “more” often magnifies what’s already there, and what it actually takes to build the internal capacity to hold more well.

If you’ve ever wanted more in your life or business but felt afraid of what it might cost you, this episode offers a grounded and compassionate way to think about sustainable expansion.

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Growth is often misunderstood as accumulation.

More offers.More visibility.More goals.More effort.

But over time, “more” can quietly become pressure.

In this episode of Ask Chardee Podcast, we explore why real expansion doesn’t always come from adding more and why sustainable growth often requires subtraction, refinement, and support instead.

This conversation challenges the idea that growth has to feel heavy or complicated. It explores the hidden cost of overextension, why more without structure creates overwhelm, and how simplifying what already exists can create more clarity, capacity, and long-term momentum.

If growth has started to feel like pressure instead of possibility, this episode offers a more grounded and sustainable way forward.

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Most people think they need more motivation.
They don’t.

In this episode, I break down what actually creates sustainable performance, and what I look at immediately when working with high performers.

We cover:– why effort isn’t the problem– the structural breakdowns that cause inconsistency– the hidden patterns that quietly interfere with execution

If you’ve been doing “everything right” but it’s not holding, this will show you why... and what actually changes it.

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Vision rarely disappears because it was wrong.

More often, it disappears because the timeline is longer than we expected.

In the early stages of building something meaningful, clarity and enthusiasm come easily. But eventually every vision reaches a quieter phase, the space where progress becomes gradual, results are less visible, and patience becomes essential.

In this episode of Ask Chardee Podcast, we explore what it actually takes to hold vision when results take time. When your work is anchored in identity and supported by consistent effort, vision becomes something that develops and matures rather than something that needs constant validation.

This conversation closes the April series by connecting the themes of identity, story, and consistency with the endurance required to build something lasting.

Because meaningful work rarely happens overnight.

Vision survives through patience.

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Authority isn’t claimed.
It’s accumulated.

In a world where people are constantly searching for the next strategy, authority is often misunderstood as something that can be created quickly through positioning or visibility.

But real authority forms differently.

It develops over time as people observe patterns... the way you think, the standards you hold, and the consistency with which you show up in your work.

In this episode of Ask Chardee Podcast, we explore why consistency is one of the most powerful forces behind credibility and trust. When your ideas, perspective, and presence appear repeatedly over time, your work begins to develop depth and depth is what people ultimately trust.

This conversation explores how identity, story, and consistency work together to build authority slowly and sustainably.

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One of the biggest misunderstandings about storytelling in business is that it’s simply a marketing tool.

But storytelling, when done well, isn’t marketing.
It’s positioning.

Your story gives context to your perspective. It helps people understand the experiences that shaped your decisions, your leadership style, and the work you care about most.

In this week’s episode of Ask Chardee Podcast, I’m joined by Ro from ROC Studio to explore why story plays such an important role in business. We talk about how identity becomes visible through story, and why sharing the journey behind your work allows people to connect with more than just the outcome.

Because in the end, people don’t buy strategies.
They understand people through story.

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