In this episode, I respond to a question from an anonymous listener who writes:

“I’m dating someone new and they’re great, but I keep waiting for something to go wrong. How do I stop sabotaging what feels good?”

We unpack the fear of being seen, loved, and safe — especially when past pain makes “good” feel unfamiliar or even threatening. Inside this episode, we’ll talk about:

• Why your nervous system might interpret calm and connection as danger
• How shame and past hurt quietly drive self-sabotage
• What to say to yourself (and your partner) when fear creeps in
• How to build safety without abandoning your growth

If you’ve ever found yourself pulling away from something good — even when you want to lean in — this episode is for you.

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