In this episode, I respond to a question from an anonymous listener who writes:

“I’ve made so many decisions based on what I thought I ‘should’ do. I’m trying to live by my values now, but I feel lost. Where do I even start?”

We explore the messy, brave, and often disorienting process of untangling your identity from the “shoulds” you've inherited — and beginning the work of living by your own values. Inside this episode, we’ll talk about:

• How shame shapes our early decision-making
• The grief and confusion that can surface when we stop performing and start aligning
• How to identify your values when you’ve lost touch with them
• Practical ways to rebuild a life that feels like your own

If you’ve ever felt like you built a life that looks good on paper but doesn’t feel like you — this episode is for you.

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💬 Letting go of “should” is not failure — it’s freedom. Start where you are. Build from what matters.

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