In this episode, I respond to a question from an anonymous listener who writes:

“I’m trying to be better about setting boundaries in relationships, but sometimes I feel like I’m just being controlling. How do I know the difference?”

We explore the intersection of shame, fear, and self-trust — and how the tension between control and boundaries often reveals our deepest fears about being too much or not enough. Inside this episode, we’ll talk about:

• The difference between boundaries that protect and control that restricts
• How shame can make healthy self-protection feel selfish or wrong
• What to ask yourself when you’re unsure if you’re setting a boundary or managing someone else’s behavior
• Practical ways to hold limits with compassion instead of guilt

If you’ve ever second-guessed yourself after setting a boundary — or worried that self-protection might make you unlovable — this episode will help you separate care from control and start building boundaries that honor your needs and your relationships.

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