In this episode, I respond to a question from an anonymous listener who writes:

“Why do I lose interest as soon as someone actually likes me or treats me well? I say I want a healthy relationship, but every time I find someone good for me, I get bored or start pulling away.”

We explore the intersection of shame, safety, and desire — and how the nervous system often mistakes calm for disconnection. Inside this episode, we’ll talk about:

• Why we confuse intensity with intimacy
• How childhood experiences shape our attraction patterns
• The role of shame and control in choosing familiar pain
• How to retrain your brain and body to feel safe in healthy love

If you’ve ever pulled away from someone kind and wondered why peace feels uncomfortable, this episode will help you understand the psychology behind attraction, release shame, and start building connection from curiosity instead of fear.

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