The Holidays between Thanksgiving and New Year historically is a period of increased mental health episodes of depression, anxiety, and PTSD. While pre holiday preparation or coaching on how to survive the Holidays is one avenue. Another avenue is to understand the WHY of mental health episodes during this time and having alternative options for the holidays like volunteering, vacation, or a friendsgiving.

Deborah Shanley recently shared on surviving sexual violence from her Dad from ages 12-19 and how impacted her relationship both with her faith who was religious Christian and family. Deborah is not alone. Women are severely depressed, Sui ci dal, experiencing PMDD, PTSD, etc because of this trauma. We cannot sugarcoat that and sweep it under a rug with cute affirmations. We have a tremendous problem with sexual violence against girls in their families and religious community. If you gone talk about Mental Health and Women, start here. Holidays are nothing but gut wrenching reliving of family trauma. #BeHonest

Related episode; Lust/Eyegate and the Road it Leads to.

Askotkimberly took a trip down memory lane in Minnesota. She reflects on old friendship and volunteer relationships centered on 1) emotional labor or trauma bonding, or 2) physical labor of giving with the hope of gaining something back.

Managing the Intergenerational Workspace: Boomers

A frustrated neurologist said, "Here, take this. I don't know what else to give you." The journey to migraine freedom and modern f o o d b a n s in the EU.

How do you know that this one is the one, and not a counterfeit?

Have you seen the viral Persian wedding party of the groom dancing with his bride while locking eyes with a helper lady (both smirking after disengaging). Fellow male attenders laughing in the background at the invisible gestures.

Matthew 5:28-29 tells us that anyone who looks at a woman with lust has committed adultery with her in the heart.

This episode we talk about the spirit of lust and generational sins (of open doors, sexual perversion, murder) through the life of King David in 2 Samuel 13 and Healing prayer for strong foundations pre-marriage without the roots of lust. Characters discussed (trigger warning): King David (adultery, murder), Tamar (rape), Abaslom (incest), Jonadab (perverted imagination, wicked company/family), and Amnon(contempt, murder).

God was gracious enough to break us but not crush us. What does that mean? God was gracious enough to not destroy us in our wickedness but instead allow us to live the consequences of the free will choices we made for years or decades, and NOT rescue us. New believers or converts to the faith often believe that just belief in God alone will result in rescuing from our free will choices that harm us or instant prosperity. Not so. God is not a genie but a loving God as Jackie Hill Perry shared that would not allow us to die eternally in our sin. 1 Corinthians 1:18

Can you hear me God? Extended Edition. This episode AskOTkimberly shares what she learned from the Healing Rooms Prayer ministry on blocks to prayer.

Culture tells us we can do it: "10 steps to snag a man", "Hire that job coach to secure the bag", "Act like Sarah and Abraham to get the child", and much more. In each case, God was bypassed to get the "Want".

Circumstances were manipulated via payment, unlawful options (Hagar), or presentation (positioning self in places to be seen, seducing attire). This is usurping God. Today we learn about modern-day methods to get what we want and not what God has ordained.

Did you catch the Love, Dating, and Marriage Tour with Pastor Mildred and Kingsley? Nigerian based Pastor/Counselor and First Lady shared dating/pre-marriage pearls for those seeking Biblical marriage. This episode AskOTkimberly shares on the two things that daters MUST take off the table to ensure success.