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Do you ever feel like you’re the only one trying to fix your marriage?
You’re reading the books, listening to podcasts, showing up differently—and your spouse? They’re just going about life as if everything’s fine.

It’s one of the loneliest and most discouraging places to be. You start to wonder if there’s any point in all your effort.

In this week’s episode of the AwakenYou in Your Marriage Podcast, I share my own story of being in that exact place—of over-functioning, trying to manage my husband’s growth, and burning myself out in the process.

When I finally turned the focus back on myself, something shifted. I learned how to love without losing myself, to hand the steering wheel over to God, and to trust that my work mattered even when I couldn’t see change happening yet.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to love your spouse without losing yourself in the process.
• Why one person’s growth can shift an entire marriage dynamic.
• How to hold onto faith and hope when your spouse isn’t ready to do the work.
• Why healthy boundaries are essential to stay strong and connected.
• And the freeing truth that your worth and peace don’t depend on your partner’s participation.

Whether your spouse is indifferent, skeptical, or simply unaware, there is a way forward. The change you’re creating in yourself isn’t wasted—it’s the beginning of something new.

If this message encourages you, please take a moment to leave a review for the podcast—it helps other couples find hope when they’re feeling alone.
And if you know someone who’s quietly doing the work on their own, share this episode with them. It might be exactly what they need to hear today.

And if you’re ready to take your next step, I’d love to invite you to book a Courageous Love Conversation—a free call where we can talk about what’s happening in your marriage and how you can begin creating change, even if you feel like you’re doing it alone.

You’re not powerless. You’re the spark.
And sometimes, all it takes is one brave person to go first.

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If you've ever caught yourself thinking, “This isn’t what I imagined it would be,” about your marriage then this is for you!
Maybe you’ve felt the spark fade, the connection slip, or the weight of distance between you grow heavier as time goes on.

If so, this week’s episode of the AwakenYou in Your Marriage Podcast is especially for you.

In Episode 236, “Falling in Love with the Same Person—As the New You,” I talk about what happens when we stop trying to fix our spouse and start focusing on the inner work of healing and growth.

Because falling back in love doesn’t start with your partner—it starts with you.

When you take responsibility for your emotions, begin to heal old wounds, and learn to love yourself with compassion, your marriage starts to shift. You show up differently—less reactive, more open, more curious. You start seeing your spouse through fresh eyes, not as someone who needs to change for you to be happy, but as a person you can love again from a place of freedom and authenticity.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How personal growth reshapes love and changes the emotional dynamic in your marriage.
• Why understanding and embracing your own behaviors without guilt or shame is the key to change.
• How to rewrite the story of your relationship together, one small moment at a time.
• What it means to practice differentiation—loving your spouse without losing yourself.
• And how to start falling back in love with your spouse by becoming a more authentic version of you.

I also share a personal story about a season in my own marriage when I realized things weren’t what I thought they were. It was the moment I decided to “face the giant”—to finally seek the help I knew I needed but had been avoiding out of fear and shame.
That decision led to a journey of healing my past and rediscovering who I truly was. As I learned to treat myself with compassion and show up more authentically, our marriage began to transform.

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If you’ve ever asked yourself, “How do we start feeling close again?” — this week’s episode of the AwakenYou in Your Marriage Podcast is for you.

We often think falling back in love takes something big: a grand romantic gesture, a perfect date night, or our spouse suddenly changing. But true connection rarely starts that way.

In Episode 235, “Tiny Sparks: Reigniting Emotional Connection,” I share how love begins to grow again through the smallest moments—a kind word, a gentle glance, a quiet act of appreciation—and how those moments become the spark that reignites emotional intimacy in marriage.

But there’s something even deeper: these sparks begin within you.

To create lasting connection, you first have to do your inner work—learning who you are, what you value, and how to have a compassionate relationship with yourself. Because when you know yourself and care for yourself well, you show up differently in your marriage. You bring safety, authenticity, and openness that naturally draw your spouse closer.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What emotional connection truly is (and what it isn’t).
• How inner work helps you build a deeper relationship with yourself and your spouse.
• Practical ways to create small sparks of connection every day.
• What to expect when you start this process—it’s not instant, but it’s powerful.

If this message encourages you, would you take a moment to leave a review for the podcast? Reviews help other couples find the hope and tools they need to reconnect and fall back in love.

And if you’re ready to explore what it might look like to reignite emotional connection in your own marriage, I invite you to book a Courageous Love Conversation with me. It’s not a commitment—just a safe space to explore what’s possible when you have someone walking alongside you.

Love can grow again—one spark at a time.

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If you’re wondering how to rebuild love after years of disconnection, this episode of the AwakenYou in Your Marriage Podcast will encourage you.

Many husbands and wives quietly ask, “Is it possible to fall back in love after feeling so distant?” The truth is more hopeful than you might think.

In Episode 234, “Can You Really Fall Back in Love?”, I share one woman’s real-life journey of rebuilding connection in her marriage—not a fairy tale, but an honest process of growth and healing.

You’ll learn:

• Emotional shifts that help you stay calm and connected during conflict.
• Psychological shifts that turn tension into opportunities for growth instead of failure.
• Spiritual shifts that invite God to restore and strengthen your marriage.

You’ll also discover why emotional safety—feeling seen, heard, and safe with your spouse—is the secret ingredient to lasting love.

If this episode encourages you, please leave a review and share it with a friend who wants to reconnect in marriage. Your support helps more couples find the hope and practical tools they need to fall back in love again.

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Have you ever whispered the words to yourself: “I don’t feel in love anymore”?

It’s a thought that can feel frightening, even shameful—like you’re the only one carrying it. But the truth is, almost every couple will walk through seasons where love feels distant.

In this week’s episode of the AwakenYou in Your Marriage Podcast, I’m starting a brand-new series: Falling Back in Love. And in Episode 1, I’m talking about The Truth About Falling Out of Love.

Here’s what you’ll discover in this episode:

• Why the “spark” naturally fades in long-term relationships (and why that doesn’t mean you married the wrong person).
• The biggest myths about falling out of love that keep couples stuck in hopelessness.
• What it really means when love feels distant—and why it’s a crossroads, not a dead end.
• How to begin shifting your perspective so you can open the door to falling back in love.

If you’ve been carrying the weight of disconnection, I want you to know you’re not broken, and your marriage isn’t beyond repair. This could be the beginning of something more beautiful than you’ve ever imagined.

And if this episode encourages you, would you take a moment to leave a review on Apple Podcasts and share it with a friend who needs hope today? Your voice helps more couples find the courage to begin their own journey back to love.

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When you hear the word “betrayal,” you probably think of infidelity. But there’s another kind of betrayal that can wound just as deeply, and often goes unnamed: emotional betrayal.

It happens when your spouse turns away instead of toward you… when the trust that they’ll be emotionally safe with you gets broken. Sometimes it looks like confiding in someone else instead of you. Sometimes it’s dismissing your feelings, withholding vulnerability, or creating secrecy around outside friendships.

The effects? You might start doubting yourself, you might close yourself off to them, and even start wondering if you’re too needy, or feeling abandoned in the very relationship that’s supposed to feel safest.

The good news: emotional betrayal doesn’t have to be the end of the story. Naming it is the first step toward healing.

🎧 In this week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I share:

• What emotional betrayal is (and isn’t)
• Common ways it shows up in marriage (including opposite-sex friendships)
• The impact it has on the partner experiencing it
• How to begin addressing and healing from it—both individually and together

If you’ve ever felt unseen, dismissed, or left out of your spouse’s inner world, this episode will help you put words to your experience and show you a path forward.

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Have you ever noticed how some of your biggest arguments seem to happen on the weekends? Everything feels fine during the week, then Saturday comes—and suddenly you’re at each other’s throats over something small.

You’re not alone. This happens to so many couples, and there’s a reason why.

During the week, we’re busy and distracted. Little annoyances get pushed aside, but they don’t disappear—they quietly pile up. By the weekend, your spouse is around more, reminding you of those unresolved frustrations. Add more time and proximity, and it becomes the perfect recipe for triggers.

The good news? You can prevent this.

In this week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I’m sharing how a simple 20-minute weekly marriage meetingcan clear out the emotional “gunk” before it builds into a blowup. You’ll learn:

• Why these weekend fights aren’t random—and how to stop them before they start.
• A simple framework for a short weekly reset that actually works.
• How daily two-minute check-ins (one of the tools I’ll be teaching in my upcoming Adventures In Marriage course) can keep you connected during busy weeks.

Imagine heading into your weekend already aligned, connected, and clear on what you both need—not bracing yourself for another argument. That’s what this reset can do.

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Do you ever look back and wonder… what happened to the romance?

When you were dating, it seemed so natural—the late-night talks, the thoughtful gestures, the spark of being pursued. But somewhere along the way, after the relationship felt secure, life got busy. Careers, kids, and responsibilities took over, and the pursuit faded.

And with it, sometimes desire will fade too.

This week on AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I’m sharing the final bonus episode of my sex series: “What Happened to the Romance?” We’ll unpack:

• Why romance feels so effortless during dating but fades after marriage
• How cultural and gender assumptions fuel disconnection
• Simple, powerful ways to rekindle pursuit and spark desire again

I’ll also share some exciting news about my newest certification as an Adventures in Marriage instructor—because sometimes the bravest thing we can do is start a courageous conversation and get someone on our team to help us find the way forward.

If you’ve been feeling the distance, this episode is for you. Press play on your drive home, during your workout, or while you fold the laundry—you’ll walk away with both clarity and hope.

And if this series has been meaningful, would you take a minute to leave a review? It helps other couples who are searching for hope to find this podcast.

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One of the quietest but most painful dynamics I hear from women is this: “He says he wants sex… but he never actually asks.”

It leaves you feeling invisible, unwanted, and confused. And for him? Silence can feel safer than facing rejection, insecurity, or the shame that often hides beneath the surface.

In my latest bonus episode, “He’s Not Asking—Now What?” I explore what might really be happening when your spouse longs for intimacy but doesn’t initiate. We’ll look at:

• Why silence often feels safer than asking
• How years of “learned dynamics” can quietly create disconnection
• The role insecurity and shame play in holding him back
• How to start courageous conversations that open the door to honesty and reconnection

This episode will help you see the silence in a new light—not as a dead end, but as an invitation to understanding and deeper intimacy.

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Have you ever wondered why sex seemed so natural in the beginning, but now feels complicated—or even avoided?

For many couples, sex was the hook that brought them together.

• For her, giving herself felt like the way to keep his attention.
• For him, receiving her felt like proof that he was wanted.

It worked—at least for a while. But over time, that script creates a painful standoff: she pulls back, weary of obligation, knowing that this type of intimacy doesn't feel right, while he feels rejected, confused, and wondering what changed. 

Jeff and I lived this story. I realized I was using sex to keep him interested, and when I stopped, my desire plummeted because it was based on lies. I asked him to start initiating, but what I didn’t know was how insecure he felt doing that. What was meant to bring us closer created a chasm between us.

In this week’s bonus episode, When Sex Was the Hook, I share our journey of untangling this pattern—and how couples can move toward a more honest, holistic intimacy.

If this episode resonates, I’d love for you to share it with a friend or leave a review. It’s one of the most powerful ways to help more couples find hope in their own journey.

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