It's all about women dressing.

Love is blind as they say, but I say love is not blind. We humans just decide to turn a blind eye to some important things in our relationship. Red flags would have been showcasing and drifting but we claim to be in love and act as blind to it also claim to change our partner after marriage! The question is "Would it change after marriage?" What I take or opine to be a red flag in my relationship might not be a red flag for you. I don't club nor take alcohol if I meet someone who's into all sorts that means it's a red flag for me! Anyways... I took my time to discuss this in my latest podcast called #Redflags take your time to listen to it. Finally, don't die in silence .... If it's not working walk away. What you think would change after marriage might actually grow beyond your control if not controlled at the foundation stage.

Marriage is not a do or die affairs. Relationship is not by force

Ladies find it so difficult to express themselves to the man they love, thinking such a man would take advantage of them! Before you confess your love think about it twice! Ask yourself if he's matured enough to handle it. I expressed myself to my crush and it ends well. I'm happy I did it!

"She has been a great partner since we met, we live in the same neighborhood and always pass by. We started dating not up to two months and I told my mother about her and said she likes her and claimed the lady has always been on her best behavior ever since she knew her. Just last week my mum said my girlfriend doesn't greet her well enough! Oh, someone I just told you about and nothing like formal introduction has ever taken place. What am I to do or say? I told my girlfriend to be greeting my mum very well anytime she passes by, she was surprised and say she has always been doing that which I also know. I don't want anything to come between my girl and me and the same with my mum. I love and respect them both!" My advice is to maintain a good relationship with both of them, let your mum knows your relationship has never been legalized, and it's obvious the lady is on her best character as she claimed herself. Tell your girlfriend to do more, try harder, because if it's her mum that complained of the same thing she would definitely adjust and she shouldn't see your mum as a weasel or enemy from now. The mother-in-law should calm down, it's too early for those allegations. A relationship of barely two months. What do you think?

Dating involves two persons, there's a need to define your relationship for you to know your stand. Don't get served breakfast all the time! Red flags are obvious. If you're not ready for marriage stay away from dating someone whos ready! Don't play with people's emotions and feelings, it hurts. Let your intentions be clear to your partner. If you want to have a fun look for someone you're both ready for fun and not a serious relationship. Some date men because of money and material gifts, and some men date ladies just to satisfy their sexual urges. It's left to you to determine and define your relationship to avoid wasting your time chasing shadows.

It's about a beautiful lady who has been dating a man for years and believes sex can hold the man because she never denied him sex. She always satisfies him. The question is when you're not married while courting does it mean your body belongs to your man? Can't you say NO!? Satisfying a man you're not married to makes a harlot. The guy broke up with the lady when he said he's not ready for any commitments. She thought of suicide but was saved by friends. This is a lesson to all ladies turning prostitutes in the name of displaying wife material. Learn to say No! Your body is yours until you're married.

I was just 23 when I married my husband. Love is blind as they do claim but Love is not blind. We humans decided to turn a blind eye to some vital things in the name of LOVE.

We never bothered to know our genotype neither our blood group.

After two years, we were blessed with a son which became our source of sorrow.

We started spending and spending on his health, he was a sickle cell as we were told by the doctor.

We never knew our Genotype!

And never care to know before marriage.

We are both AS,

Had it been we had known we would have quit the LOVE.

Had it been we had known we would have done the needful than birthing him for pain and suffering.

We lost him after a while,

We thought we could cope with it but NO,

We believe LOVE is enough for everything but I must say we realized a lot in marriage as a lot unfolds when we never expect.

We divorced and each of us had to start a new life!

It hurts.

Don't birth that child for suffering.

It's not only about you!

Think of that generation coming from you.

You need to know your Genotype and Blood Group.

Do the needful before it ends with tears.

Never say YES without confirming your compatibility.

Today's Gist 🥰

Can you allow your parents to choose your future partner for you?

My parents are always not in support of my relationship.

There's a girl I love so much, I introduced her to my parent they said No!

I continued with her, we had our first child but gave up the ghost! The second child... Died after birth!

The lady left me 😥 I met another charming woman, we started well but my parent said No again!

I met her parents, we continued but different calamities from different angles, every day!

She decided to leave as well, my parents mocked me, saying they warned me but I didn't take heed.

I regretted everything! Almost 10years revolving around the same thing! Nothing to write about achievement neither family love.

Something happened later and I confronted my parents... Guess what?

..................

I regret following my Mum's words.

It happened, she became pregnant but it was a toxic relationship.

I wanted her to be my baby mama... Because I have a lady I love deeply.

But my mum said I must marry her! I broke up with the love of my life and married my baby mama, then life became miserable. No peace at home! I always want to stay outside than my home!

She nag! Threatens and never appreciates.

I wish I married whom I loved and found joy and peace in, but it seems too late!

I just want to quit! Start all over, Divorce her and never allow someone to tell me who to marry or be with!

But guess what... Life is complicated! What works for A might brings downfall to B!

Have you ever had issues with your mother-in-law or father-in-law?

Can you quit if your parents are against your relationship?

What's the assurance that if your parents choose for you, there won't be any problem?

Independence Day in Nigeria.

Should we continue to celebrate Nigeria?

Why are we celebrating Nigeria?

Are we Celebrating Nigeria or Nigerian?

I love my fatherland ❤️,

I pledge to Nigeria my country,

to be faithful loyal, and honest.

To serve Nigeria with all my strength, to defend our unity and uphold our honor and glory,

So help God.

Are we working with this oath?

We complain about everything without doing anything!

Two wrongs can not make a right!

We made Nigeria what it is today,

why can't you fix your fault?!

Why blame the government for everything?

A graduate that can not writes and compose a good Cv, how's that the fault of the government?

Job seekers supersede job creators!

We worship money in this country! Who has no money is not successful! That's why money ritual is rampant! Kidnapping too!

Corruption is not just happening with our government but with all of us! Corruption and embezzling are flowing in our blood!

We don't want to work for anything! We want everything to happen within a twinkle of an eye.

Should we only focus on crude oil as a source of revenue for Nigeria?

What do you gain in cursing your dear country?

I'm not telling you to agree to my mindset but letting you know what the future would look like if we continue this way!

Change your mindset, nothing good will happen if we don't adjust from ourselves!

Who can we make a leader in Nigeria? The Imam that embezzles the mosque offering? Or the pastor that builds his house with church tithes or

You that was made a group leader and ran away with little contribution from people? Who?

Nigeria shall be great! Nigeria will be great!

I love you my dear country.

Happy Independence Day Nigeria.

Nigeria @61.